Disappointed, but not as well......

[chicken and eggs mum]

Ok, I am revealing a BIIIIIG secret here, so for those who know me IRL and on FB please keep this to yourself (the gender of our bub that is).... I just need to talk about this and get it off my chest.......
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I have one DD, who has just turned 1 and we are expecting our second in about 7 weeks.........

Although I was secretly hoping that we would be having a boy, when we were told that we were having a girl, I wasnt disappointed.... I love my DD more than anything, I grew up with a sister the same age gap as what these two will be, etc, etc.... so I was quite pleased....

I have had thoughts of "it would be nice to have a boy...." etc, but it might just mean DH and I try for number 3!! (which I want regardless, he is not so sure!!) DHalso loves his DD and cant wait to have another one!!!!

BUT NOW....

My cousin is 21 weeks pregnant and has just found out she is having a boy......

And now I am feeling kinda disappointed that she is getting a boy and we arent......:( It makes me upset that i am feeling like this, cause I am happy for them. I was worried when she got pregnant as neither was working, living at home, etc, etc but they are geting their stuff together, she is coming to me for advice, etc...... and I am TRULY happy for them and happy we are having bubs so close together.... I cant wait to buy her boys stuff either!!!!

But I am also a little jealous/disappointed... I cant think of the right word........... :(

Maybe a small part of me is grieving the boy I maybe wont have.....

Sorry, just needed to vent............

[TurnedBatty]

:hugs: I can understand that. When I was pregnant I wanted a boy, and before we found out, a friend had her little boy. I was getting all upset because I felt like if she had a boy, I would have to have a girl. Should have seen my excitement when after a clarivoyant told my nana that there would be a girl and a boy born in the family this year, and then my sister had a girl :D I was jumping for joy!

[Mischief]

I think its normal to feel a bit hurt and disappointed when someone else is getting what you wanted. Its a very human emotion. :hugs:

BTW, I felt you were having a girl. LOL. I can see you with two.

As a mummy of 2 of the same sex, my experience so far is that they are amazingly great friends. They will like the same things and save you so much money as your youngest can have so many of the things you eldest barely used before they grew out of!

:hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

[RHJ]

:hugs: I can totally understand your feelings. I feel that way quite often when i am buying for my friends daughters. It is just that feeling of i wish that it could be me buying this for my child etc.:hugs: The guilt that comes with these feelings is the worst part :(

[MummyoftheMuffins]

I know exactly how you feel.
DD2 is the same age as your little S. And while i was pregnant with her, i really wanted a boy. I have always wanted at least one of each, and I would never be ungrateful for having a girl when i hoped for a boy. I would just be happy that i had a healthy bubba...

But my sister is pregnant with her second, when she never wanted children in the first place. In fact just before she fell pregnant with this one she had an abortion because she didn't want anymore kids. Well she's having the first boy, and I'm jealous because i don't feel she deserves him... But i am pregnant and regardless of whether or not this one is a boy or a girl i'm blessed to have any children. But i am jealous of her having a boy. Before me....

I know it's kinda different, but i do understand how you feel. Sorry for blabbing... I can't think properly. It's taken me ages just to write this LOL

[1plus2]

I have 2 DDs and with DD1 i REALLY wanted her to be a girl. DD2 i really wanted a girl as well cause i make really cute girls but i was sort of sure it was a boy. DF, even though he didnt say anything, i think he was disappointed it was a girl, even though he loves her to death now.

When i was pregnant with DD2, everyone else having babies at the same time ALL had boys! Every single one! Not a single girl!

This time im positive its a boy and i think ill be disappointed if i am told its a girl, ill still want and love it but this is our last one so id like it to be a boy. Although a girl would fit our family really well too.

DF has changed his tune and now says he doesnt care what it is, i was sure he'd be hanging out for a boy!

[Grinnyswife]

sorry u feel like this.

Just think how wonderful it will be having two little girls :bee:
Your lucky:D

[decambla]

I understand how you feel but I'm in a different situation. I have 3 wonderful children but for 2 years now have been begging my DH for a 4th. My best friend is starting to ttc next month. As happy as I am for her, I am so jealous/envious inside. I feel SO guilty over feeling this way as we have been best friends for over 12 years. Someone else said the guilt that comes with these feelings is the worst, I have to agree with them.

[chicken and eggs mum]

The thing is, I am happy I am having another girl, well and truly!!! My DD is quite a rough and tumble tom boy, who knows what this one will be like!! :-)

Mischief - I know that will be the case with these two too - they will be great friends, just like my sister and I were!!!!

I am soooo lucky I am having another baby, I am greatful for that!!! :-)

I was out with DD today and we were sitting having a babycino and a hot chocolate, and I just kept thinking in about a years time I will be doing this with a 1 year old girl and a 2 year old girl!!! Afnd I did get all excited!!! :-)

Just being able to talk about it and know its ok to feel a bit jealous makes me feel better.

[Mischief]

Glad you had a good day. Its OK to feel jealous, hurt, angry, sad, disappointed, robbed, happy, joyous, etc. They are all normal emotions. :)