Partners objections??

[Tisme]

Does anyones partner object to them breast feeding in public (friends house, park, shopping etc) due to the lack of "privacy" issue.

My brother is objecting to my sil planning to bf the new bub as it is just like (in his opinion) letting people perve on her. He won't hear that it CAN be done discreetly as she has bf 3 kids and knows HOW to do it. He reckons it is the same as him taking a p**s on the train (and this is in no way MY opinion)

Please is there ANYONE out there who can help us understand this mentality. Mr Noodle?? Irish Dad??? ANYONE!!!!!!

[bigglet]

My DH was at first concerned but you can bf discreetly and you draw less attention feeding a child than having it scream for their milk!!!!

[A Party of Five]

It was me not DH who had trouble bf in public! I am fine at home,my mums and at friends house ect. But it's cause I have big boobs. :o And I feel like people are looking at me all the time. So would just take a bottle or use bf rooms.

[meme]

my dp was unsure about breastfeeding, because until having children i think he had always considered breasts as a sexual thing. he learnt pretty quickly that they are also a functioning baby feeding machine! the screaming of his bub was enough for him to want me to get them out wherever:p

hopefully your bro will change his mind. perhaps going to a breastfeeding class or group where he could see lot's of breastfeeding could help normalise it for him. breastfeeding isn't always easy and his support will be so important for his wife and child.

breastfeeding is not a rude excretory function , it is eating, and cuddling.

[stellarella]

I think your bro needs to re program his ideas about the female body. Breasts are not for sexual gratification, therefore they are not sex objects, they are made for the purpose of nourishing a child and the more women who breastfeed in public the sooner we can change the way womens bodies are viewed.

Also, I dont think anyone who sees a woman breastfeeding has a perve on her breasts, they are usually hidden by the bay and it can be done very discreetly.

In the end he doesnt really get a say in the matter unfortunately. Baby gets the final say, and when bub is screaming in the shopping centre, Im sure he will be happy to have the breast as a pacifier.

[Sarie]

Before we knew I couldn't BF my hubby didn't have any issues with it at all. If anything I think he was more concerned because he knew that I had issues with doing it myself. But I think that makes him more observant to women who are BF in public or parents rooms and he tries very hard not to make anyone feel uncomforatable

[~Danni~]

My DF didn't have a problem with me breastfeeding in public.... I was probably more self concious to start with than he was!!My boobs were there to feed bubs and we both felt the same way so it wasn't an issue really:D

[Mum&bubs]

My DP did at first but he soon got over it as Summer was on it constantly & he HAD to get over it :laughing:

[our little treasures]

No problems with ds he actually comments if anyone stares and it's ALWAYS WOMEN, as if they have never seen a boob before...

However yummy mummy of 5 you are so right!! Big boobs and feeding discreetly YEAH RIGHT :rolleyes:

[Seekrit]

Chris has this issue, he likes to cover us with a wrap :rolleyes: even in parent's rooms!!

When we're at people's houses he doesn't mind what i do, but if we're out and about he likes to make sure we're covered. Yesterday we had no choice but to feed in a park, so I chose a lovely spot on the grass overlooking a pond :D Chris tried to position the pram so it blocked the pathway.. especially when Children were coming.

I asked him why he does it, if it makes him feel uncomfortable and he said that it doesn't make him uncomfortable for his baby to be getting food, but when he sees a breastfeeding mother, he'll look curiously and happily at the bond, then suddenly think that the mother thinks he's a perve so it makes him feel uncomfortable.. and he doesn't want to make others uncomfortable.

He's getting better tho', no more wraps in the parents rooms. :) In fact the other day I plopped down on the couch, opposite another guy, got the boob out and started feeding, then exchanged a 'hello other parent' to the guy and Chris didn't rush to cover my boob. :p