Im so stressed out i just cant switch off !!

[angelickaren]

well the last week has been so so stressful dh's pop
has days to go or weeks he is in hospital then sat/sun dh's mum had a mild stroke and she now is in hospital the same one as dh's pop

im just so so emotional while im writing this im in tears
a song comes on the radio i start to cry im not sleeping much i just cant seem to switch off !! plus im sick with a viral infection as well so i cant go to the hospital as i dont want to give it dh's pop or mum but also i dont want to catch any bugs from there too.

my dh is angry at me as he thinks i dont want to go see them but i keep saying im protecting me and bub i just want to scream and scream i just feel like i need to go away for a while i cant handle it but i cant

i just need to vent:yes:

im seeing my psychologist tomorrow i cant wait i just need to talk my dh's doesnt need me to put my troubles on to him.

im stressing about when the bub comes and xmas we cant plan anything as we just dont know what is going to happen until it does really.
my Mil and fil was going to have the kids while i was having my baby so now my mum and dad are going to come and do it so one less thing i need to worry about

sorry for the long post but i just need to get it out

im also worried this stress is not good for the bub too i just cant switch off !!!:hair:

[willowtree78]

I find xmas time a stressful time on a normal day apart from throwing pregnancy & family sickness into the mix :hugs:
My Gpa was in hospital dying when I came down with chicken pox and so did my 6 month old. I was not able to go and see him for 3 weeks :( If we'd known just how bad he was, I may have reconsidered but I did recover before he passed away so I was able to be with him when he passed. It just seems everything goes wrong at the same time, especially when pregnant and emotional. You just need to breathe and try to relax. Don't worry about xmas this year, it really won't hurt to skip the festivities under the circumstances. Still do all the santa stuff etc but maybe your parents can put in the extra effort to sort xmas this year as you have enough on your plate.
I would say that your DH is not really angry at you, he just needs an outlet for how sad & upset he is. It's horrible that it has to be you but sometimes we need to take the punches for the ones we love.
I really wouldn't be too concerned about catching anything if you go in and if FIL only has days, then maybe you could consider going in as soon as you're up to it, maybe you could ask a nurse for a mask. I know that sounds silly but it would probably mean a lot to your DH (and his pop) to go and see them, especially since he's is passing away. I know that I was devasted (as was my Gpa) that he couldn't see my DD (his GGD) because he was in intensive care and babies aren't allowed in there.
I don't really know what else to say to help but :hugs: that you can't enjoy what should be a wonderful time for you and you DH (pregnancy). :hugs::hugs::hugs:

[flicker]

You just need to breathe and try to relax. Don't worry about xmas this year, it really won't hurt to skip the festivities under the circumstances. Still do all the santa stuff etc but maybe your parents can put in the extra effort to sort xmas this year as you have enough on your plate.
I would say that your DH is not really angry at you, he just needs an outlet for how sad & upset he is. It's horrible that it has to be you but sometimes we need to take the punches for the ones we love.
I really wouldn't be too concerned about catching anything if you go in and if FIL only has days, then maybe you could consider going in as soon as you're up to it, maybe you could ask a nurse for a mask. I know that sounds silly but it would probably mean a lot to your DH (and his pop) to go and see them, especially since he's is passing away. I know that I was devasted (as was my Gpa) that he couldn't see my DD (his GGD) because he was in intensive care and babies aren't allowed in there.
I don't really know what else to say to help but :hugs: that you can't enjoy what should be a wonderful time for you and you DH (pregnancy). :hugs::hugs::hugs:


well said willow, i agree. The first thing i thought was your dh is probably just as stressed and needed to vent. i just wanted to send you :hugs::hugs:

re christmas, there is still heaps of time left to organise things so dont stress. it may be better to have a low key one anyway. it is hard to celebrate with grief.

:hugs:

[LnW]

im so sorry that u r in this situation. it must b sooo hard. if u want to wear a mask in the hospital u would b quite within ur rights to do so! just ask a nurse for one!
dont feel bad for protecting u and bub, ur doing wat is right for u!!!!

on the day of my 12wk scan my mother was diagnosed with brain and bone metastasis from breast cancer. i spent the next month working full time and spending every other minute with her. she was placed under palliative care and sent home. i now care for her (she is doing better than anyone expected!) and our 6wk old dd.

i read somewhere that unfortunately life doesnt stop for pregnancy! i thought that was a pertinent quote at the time.

im so sorry again...:hugs: for u, dh and family.

[angelickaren]

thanks im so stressed out but my psychologist says maybe its my body way of telling me im not superwomen and i need to rest up too.

im still not 100% better either so im just not sure if i should go as i dont want to give it to dh's pop or mum
maybe ill give myself one day of rest and go up tomorrow as dh's pop is not going well at all

[Faithy]

:hugs:

You poor thing. Remember that preg makes you emotional so it's totally fair of you to feel the way you do.

and your DH will be stressed out too, most men don't handle serious things like this well so try not to take it to heart.

Everyone just tries to do their best at times like this, and that's all you can do too.

Take care hun xoxo