Feeling let down

[RoarsomeMum]

Sorry if this is in wrong thread :(

I got a + Opk Thursday night and was so looking forward to BD all weekend.. instead DH and I just fought...
He went out Fri night, due back at 10.30.. did not turn up untill 3am...

I know he just wanted to be with his mates and have a good night out.. I am all for that.. In fact I think its pretty important.

I guess I am just hurt that we missed a month.... Am i being selfish???
:confused:

[shelle65]

Oh, Em :hugs: :hugs: it is disappointing when you miss a month. You are not being selfish, particularly if DH said he would be back at a certain time and was 5 hours late. Did he at least call you to tell you he would be late? I would think lots of guys would make sure they were home on time if they were promised a weekend-long BD session.

:hugs: again, and good luck for next month! :fingerscrossed:

[RoarsomeMum]

Thanks for :hugs: I really needed that..
No he did'nt call.. I know what you mean about "most guys" and BD :)
Ususally my man would be there too.. I was/am so hurt...
When I asked him why he diddn't call, he said, he was just being a Jerk..
I asked it was TTC, was it too much preassure..
He said no, he just wanted to be selfish...
He also said he still loves me, still wants to have a baby, but just stuffed up..
I want to belive him, but am still sooooo angry and hurt...
and left wondering am i being a selfish Cow, or am I being a fool??
Thanks for understanding my babble..

[abeckaj]

I don't think you're being selfish and i know exactly how you feel.

I have one of those rare DH who isn't really interested in BDing EVER let alone when we are TTC. He just doesn't seem to understand (no matter how many time i explain!) that there is really only one chance a month to catch the egg. I tell him i'm Oing and that always seems to be the days he's "tired" or "sick".

Oh well you just have to trust that (as every single person i speak to tells me) "it will happen when its meant to happen!"

Good luck

[niknax]

Thanks for :hugs: I really needed that..
No he did'nt call.. I know what you mean about "most guys" and BD :)
Ususally my man would be there too.. I was/am so hurt...
When I asked him why he diddn't call, he said, he was just being a Jerk..
I asked it was TTC, was it too much preassure..
He said no, he just wanted to be selfish...
He also said he still loves me, still wants to have a baby, but just stuffed up..
I want to belive him, but am still sooooo angry and hurt...
and left wondering am i being a selfish Cow, or am I being a fool??
Thanks for understanding my babble..

:hugs: to you first off. I think that men just don't understand how much TTC plays on our minds and messes with our heads! I know that my DH does not understand how much it upsets me when another month goes by with a BFN, in his mind i just need to relax and it will happen. I think they just don't have as much invested in the whole process as we do!!! Hope that things settle down and he doesn't do this again to you :hugs: again

[Little_Toad]

For a woman, a month in the life of TTC can be an eternity. Especialy a wasted month.

yes it was selfish of him, but sweet that he admitted to "just being a jerk".

[RoarsomeMum]

Thank you all so much,
I feel lots better after a big cry and Bub Hub support.
Toad.. i never really thought about him admitting to being a jerk as being "sweet"!! but I guess your right!
He may be a jerk, but he was an honest Jerk!!
Thanks again!

[bubbles28]

:hugs:
No you are not being selfish.
:fingerscrossed: for next mth

[littledarling]

I know that you started this thread a while ago, but I just wanted to say that I can relate SOOOOOOOOOOOO much to this incident! It drives me crazy! They really don't get it, these men. And they don't do it on purpose, they just don't get it and can be selfish without even realising (I'm glad I'm not the only one this happens too :D ) Drives me crazy!!!

[pippi]

Oh Em:hugs: , I'm so sorry that he did that to you, I'm sure all us girls have been there at some point. My DH is a really amazing guy but he just doesn't get it either. They just can't seem to get their heads around cycles and TTC's and Oing cause they have never had an AF and never had to worry about when it will or won't show up! I think its a men are from mars and women are from venus thing:yes: