Should we go for number #2?

[dboo]

I'm 34 and hubby is nearly 45. We have a 10 month old. We want another baby but it would have to be soon and our situation isn't the best. We live overseas in my husband's country and plan to come back to Aus within 4 years after I finish my graduate degree. We don't have much money and I have to work here and had to go to work part-time when bub was 7 weeks old :(
I make good money for working only a few hours, but I was terribly sick with my pregnancy the whole 9 months and had to be hospitalised a few times for rehydration from vomiting. I still managed to work somehow, but would have more trouble this time because I have to look after a baby as well.
We would relocate to Australia in a few years with 2 kids and have to start all over (I am terribly homesick so staying here permanently is not an option). We also want our kid (s) to have English as their first language. It would be hard but I can get a good job in Australia.
I want our son to have a sibling but there are some parts of "only-childness" that I think would be fantastic for him. I guess I want him to have a sibling because I had fun memories playing with my bro growing up (even though he's an idiot now) and I am worried that our son would want to know what it's like to have a sibling.
Aaaaghhh...so many decisions and I have to decide in the next month or two. Would love to hear some different perspectives to help me along with a decision.

[Janesmum123]

I think the first thing you need to ask yourself is if you can afford another baby?
What happens if you can't work for 9 months, can your hubby support you guys?
Also do you want to return to work straight away after having this baby?


I think from what you have written your only issue is financial.

Also can you do your degree in Aust, maybe have a think about coming back early.

[dboo]

Yeah, finances are the biggest issue. My degree (PhD) is through an Australian uni so it doesn't matter where I am because it's all reserach based. The work/life balance is actually far better here. I wouldn't want to go back to work straight away again but I would do so in order to have another baby. I am only working very, very part-time though and I do have the option of some work at home stuff. Hubby could support us if absolutely necessary but things would be very tight.
I'm so conflicted. Sometimes, I think I'd love another and get all clucky, but at other times I really see the positive aspects of our son being an only child. I am trying to figure out if in the future I'd regret not having another...hmmmm....