finding out sex of baby

[shellsbubs]

just curious - who found out sex of their baby during ultrasound and who waited till birth? Both our children we waited and had a suprise - a girl and then a boy. Now we are TTC#3 and i wondered about finding out at ultrasound (then i could get suitable clothes as i had already given away all baby stuff) or wait till birth? I know my DH and I will discuss this obviously when pregnant but i was just thinking about it and would find out other people's stories....

[Briannabear]

We waited until birth to find out the sex of both our babies - or should I say, we are still waiting to find out for one of them! :laughing:
We just found the surprise so awsome the first time, that we wanted to experience that feeling again!
In your case however its a bit different because you've given your stuff away. So shopping would be much more convenient if you knew. But that said, you can still buy unisex colours.
Its very much a personal decision. :D

[~rambox~]

I found out the sex all 4 times with my boys as soon as they could tell me. the main reason i did it was because I hate surprises. The second reason is that you can better prepare yourself for there arrival.

My sister didn't find out with #1 but she did with #2&3 said it made no difference.

[sugar n spice]

i have found out with all three at the u/s. We werent going to find out this time round (3rd) but my dh persuaded me in that i really wanted a girl and he thought that due to the fact i suffer pnd each time that it wouldnt help if i was dissapointed so this gives me time to get used to the idea.

[pebilz]

Didn't with the first but did with this one to make it a different experience. Admittedly I was a little upset at the sex but never regretted finding out. I can't wait to meet my little boy now. Since we've been able to name him and pick out clothes etc for him it sort of gives him a form of identity to us already. I'm so excited. On the other hand though should we have a third we won't be finding out as it would be our last and we want that one a definite surprise and since we'll already have one of each it will be a blessing either way. Goodluck TTC.

[spiritedfamily]

we didn't find out with the first 3 but wanted to with 3 and hubby was more keen than I and so I told the technician that hubby wanted to know and she wouldn't tell him. So when it came to 4 I said straight away I want to know and when they told us...I was disappointed, I wanted another boy but within a week I was fine about it. We never told anyone, we wanted to still leave a surprise for our family & friends. With this one we want to know, in actual fact, I can't wait to find out, I'm more prepared for either sex this time and we still won't tell anyone

[cheeky.chicken]

For me personally I don't think there is anything more exciting than finding out after the long hours of labour and the pushing what the sex of your baby is. My hubby and I did ask at the 20 week u/s what the sex was, mainly because he wanted to know, I never did, but fortunately for me the babys feet and legs were in the way and he couldn't tell us. I can't tell you how glad I was. We are TTC number 2 at the moment and we have already agreed that we aren't going to find out this time either. In the end hubby was really excited at the birth also to discover that we had a beautiful baby girl so he is keen this time not to know.

I think it is more exciting when you are waiting to hear the news as well. Instead of hearing the babys been born you get to say we had a ....... Its silly I know but that is how I feel about it.

[Jem]

i didnt find out with DD because she was lying in the wrong posi :rolleyes:

with both boys i found out :)

[Mum&bubs]

I found out with both my pregnancies simply because im too impatient to wait :laughing:

[~rambox~]

I am the same as i hate Suprises

[Fitmumma]

With my first two PG I didnt find out & left it a surprise, I had boys each time, with DS3 I found out we were having a boy, with DD they couldnt tell cause she was in a funny position, so it was a lovely surprise when she was born to find out I'd had a daughter!!!

[jaydensmum]

I found out with my DD which was #2 but i waited with my 1st which was a boy. You'll know when you have your u/s if its right to find out or not. I was insistent not to find out with my 1st but knew i wanted to know with my 2nd. Good luck with your decision. :D

jaydensmum

[Milliner]

We found out with DS I wish that I didn't find out

[Wondermum]

We waited until the birth for our first (surprise boy) and we found out the sex with this one due very soon. A couple of reasons for finding out this time.... we almost drove ourselves nuts not knowing the first time and secondly we wanted to be prepared if it was a girl as we would need to do some redecorating and buying the colour pink (luckily for us this wasn't necessary) :D

[StarMumma]

We didn't find out with the 1st, could of at anytime as we had an amnio, but choose to wait - it nearly drove me mad!! We found out with the 2nd for 2 reasons - they will be very close in age and and was wanting to know about clothes, equipment etc - and I wanted to experience the difference between knowing and not knowing. I'm still just as impatient and can't wait to meet my second little man!!! IF we were to have a third (a big IF), depending on age gap, I probably wouldn't find out. It was a lovely surprise at DS1's birth! I uess I have just confused the issue for you more - SORRY:p

[stellarella]

we found out at 20wks. i was busting to know. its exciting enough when bub is born. knowing sex doesnt take anything away from the birth IMO

[LittleBoysRock]

I found out at 18 weeks I was having a boy. I wanted to know as I had my heart set on having a girl so I wanted to prepare myself for the fact that I was having a boy. I LOVE my boy now though!!

I wish we hadnt of found out so we could have had a suprise....next time I dont know if we will find out.

[MrsMiggins]

Oh man! I couldn't wait to find out!! We will find out this time too! The suspense is killing me! :laughing:

I just don't know how people do it! Up until I have my scan, I just keep seeing all these gorgeous outfits or sheet sets etc I want to buy, but think there's no point in buying small girl's stuff if this one is going to be a boy, and no point in buying boys stuff if we're having a girl!

I just wanna shop!! :D

[NoMoreScuba]

I just found out this morning we're having a boy! I didn't want to wait because I don't like surprises, and I just felt it would help me prepare mentally a bit. I was worried that I would get it into my head it was 1 sex, and it would turn out to be the other and that would really confuse my feelings...

Anyway, I would have been very happy either way, but I'm definitely glad I found out. Now I have to learn to say 'he' instead of 'it' !

[sonlou73]

i didn't find out with my two boys. we nearly found out with DS#2 & i'm glad we didn't. IMO it was great to go through the pain with a surprise at the end. next time we won't find out...maybe!

[oleander]

I found out I was having a girl at my 19 week scan, then had a 4D scan at 30 weeks and confirmed it's a girl. I dont like surprises much. I feel that I am bonding with my little girl before she's born if that makes any sense. Also, I wanted to be able to shop for the baby and I painted the nursery pink and put pink curtains up.

[*Sparkles*]

We had our 20 week scan last week and we found out it is a boy. As it's our first bub, we wanted to get the nursery organised in the right colours lol.
We have decided to keep it a secret from family and friends, same with the name so there will still be surprises for everyone after he is born.

[danik]

When we found out I was pregnant DH and I were hell bent on finding out the sex at the 20 week scan.

Things didn't go to plan as bub was being cheeky and lying on its tummy. We were slightly deflated but decided to take on the "it wasn't meant to be" attiftude and now we are happy to wait until Bub is born.

The funny thing is that most people I have come across have really strong views on this topic. When we thought we were going to find out the sex some people were really upset with our decision! Then when we couldn't find out and decided to wait until Bub's birth other people queried that fact that we were making it harder for ourselves having to buy neutral coloured things.

We're happy with our decision.....it is just weird how some people can get so fired up about something that has nothing to do with them!

[NZMama]

I found out with both of mine and I will find out with any future ones. I dont mind suprises but I cant hold out when I know theres one around the corner.
Not to mention I like to prepare in advance....with DD2 I had gotten rid of all my baby stuff in NZ and my mother was coming over 2 months before my due date. I needed to know wat sex I was having so my mother could bring over my baby stuff :p

[Sara's Boys]

Well for my first we kept it as a suprise, which I loved and would recommend. It was exciting and we didn't get carried away buying too many colour coded outfits. I am not the type to have a decorated baby room, so for me it wasn't important to me. Yet some how all the way thru the pregnancy I was convinced I was having a boy, and I did. I liked the suprise element and the testing your instincts side of it.

This time around, I decided I wanted to find out, I some times am a bit sorry that I did find out, it taes away the huge suspense feeling and you start naming and organising every thing.
But I wanted to know because I was hoping for a girl, and if I did have a girl, I would have been sure that I would just have the 2 kids. But it is another boy, and any initial disappointment has been replaced with positive wonderful excitment. I really didn't want to have hopes this time and be disappointed.

I am already getting "oh another boy, oh well there is always next time.." "what a shame" "I hope the scan is wrong and it's a girl" RUDE! I had an element of that attitude when Cruz was born from some women who have daughters, and I certainly don't want to be hearing that while I have the baby blues! So we have yold evryone. This biggest down side of telling every one, is that they have expectations and lots of terrible name ideas! And you have to hear about it for 20 weeks.

[BlessedWithBlue]

We found out with both of our boys and we are having an ultrasound on Saturday to find out the sexes of our twins!! we were gonna leave this one as a surprise since we weren't plannning on having any more but the surprise if finding out we are having twins was enough for us lol and for the sake of my sanity and organisation we changed our minds ;) only 3 more days to go:eek:

[PiercedDoll]

i found out when i had the 19 week U/S...its good to know what your having as its easier to buy clothes n other stuff.....

[Leez]

We found out when I had an amnio and I was glad we did, because I was certain I was having a boy (nothing factual to go on other than I couldn't see myself raising a girl:o ) so when I found out I was having girl I went into shock and it took me a while to get my head around it. I'm glad I didn't wait until she was born to go through that.

I would find out again, I found it good because she was a person before we met her, she had a name, so when talking about her it wasn't 'when its here' it was 'when Gracie comes' - that was a bonding thing for me and DH. Plus, like everyone says, the shopping is a lot more efficient!!

[chameleon]

We really wanted to find out but at all three scans they couldn't tell... which was disappointing, but now I'm really glad. I really wanted a girl but had managed to convince myself I was having a boy. When she was born and my husband told me had a little girl I was so surprised but it was the best feeling ever!
I'm not sure if we'll find out next time. DH is desperate for a boy this time, so maybe we will try to, so we can prepare ourselves either way.

But we had those reactions too, when people found out we wanted to find out some people were quite upset with us!

[2s'nuff]

We've found out both times. Not only because I can't stand the anticipation, but because of the 'clothes' factor. We were being offered lots of second hand clothes for DD, and I didn't want to be greedy and accept both the girls and boys clothes. This time around was to see if I should organise the girl stuff to give away or wash ready for the new arrival.
First time around told everyone, my grandparents were a bit dissapointed to know early. This time have told everyone but them. So it will still be a surprise for them when their 4th great-grandchild arrives.

[mammaduke]

I found out with both of mine, I had a girl first and desperatley wanted a boy for my second one. I had to have a few ultrasounds with my second and the first one said it was a boy, both hubby and I were thrilled but when another ultrasound said it was a girl I could see the disappointment in his face (and mine), and more upset as I'd already gone out and bought boys clothes, it's just not the same putting a girl in blue! Needless to say, I am now glad that she came out a girl as we just love her to bits, and it's given me a reason to try for the third one (even if the next one comes out a girl too). I always said to myself it I were to have a girl and boy I would stop at that, but now I can go onto the third (and am very clucky, will be trying very soon). If it turns out to be a girl I won't be going for the fourth though. By the way, the next one I will definitely not find out the sex, I guess for the last one I want that element of surprise (even though deep down I just know it would be another girl!!!!! the odds are against us!!!).

Cindy

[mim]

We left the sex for a suprise with our first two (boy and girl) but I found out with #3. It was nice knowing, but if I ever had another baby, I'd leave it for a suprise