When did you know...

[supa_star323]

That you only wanted to have one child?
DS is over four now, and I am still conflicted as to whether I am happy with him being an only child or whether I would like to have one mor one day. I am not in a position to at the moment anyways, but I bounce between being super clucky to not being interested in more children at all.
I get super jealous when I find out people are pregnant, but then again I also have a part of me that is constantly glad I do not have more children.
I almost feel like I am stuck in the middle, completely by my own doing, and I wish my head could decide one way or another so I could reach some kind of peace about my decision.

[Femme-Fetale]

Single Mummy here too, so the choice was pretty much taken from me anyhow.

I do remember how ever, when my son was just about to turn 4, I felt the sudden urge to give him a sibling. It upset me that he'd never have anyone that close to him, the way a sibling could be. And that when I'm gone, he'd be alone.

It took about 6 mths of severely desiring another child before I chose to just get on with life, not just be a mummy any more. I made a flexible life plan for myself, study, work, home life, etc and these changes, this life plan, does not, and will not be able to hold another child.

I am now fast approaching 30, and that was my cut off age for kids anyhow, so now I am resigned [and now perfectly ok with] the fact that he will remain a single child unless I meet a man with his own children also.

Perhaps making some life plans of your own would help you?

[surfergal]

After my 7 week scan for our DD who was conceived from IVF. I realised how lucky we were and that I didn't want to go through it all again. Then when DD was diagnosed chronic reflux at 17 days, there was no way we were going back to have another. We also didn't have any embryos frozen and we would of had to of completed another full cycle of IVF.

Very happy with our gorgeous little DD..

[Amara]

After I gave birth. As in immediately afterwards. Prior to that I thought I would ttc as soon as I could. I became a single mum when he was 7 months old and I am very glad I have just him. He keeps me on my toes and I do not have time for another child.

[klb65]

hi there,
I am waaaaaay older than yourself but I have finally come to the conclusion that if life is good at the moment, why question it? Sometimes, the more you question the more unsettled you get in general.
So, from my own perspective as a total 'over-thinker' trying very hard not to be...if you don't have to worry about it don't :-D

[willowtree78]

I had always thought that I'd have 2 kids but after having my DD and her & I having such a strong bond, I really didn't want anything to change and I thought then that I'd just have the one and give her the best life I possibly could. I was an only child and Mum & I are so close so I just felt like that's what I wanted with DD and me (although I was a little lonely growing up and didn't make friends easily which was a concern with my decision).
The only thing with my change of heart is that my DH was disappointed as we always said we'd have 2 and he really wanted a brother or sister for DD so she had someone to play with and I felt guilt coz I'd always agreed...until I decided I only wanted one. I honestly felt I couldn't possibly love another child as much as I loved DD and that it wouldn't be fair to bring another bub into our family when I would so clearly love DD more. I agreed to try for another for the peace but really had no intention of getting pregnant again...it took so long to have DD that I wasn't concerned...and making sure I didn't DTD at the best times was my plan...but alas, it was meant to be despite my best efforts to avoid it and I'm now nearly 20 weeks pregnant.....AND COULDN'T BE HAPPIER! :yelclap:
When AF was 2 days late, my heart sunk and I was so distraught. It took me a few months to accept it. I was very depressed and I really didn't feel an bond happening but once it started moving,,,how could I not. Just had my 19 week scan yesterday and I'm so in love and I know now that I'll love both my babies just the same :valentine: