Childs belongings

[Kayteigh]

Hi

Just wondering if there is any court order for recovery of a childs belongings or anything similar, my step daughter (near 14) is coming to live with us in January and her mother is refusing to send anything that belongs to the child just what Tayla has bought or we have given her, Tayla is losing everything she own because it now belongs to her mother since tayla is leaving. Just need any advice on what taylas options are.

Katie

[TurnedBatty]

hmmm, as far as I know, no. If her mother bought it, I am fairly certain the courts wont make her hand it over

[MummaBear03]

I think Cazza's right in that, but it's so unfair because it's the teenager's belongings that she's keeping. I hate when this happens, it's punishing the child. I hope she comes to her senses and lets the child have her things when she moves.

[MamaKoala]

As mean as it sounds to keep the childs belongings I'm pretty certain if she paid for them they can't be recovered. Is she going to have visits with her mother? Maybe her mother is keeping those things for when she visits?
I know if my kids wanted to live with their Dad, I would only send what they used daily. The beds, some toys, dressers and some clothes would stay with me so I was equipped for when they did come to see me.

[Kayteigh]

Tayla has just been given 10 bags of hand me down clothes and she's not even allowed to bring them cause they belong to her mother now, its just crap i think, the mother is not winning a losing battle and taking ot out on tayla any which way possible, Tayla even loses birthday gifts

[MummaBear03]

I'm pretty sure she can't keep things like birthday gifts, etc, just what she's bought. I could understand if it was furniture, but not all her other things. That is really nasty. I'm sorry your step daughter is having to go through this. I wish it didn't have to happen :(

[Kayteigh]

Tayla has lost everything clothes, even clothes that have been given to tayla 2nd hand and not bought by her mother, books, her mobile, her ipod touch, laptop just to name a few, I think its stupid that a grown woman can act like this

[sunnyflower]

Has the mother locked her possessions away ?

Why can't she just bring her things with her?:confused:

[MummaBear03]

I feel like I shouldn't really be posting in here since I have no step kids and my DD only lives with me, and doesn't see anyone else. However I know just when we go places she takes everything that's important to her, so to withhold those things for her to move somewhere permanently would be so wrong and so heartbreaking for her. My mum wants her for a couple of weeks so I can work more and just pay her for having DD, and in that time she will pack her DS, her Gameboy, her DVDs, any books, toys, of course her clothing and swimwear and towels and her toiletries, hair brush and hair ties, and any accessories she feels like packing at the time. I can't imagine not letting her take her belongings with her wherever she goes :confused:

[SassyMummy]

I don't know that the legalities are, but jeez that sucks!

Teenagers "own" their stuff as far as I'm concerned. Actually, all children do. That stuff wouldn't have been purchased were it not for that child existing, so all of their stuff is theirs and should be able to be taken with them to their new home.

[MamaKoala]

I think that's a bit off. To take away her mobile and ipod etc. As a mother who's children are in a blended family, I would never hold back those sorts of things. They are theirs. I think it's mean to keep clothes and gifts. I could never do that to my children, even if I was hurt that they wanted to live with their father (or if they were taken from me, yes I'd be angry but that's not the kids fault). Like I said above, a bed for them, some toys, and some clothes would be about all I kept for visits with me. Ipods, clothing they wear regularly, their favourite toys, bikes, phones, playstation (if their father didn't have one) and TV I would probably send with the boys. I'm sure all those things would be expensive to replace. Maybe ask for some legal advice regarding those sorts of posessions and if you cannot recover them, I'd try and replace them over time.
Unfortunately, for whatever reason the daughter is moving in with you, her mother is making the transition a lot worse for her and possibly severing any relationship the daughter might have had with her. What a power play :( Not nice at all.

[HowCrazyCool]

:geek::geek: That really sucks. I would give the police a call maybe? They would now if you can take the stuff when she moves.