How to do it with 2?

[waterlily]

DD is 14 months and we are wanting to start TTC but I'm soo worried about DD. For one she is a full time co-sleeper and it's just not possible or safe to have a toddler in the bed with a newborn. I don't know what to do as it is I have to lay with her every nap. I have brought a single bed that's next to ours but I just don't know of she is ready. I'm soo worried about DD and that I'm just being selfish in wanting another bub.

I don't want her to feel like the new baby will be replacing her.

So.. How did you do it?

[Thermolicious]

You just do it, one day at a time, the same way people AP multiples :) Some days are easier, some are harder. I found it a lot easier having our 2 queen mattresses on the floor, we sleep DS2, Me, DF, DS1.

[Bellini]

I don't have two (yet!) but I know a few mums who AP with more than one baby - it can be done. Is it possible for Lil to sleep on the other side of your DH, like Thermo mentioned? And you can have the newborn next to you. If you prefer her going in the single bed, remember she won't be 14 months when it happens - she will be closer to two (not sure if that's any consolation or not!)

[Bellini]

I should add though, if you change her sleeping arrangements, do it a few months before bub arrives.

[Just Add Water]

I'm 6 weeks off having number 2 and my 20 month old has just started waking at 3am and screaming until I take him back into bed with me. He stopped co sleeping when he was about 10 months so it wasn't something I expected. I'm having the bassinette set up next to my bed and the cot is on the other side. I'm kind of hoping that between the three of us we'll figure it out. It's just me in the bed now though so that makes things a little easier...

I'm hanging to be able to carry them both at once. I've got both carriers ready to go, one of the back and one on the front :D

[greengables]

Mine are 22mths apart (so DD was 12mths old when I fell pregnant)

DD slept between us every night the little precious. I found newborn DS would generally happily sleep in his little bassinet next to our bed....then as he got older he also wanted to be in there with us. I should add that my DH and I are fairly tall/big people but we have a King sized bed. Still its a bit squashy...

We are trying to get them to sleep in their own beds on their own now.... but it aint happening! I only get through it with patience thinking - when they're 18 they wont want to do this - and it'll go soo quickly.

When DS was born, my DD LOOOOVED him. Called him her 'baby brudder'. She would say "I..... hoooold....baby....brudder???... I .... holllllddddd....him????' preciouuusssssss.
:valentine:

I think it's sad when ppl have a second and forget the first is still a baby. I would say to DD "I have TWO babies!" - In fact I STILL say this to them.:D

My DD would repeat it: "Two babies!" there was no jealousy at all - i think because she was so little but also I just smothered them both!

You will easily do it - just go with it. You'll love it.

[Bellini]

JAW - how are you wearing both? I'm thinking for us it will be ergo on the back and sling at the front...but would that even work?

Sorry for hijacking WL!!

[Just Add Water]

I've got a manduca I plan on putting on my back and my Beco on the front. Both have newborn inserts so I can switch them around if that doesn't work. I've tried both carriers on at once and it's a bit fiddly to start with in getting them on at the same time but it comes with practice. Of course doing it with actual kids rather than dolls might prove a bit trickier lol

[Bellini]

Ok cool, thanks :D

[Everyday]

I would try her in the single bed next to yours!
My DS3 sleeps in a single bed next to mine, then when bubs comes she will sleep with me...

Ds slept with me untill i was 12 weeks pregnant, then i felt it was time to move him into his bed nxt to mine. So he would sleep better without me moving so much and him maybe kicking me in the tummy...

I go to bed with him then when he falls asleep i get up again or go to mine.

At first he woke during the night and i would just jump in with him again til he was asleep.
After a month when it came time to sleep after reading he tells me to go to my own bed :laughing:
Also you can get a safe n secure baby sleeper which has hard sides and would be good for times you all sleep together.

good luck!

[Laksa]

You just get through. I remember some nights I didn't know who I was getting up to!
I moved DS1 into a single bed when I was 6mo pregnant, I would sleep with him in there. When bub arrived, there were some nights when I'd be BFing him in the single bed patting DS1 :)