Breast Cancer

[Manxie]

Not sure what I want to ask really so if this is all over the place please excuse me.

As some of you may know my family are in the UK. My father has been unwell for a long time and there are a few threads of mine worrying about him, how I will cope when I receive the dreaded call etc.

Well here comes the big bombshell. Turns out that I was right to be worried but not so much about him but my mum. I found out yesterday that she has discovered a large lump in her breast. They have done a lot of tests and she will get the results of the biopsy next week. No one is saying anything much but her age alone puts her in an extremly high risk catagory and I cant believe that it will be anything other than cancer.

All I can do right now is prepare myself and be a bit practical (my coping mechanism). I just wanted to know if anyone else has had a close family member with breast cancer, it would be good to chat to someone else who has been through it. Also on that vein does anyone know of some good websites that I can have a look at. I "googled" but was a bit overwhelmed.

I dont know how I am going to deal with all the practicalities of this. My head is spinning. One of my concerns is how will DD (1yr) be affected if I have to take her to the UK away from my DH to help out. She was beside herself when he was away for four days last week???


Thanks:gloomy:

[LittleBoysRock]

Manxie,

I just wanted to offer you :hugs:

I dont have any advice but just wanted to let you know I am thinking about you and your Mum, I hope she gets good news!:fingerscrossed:

[Cheekychops]

How difficult this is for you - :hugs: ,

Best thing to do is not panic too much until the biopsy results come back.... :fingerscrossed: no cancer!!!!

[Lisa C]

Hi Manxie,

I can't really offer any practical advice - but i did want to say that my heart goes out to you, and that i really hope that the results come back with some good news for your mum. I'm stating the obvious - but it must be so hard, being so far away.

I hope someone on here can offer you the advice you need soon.

Take care of yourself; and try to stay positive.

:hugs:
Lx

[~EmsMum~]

oh wow, thats horrible :hugs:

[Lambie]

Manxie,

Firstly :hugs: to you and your family.

Please let me share my story with you...

My Nana was diagnosed with lung cancer, so she came to live with us and started treatment. After 18months of chemo, the cancer had metastasised to her kidneys, cervix, breast and bone. She eventually lost her fight. 2 months later my Mother discovered a lump in her right breast. She was diagnosed with a lymphomic cancer and lost part of her breast and armpit. She was only 37yrs of age at the time. To make matters worse I was working in the Cytology Dept. at the same hospital. My Mother finally received the all clear last year...11 years later!:thumbsup:

As you can imagine having this happen back to back put a hell of a lot of pressure and strain on the family unit. Although, I was living at home at the time, I know it can be tough, and can only imagine how hard this must be with being so far away.

Please feel free to PM me for support.

[Tam-I-Am]

Hi Manxie,

I'm so sorry to hear about your mum and dad's ill health. How awful and stressful for you! :hugs:

While I haven't had anyone in my family have breast cancer, several people in both my and my DH's family have had cancer of one type or another. Its an awful illness, and so hard, not only on the person with the illness, but on the family too.

I just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you, and, as you asked for good websites - here (http://www.breastcancer.org/) is the American Breastcancer association website. It has some really good information.

Good luck, I hope you and you mum get some good news next week when she gets the result of her biopsy.

[Wivi]

Hi,

21 years ago when I was only 9 my Mum was diagnosed with breast cancer. It's a long story but at the time things were not all that optimistic. I have two older brothers and my Dad is a farmer. We did not live near family at all.

I stayed with relatives in Sydney for a little while during the time my Mum was having treatment but most of the time I was at home with the rest of the family. My Dad tried to keep life as normal as possible and we continued all our normal sports etc.

My Mum, after 18 months of treatment made a full recovery and is still a very well and active lady. Two years ago she was her community's Australian of the Year for her work with the Breast Cancer Association.

Keep your chin up, say lots of prayers and know that there is wonderful medicine out there these days!

Feel free to PM me if you like. I also had a close friend who 5 years ago at 27 was also diagnosed with BC. She is still here today and is very well!.

[Manxie]

Hi

Thank you everyone for your lovely posts and to those who have shared your stories and have shown that there is hope.

Thanks for the link clarabelle I will check it out.

I am keeping everything :fingerscrossed: crossed that it is just a false alarm and that its just a benign lump. My head spins if I think of it being anything more than that.

I will keep you posted. Thanks again

[Manxie]

:fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed:

[Kizmet]

Hi There


My DF aunty ust got diagnosed with breast cancer. It was very scary at first but she had the lump removed and is now having radiotherapy. We are all staying really positive and optimistic. If you ever want to chat or vent anything please feel free to pm me. :hugs: and i have my :fingerscrossed: for you too!

[Manxie]

Bad news received last night, it is as feared the big C :crying: :crying:

I will close this thread now