Anyone else??

[Tisme]

My nearly DD AND DS1 are right royal P.A.I.N.S. in the nicest possible way.

Scenario: me feeding 6mth old, DD and DS1 playing and talking about what they want to do today. DS1 is dressed and ready to go, DD is running around in pj shirt and undies. I send her in to pick out her clothes (as usual) and tell her to bring them back out and I'll help her get dressed so we can go to the park which THEY decided they wanted to do. SHe was all excited about the park, went to her room and EMPTIED the 4 puzzle drawers all over the bedroom floor INSTEAD of getting her clothes. (jealous of the baby??) Then comes back out empty handed I follow her into the room to help her pick her clothes, see the mess and tell her "we are going to have to pack this all away before we go won't we?" She says "yes, I did it, but you help clean it?" I tell her ok and put DS2 down to help her get dressed and clean up. She took off pj shirt then went over (while I was sitting there with her clothes ready) and says "dolly wants to play" and emptied out ANOTHER toy drawer before coming back over to me. MEanwhile DS1 wants to know what is going on and decides to empty HIS toy drawer as well while I'm busy putting her clothes on.

Long story I know but now I have two children who after all this and went to time out over it all, don't give a rat monkey's left test about the fact that their toys are going in the cupboard for a month (which NORMALLY upsets them) and they don't care that they are no longer going to the park.

WHAT DO I DO. My DD is really starting to act up like this ALOT of late and I'm trying my hardest to give her some one on one time (which in uni we were taught solves MOST 2-3's issues!!) but se just isn't responding, and because he sees HER doing it, DS1 wants to have fun too and joins in the action. And at the moment I am faced with having to sort out 8 drawers of toys and puzzles and FIND somewhere in the cupboard for them.

[Cheekychops]

Sounds just like normal kids to me... It seems like they are doing it just to get at you doesn't it??? Stay strong, and try not to lose it cause that's even more exciting for them to see - trust me I know after losing it alot!!! They will get the picture though when they want to play with those toys later and realise they aren't there..... and it may take a few times before they remember BEFORE they do it, but consistancy is a big key.

My two feed off eachother all the time, which is sooooo infuriating, but we have just started happy and sad face charts with rewards at the end of the day if they have no more than 2 faces. We do separate morning and arvo too cause it's hard to judge them on one thing for the whole day if they have one little time they forget they aren't allowed to do something like run in the house... we have found when we were at our wits end knowing what to do with them that this has helped a little and we hope things keep improving from here!!!

:hugs: to you, and I understand how frustrating it can be.... fell free to vent anytime!!!

[rainbowbaby]

It must be rotten kids day today my DD who is nearly 2.5 is being an absolute diva! We had to go to the shops to get DH a fathers day present and card and a present for her little friend whose birthday it is tomorrow. She was brilliant in the toy section (which is amazing) no tantrums but wanted everything with a huge "pleeeaaaasse". I said no about 15 times and no tears HOWEVER....

We stopped to get a sandwich afterwards and that is where the fun began, I get her out of her stroller and she sits on the seat and starts to eat her sandwich and have her milk, then in a blink of an eye she is off ran about 100 metres away, I am at the table with the shopping bags in the pram,my handbag on the floor, uneaten food on table and had to leave it and run, (which is getting harder as I bet bigger with no 2!) pick her up come back and tell her if she does it again she goes back in the pram, she sits on her seat for all of thirty seconds and does it AGAIN!:banghead: So away I run after her again, pick her up bring her back and she whacks me right over the head in front of all these people,:devil6: you can imagine what I wanted to do???? So obviously it is time to go and she is trying to get out of my arms, screaming, kicking, the works. I am embarassed, in pain from being hit over the head and absolutely exhausted. Any tips on how to stop kids running away on you, I have tried to work on reward system in the past but she doesn't seem to care :confused:

[TammyB]

Sorry to hijack your thread Tisme!

To answer rainbowbaby.....My DS is finally getting over the running away thing. We take him for heaps of walks where he can have a fair amount of freedom. When he gets too far away or near steps etc we ask (or yell) for him to stop. He was clearly testing how serious we were for many months as he would stop and start edging away whilst not taking his eyes off us. So every time he did not obey he would get a smack. May seem extreme, but I take it seriously as it can be dangerous. Now he knows we are serious and we only have to threaten to smack him and he comes back to us. He seems to know what his allowable radius is before I object now, as he doesn't push it and go as far as he used to.

I think the best thing to do is find as many opportunities to let him have a free reign. Like going to a shopping centre when you know it won't be busy and practice (early mornings are good as they are not tired or hungry). I also take him shopping more regularly to get little things rather than leaving it till I urgently need lots as he enjoys short shops but gets bored on long ones. I also let him take things to the counter and hand over the money which he loves doing. So he is actually starting to enjoy shopping.

I was starting to avoid shopping due to the stress and exhaustion of him running off on me. But it is getting easier and I am feeling more confident which is just in the nick of time with no. 2 on the way as well. I have so many concerns....How to carry a squirming toddler with a big belly? How to control a toddler when you have to breastfeed whilst out?

[rainbowbaby]

Thanks TammyB
I will try your suggestions, I should do short trips to the shops but I absolutely hate it myself so I do leave it for one big shop! Will definitely try the free reign in free places.:fingerscrossed:

We are due to the same date and I have those concerns as well, hope we both get some answers and thanks for the advice.
Ness:)

[Tisme]

I don't mind the hijacking ....at least it gives you somewhere for you to vent/ get help!!! LOL

Good luck with it all!!!