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natchar
01-09-2006, 06:42 AM
Hi everyone,

I am Natalie, 33 years of age and my husband is 38. We have been married for 10 years. We started trying to conceive after few months of our marriage but nothing happened. Investigations with my Dr revealed that I have POF (when I was 24!) and he hasn’t been able to explain why as all my tests indicate that I am extremely healthy. We were very upset as we have never thought we would have problems conceiving.

We started IVF in 1999 all the way until end of 2002. Despite numerous ICSI cycles we have not been successfull due to the poor quality of my eggs. We have experienced the trauma of infertility with lots of pain, tears, and heartache. We have been told our only chance to have kids will be through an egg or embryo donation. We couldn’t imagine ourselves growing old, sad, lonely and living life without children. We advertised in a local child paper and we have fulfilled our dream to have a child with the help of a very kind lady. We were blessed with our gorgeous girl now 2 years. We love our angel donor, who is now a very close family friend, and we do see some of characters in our daughter, especially her care and love for others. We will always be honored, proud and deeply having a sense of gratitude toward two special people (our donor and her husband) who were ready to help as our path to start a family wouldn’t have been possible without their support.

I enjoy being a mum so much but a bit worried that this experience may never happen again. When my daughter was one year I start trying for a second child. I went through a frozen cycle but unfortunately, the embryo did not survive the freezing/thawing cycle. Out of her deep loving concern about our struggle to have a second child, our angel donor came forward one more time for another donation. We were so grateful and felt like the luckiest couple in the world, but we losted our baby at 10 weeks.

My husband and I are a very loving, caring, hard working couple living in the western suburb of Sydney. My DH is self employed and I have a part-time job. We are offering our girl a stable family environment with quality care, lots of fun, and endless unconditional love. We are financially secure. Even though we have supportive families, we have never told our respective families of our problems in conceiving because we just find it hard enough to deal with, especially when things don't go right and most of the times they don’t!

We dearly love to have another baby, and dream of giving our daughter a brother or sister. Our girl is very lovely and enjoys the company of other kids. We cannot imagine her as our only child and we do not want her to miss out growing up without a sibling to love, play (or even fight with), share the excitement of childhood.Now that our little one is desperate for company, we are hoping to find another angel donor.

We have been blessed to have our little girl but the choice of giving her a sibling has been taken away for us. Despite our draining emotions, we would like to have another child but without the help of another angel we can’t do so. Our only hope is an extremely generous and compassionate woman, who is preferably 35 or under, and who is willing to donate her eggs. Payment for eggs is inappropriate (illegal) in Australia, but we will be allowed to cover all medical, travel costs and out of pocket expenses.

We would be eternally grateful to you for considering giving us the gift of life and the chance to give our daughter a sibling. If you think you may have the capacity to make that unique contribution, please either PM me or email free16char@yahoo.com.au (free16char@yahoo.com.au)

Thank you for reading this-

Natalie

mumma_jessy
01-09-2006, 10:30 AM
Your ad is beautiful, i wish you both the best of luck in finding an angel.

I am interested in becoming a donor myself one day, right now though it is too early for me to feel completelty comfortable, but i am only 23 and hope to one day be ready to help someone like you and your partner acheive their dream.

Although i can not help you, i'm sure there is someone out there who is ready and willing to make your dreams of giving your daughter a sibling come true. Goodluck!

lucas'mum
01-09-2006, 12:20 PM
Hi Natalee

I have just read your wonderful post and wanted to wish you all the best with your search. I too am trying to conceive #2. Luckily for me I have no fertility issues (that I know of), however, I do know what its like to want another baby. I hope you wil be blessed with a suitable egg doner and wonderful baby soon! Thinking of you. :fingerscrossed:

natchar
01-09-2006, 01:09 PM
Hi Lucas'mum and mum-Jessy,

Thanks for your lovely wishes. It feels good to see that someone has read my post. I am hoping to find my special donor :fingerscrossed: the way i did before as i am sure the world is full of generous people. Blessing to you all :hugs:

xkwzit
01-09-2006, 06:44 PM
Hi Natalie
I've just reopened your thread...you must have accidentally closed it. Good luck on your search :)

natchar
02-09-2006, 05:24 AM
Hi xkwzit,

Thanks for that and it 's very much appreciated! I do not know what might have gone wrong.

Natalie

natchar
17-09-2006, 03:29 PM
I am just updating everyone that we are still looking for that special person to come forward. I am a bit depressed and sad, I do not really know what to do at this stage. The waiting is so hard and makes me very anxious. Any suggestions please?

TinyStar
19-09-2006, 09:54 PM
:hugs: Natalie,

I hope your angel will come forward soon.

I would love to be able to help you and your family but unfortunately there are a few issues which prevent me from donating at this point in time.

I was touched by your story and wanted to wish you all the best with your search.

ellie72
22-09-2006, 05:52 PM
Hi Natalie,

I suffer from POF also, and like you have one child. I was diagnosed at 33 (now 34). You were so young - 24!! What a terrible thing POF is, I hope in the future there is more hope for POF suffers.

Just want to wish all the very best in finding your donor angel!! Some lovely lady will step forward - hang in there!
Have you advertised on other websites also? I say, get the message to as many places as possible - you never know where a potenial angel might spot your ad!
love
Allie XXX

sarahstarfish
26-09-2006, 11:31 PM
Hey Natalie

How are you going....read your sad post, just shouldn't be so damned hard.

I don't think you can do anything better on the internet advertising-wise than exactly what you are doing - let people in and talk in forums like this and put it 'out there' - which must be awful and hard and scary to do, but the internet is such a huge place and so many donors find their recipients by virtue of that first google which brings them to places just like bubhub, and forums like this.

Hang in there - fingers crossed your special someone will show up SOON.

xx

natchar
27-09-2006, 11:20 AM
Dear Ellie72, Sarahstarfish and tinystar,

thank you very much for your best wishes. I am trying to cope as patiently as I can.

Natalie