Having a third child????????????

[shellsbubs]

Just wondering if there is anyone out there who is experiencing feelings the same as me - we have two lovely children DD 5 1/2 yo and DS 3yo, as we had both a daughter and a son we pretty much decided we would not have anymore, well now my youngest has just turned three all of a sudden out of nowhere i am feeling like i would love another baby, and believe me everywhere i go or look there is either a cute newborn or a pregnant lady??? We had sold our baby furniture etc. when moving interstate and people also express their view - some say why not have another others say god what do you want another one for, i feel confused and my DH also feels confused and is worried one child will get left out. i am also 31yo now am i getting too old????does anyone have any advice?

[Cheekychops]

I think once our babies aren't babies anymore, it is the majority of womens natural instinct to panic and want another one - that's how we are made, that's how the human race goes on..... You need to think long term... do you want another cute little baby, or do you want a child that you will raise and be responsible for, for the next 20 years? Can you afford another one? How is your healht, - are you happy to have another pregnancy and childbirth put to it? I was middle child of 3 (Older brother younger sister) and DH was middle child of 3 (Older and younger sister) and both of us swore we would never have 3 children - it was 2 or 4 and we didn't especially want 4 so we stuck to the two.... 2 boys - which shocks a lot of people. How can we possibly not want another one to have a girl???? Well, we're happy with 2 boys.

I think you need to give it a little bit of time - not years, just a couple of weeks, before jumping in bed tomorrow and DTD and conceiving iykwim..... talk about all the ins and outs of not only impact of brand new baby on your other 2, your relationship, your finances etc, but of another permanent family member.

Hope you figure it out....:hugs:

[melbryan]

I am 30 years old and only ever wanted 2 children. As time has gone on we have decided to have one more. The time is now to decide as we are both getting older and want our kids to be around the same age.
We do have 2 boys but a third won't be so bad. We have space issues and car issues but we are willing to be the best parents we can provide what ever our children need. Three is our limit our finances will not allow for more. We will be happy with this.
You can only decide when you are both at that point rather than predicting what you may feel in the future. Don't worry about furniture and things like that most people are willing to lend or you canbuy second hand furniture.

[shell13]

You need to do what you feel is right for yourself and family. I'm expecting my third and went through alot of turmoil in making that decision I am 39 and will be 40 when I give birth and always thought that it was to old to be having babies, my husband on the other hand really wanted another so I thought I'll go off the pill and if I fall before my 40th it was meant to be if not I have 2 beautiful children and I'm happy with that.
Anyway obviously I did fall and I think at the end of the day the right decision was made!
Good luck!

[blessedmummy]

yep.. i feel the same too... but my girls are only 3 and almost two.. so my husband and i have decided to wait a few years and then have another child, cause it would be alot easier then! anyhow.. hope you make the right decision for you and your family.. good luck!

[fozzie]

I know what you mean, I have managed to persuade my DH into having another and it will be our 3rd. We already have 2 boys but I have always said I don't think I have done having children yet. DH wasn't really keen for anymore but he had this thing about one being left out an also not having anymore children after he is 35, he's come around and he too would like another one but is still worried about being over 35 etc... He has also said that this is it definatley not having 4 :shame: Well I talked him around this time it might work again :devil6: . No I think 3 will be it for us that is if we are lucky enough to conceive.

[kymmy]

I think people asume once you have the pigeon pair, you should be happy.
That is society not the individual. I think you are clucky! You have had some great responses here - I agree take your time just to look at the big picture. Its true that once your baby is no longer your baby you tend to feel ready for another - that is survival of the human race - human nature if you like.
I suggest having great chats with your husband.
And all the best :hugs:

[mama2cierra]

and by the way, you are NOT getting too old. your only 30!! your in your prime and probably why you want more kiddies!! speaking of that my mother was 41 when she gave birth to my youngest brother and all is well!! cept for maybe 2 hyper and hormonal emotional and sensitive ppl in the house due to puberty and menopause!! :eek: :D