16 months apart

[Lisawa]

Anyone else got kids with this age gap.

I am starting to worry how I will cope. Especially considering DD is still not sleeping thru.

love to hear from others with similar gap.

Thanks
lisa

[3cherubs]

hello,

My two girls are 16 and 1/2 months apart and it has all gone pretty well.
The elder one did not really know what was going on at first, so she tended to ignore the little one. She did not get jealous either, but my first born is an angel / textbook type child so she is pretty good anyhow.
It is tiring, but my husband is a great help.

Hope it all goes well.

sandra

arwen 02/02/04
rosie 12/06/05

[Peaceangels]

Don't worry Lisawa, it is hard in the beginning (maybe the first 6mths), so get a support group set up now, but it gets easier the older they are, my two are now great mates (2.5 and 16months).
They are 14 and 1/2 months apart (not planned that way, it took us 5 years to fall pregnant with DS1, then as my DH puts it "30seconds" to fall pregnant with DS2) and we wouldnt have it any other way!
My best advice for you is to stick to some sort of routine (same meal time / sleep / bath etc) as it makes life much easier (the little ones know whats coming next, even though it is boring for mum).
As said in the previous post the eldest is not at the stage where they are "jealous" which makes it easier, but when I came home from hospital DH walked in with new bub and I spent time with DS1 and gave him a special gift, just to make that transition of new person in the house a little easier.
GOOD LUCK and ENJOY!

[baileys mum]

my first two are 15 months apart

it is just something you do,i never really thought about it,just plodded along.

i did not plan to have them so close,but glad i did now.

when i had my 3rd child,it was a bigger gap between (4 & 5 yrs)and i found it harder as the older ones wanted more attention.

but with my 4th i have a 9yr gap and i am loving the way the older ones can play and help with him.

and if we have more i will definitely do it real soon before the gap gets to big! :)

it can get a bit hard and tiring,none of mine ever slept through ,but amazingly the kids seem to fall into a routine and they were waking at same times,so it was easier only getting up at one time not twice!

good luck and i`m sure you will manage quite well.

its amazing what we can do when we have to :)

[Supermum]

Hi Lisawa

I'm pretty much in the same boat as Peaceangels ... 2½ and 16 months. I've responded to a similar post and copied it below for you.

At first it was quite difficult because at 15 months our toddler didn't even know what a baby was so when his little sister came along he was a little confused. It was also hard for me to get into the swing of things but as said before in other threads ... you soon find your own rhythm, as do they. I have many photo's of Carter feeding on the left while I was reading to Ben on the right!

My two are very close and I can see that relationship blossoming each and every day. They will only be a year apart at school as well.

Most of my friends are only now having their second so there's nearly 3 years between them and they are all saying that they had forgotten how hard it is to have a new bub.

Regardless, you cope because there is no choice but to cope!

Besides which - you're a mum ... you'll do just fine ... we always do!