pennidymock
28-11-2010, 09:46
I'm a 22 year old SAHM to Michael (4 in december) and Phoenix (2 in january), with another due in March.
My issue is that Michael gives me horrible attitude and i'm not sure how to go about effectively fixing it. He will tell everyone to shut up, go away, cut it out, and if you talk when he doesnt want you to, he will say "sssh, shhh, shhhhh" loudly until you stop talking.
He has speech and developmental problems, and i dont know if this is causing him frustration and i'm trying to teach him that we say "please be quiet" instead of shut up, "please leave me alone" instead of go away, and "please stop that" instead of cut it out. He occasionally slips the F bomb, which is a big no no and ends up with him in bed for 15 minutes.
When he says the rude things, i tell him that its mean to say those things and that we should say something nicer like whats written above. He'll say it once, and then he goes back to saying the rude things. If his baby brother is crying, he will tell him to shut up, stop crying, stop fussing. He headbutts people when he is mad at them, and he'll hit people to make them 'go away'.
The other day his nonna screamed at him to shut up, and my husband says shut up at least 10 times a day to him - both of them are consistently told off for saying such rude things to him and i remind them how i am teaching him to not say those things, but they just dont listen!
The only person that follows the same rules as me is my own mother and father, and they are big on butt-smacking for discipline - i used to be until Michael was almost 3, then i realized there are more effective solutions, rather than hitting your own childs butt.
Has anyone had similar problems with kids, and how would you suggest i go about fixing it?
When he talks rudely to me, he goes into time out for 10 minutes and when he comes out, i talk to him about how its rude and it hurts peoples feelings, but he doesnt care.
My issue is that Michael gives me horrible attitude and i'm not sure how to go about effectively fixing it. He will tell everyone to shut up, go away, cut it out, and if you talk when he doesnt want you to, he will say "sssh, shhh, shhhhh" loudly until you stop talking.
He has speech and developmental problems, and i dont know if this is causing him frustration and i'm trying to teach him that we say "please be quiet" instead of shut up, "please leave me alone" instead of go away, and "please stop that" instead of cut it out. He occasionally slips the F bomb, which is a big no no and ends up with him in bed for 15 minutes.
When he says the rude things, i tell him that its mean to say those things and that we should say something nicer like whats written above. He'll say it once, and then he goes back to saying the rude things. If his baby brother is crying, he will tell him to shut up, stop crying, stop fussing. He headbutts people when he is mad at them, and he'll hit people to make them 'go away'.
The other day his nonna screamed at him to shut up, and my husband says shut up at least 10 times a day to him - both of them are consistently told off for saying such rude things to him and i remind them how i am teaching him to not say those things, but they just dont listen!
The only person that follows the same rules as me is my own mother and father, and they are big on butt-smacking for discipline - i used to be until Michael was almost 3, then i realized there are more effective solutions, rather than hitting your own childs butt.
Has anyone had similar problems with kids, and how would you suggest i go about fixing it?
When he talks rudely to me, he goes into time out for 10 minutes and when he comes out, i talk to him about how its rude and it hurts peoples feelings, but he doesnt care.