Do u wish you had waited

[mother of six]

Hi i was just wondering how many younge mums if had the choice again would of waited until were older before having children

[A Party of Five]

:confused: What age do you class as a young mum??

[Niki]

no, i wouldnt have waited because even thou ds was unplanned it was th best thing that happened to me:D

[Melo]

I voted yes, as much as I love my DS (Who wasnt planned) I had so much I wanted to do in life before children. I'm not saying I cant do these things now in life, but they are going to take twice as long.

I would of loved to travelled the world, went and finished uni and probably brought a house before children.

DF and I love our son very much and wouldnt change him for the world, we decided we did want another child sooner then later hence why we started TTCing - Second bub is due in December.

I dont know what life would of been like without having children from such a young age, but this is how it was planned out for so this is the way its going to be :).

[SamanthaJane]

Everything happens for a reason. I'm going to do my best, and i'd be doing exactly the same "best" whether i am 17, 25, 30, or 40.

Every baby is a blessing. No matter how hard parenting can be, i don't think people should think of it as "what if..." or "if only..."

Look forward, not backwards :thumbsup:

[KarniF00l]

The short answer would be Yes.. but wouldn't change it for the world now. :D

[Jem]

Im glad that i have my 3 (no more :shame: ) and they are all out of the way :D

[SnowedUnder]

I voted no.

I was 19 when I got married & 20 (just) when my 1st DD was born, 21 when my 2nd DD was born.

I'm no longer with their father. I'm re-married now & have the best DH in the world. :hugs: (in my eyes anyway!) We have DS, I'm now 35 & we are TTC 1more!:fingerscrossed:

While I now see my Ex for the Wa#@er that he is, I'm so glad I've got my DDs. Everything is what you make of it & although I've been through some tough times in between, I'm sure everything happens for a reason & will work out for the best in the end!:yes:

[MummyCharmzy]

No I don't wish I had waited. My children are my life, I don't know where I'd be without them and I'd rather not know as my life couldnt be nearly so great without them! :)

[LittleBoysRock]

I voted yes, as much as I love my DS (Who wasnt planned) I had so much I wanted to do in life before children. I'm not saying I cant do these things now in life, but they are going to take twice as long.

I would of loved to travelled the world, went and finished uni and probably brought a house before children.

DF and I love our son very much and wouldnt change him for the world, we decided we did want another child sooner then later hence why we started TTCing - Second bub is due in December.

I dont know what life would of been like without having children from such a young age, but this is how it was planned out for so this is the way its going to be :).

This is exactly how I feel too. I am 23 and wished I had done all of these things before having a baby. I love him to bits though!!:D

[EskimoMumma]

No i dont.

but if technology shows they can clone mothers to help with the extra kids. then i would have :D

[~EmsMum~]

yes, I do

[EllasMum1]

I would have liked to start a career and to have bought a house before i had kids but then in saying that i always knew i didnt want kids too late(although not that soon either... i was nearly 18 when we had our daughter) My partner is a few years older than me so i think that helps in a way, i couldnt imagine life any other way tho!:o

[SnowedUnder]

Further to previous. . . My parents had me young also, & now being in their very early 50s, & all us kids moved out, they've returned from a round the world holiday! So you still have plenty of time later! there are advantages to having kids early! Before I re-married I went to thailand with my now husband & we plan to travel more later on when we don't have small children. My kids are my world, :kiss: at my low points they are what kept me going. Sure it's hard at times, but the rewards by far out weigh the hardships.

[poshBecks]

No way!! I am so glad I had my kiddies young!! :yes: I wouldn't change it for the world!! :D

[moonblossom]

HELL NO, i have older children and younger ones. I just love it this way. But i've always made sure I never lost who I am along the way.

They are SO important to me, but so am I.

They all came at the time they were meant too :)

[SamanthaJane]

Yep, same with my parents Jabekob... they are in their 40's now.

They are doing all their travelling now (they had no money when they were younger anyway, they started with nothing and made their wealth whilst we were growing up) they've been to soooo many different countries and experienced sooo many adventures. They have both studied after having children, and they said they wouldn't have it any other way either :D

[~Mands~]

:no: nope wouldn't change a thing :D

[Melo]

This is exactly how I feel too. I am 23 and wished I had done all of these things before having a baby. I love him to bits though!!:D

Oh i'm glad someone agreed the same! :D :hugs:

[LilShenanigans]

I wouldn't change anything, I'd probably still be living without a point if I didn't have DD ... (my past is a bit hazy at the best...).

I could sit here and say, I wish I had made a career (which I was doing at the time of falling pregnant), or I wanted to travel the world... but in all honesty, I think that job was doomed from day one, and I never had enough money to go O/S in the first place lol
I did want a holiday before I had a baby, but never got it... it's been over 4years since my last holiday!!! I'm STILL WAITING!! lmao

[Percy]

Not for a second! My DS is the best thing that ever happened to me.

Plus we are planning on at least two more, so i still want to be young enough to do that.

[Kizmet]

in a word...no. I have travelled a lot of the world as ad my df so that didnt realy bother us plus we know we can travel later with the kids or when we retire! We would have loved to have bought a house but we werent n the financial situation to b able to do that at the time anyway, as someone said before if i didnt have abby my life wouldnt be grounded and i'd have n direction. we feel as if she has bought purpose to our lives. there are days when i want to rip my hair out but thats just motherhood irrespective of age and when she laughs/smiles at me it all goes away:wave:

[cobysmummy]

NO WAY!!!! coby wasnt planned... but he is definately wanted and loved and i wouldnt change my life for a childless, career life...

i was halfway through year 12 when i found out i was pregnant and he was born 2 months before my 18th.. im now 19.5 and still havent been out clubbing like all my friends.. but who cares!!! i have something way better than that..

a child that brightens my day when he smiles!!! i wouldnt change it for the world..

[Mum&bubs]

I voted no because my DD was the best thing that could have ever happened to me & I think she saved me!

[jaydensmum]

I voted no because things are just perfect as they are and i wouldnt change that for anything. I believe things happen for a reason and i was meant to have had my children young.

jaydensmum

[SweetSerenity]

I voted yes, as much as I love my DS (Who wasnt planned) I had so much I wanted to do in life before children. I'm not saying I cant do these things now in life, but they are going to take twice as long.

I would of loved to travelled the world, went and finished uni and probably brought a house before children.

DF and I love our son very much and wouldnt change him for the world, we decided we did want another child sooner then later hence why we started TTCing - Second bub is due in December.

I dont know what life would of been like without having children from such a young age, but this is how it was planned out for so this is the way its going to be :).

Took the words out of my mouth!
I voted yes also!
I had alot of plans for myself too, and having a son now means i have to put them off for a while, which im okay with but i would of preffered to do all this in a different order than i have.
Also i would of preffered to be more stable as an adult before i had children... I am a strong stable young woman now, but as an older adult i would of known alot more than i did when i had my son and i just feel for me personally it woul dhave been a wiser choice for me and my circumstances to have waited, but i would not give my son back for the world! hes my everything now and thats all that matters :D