act mean because you dont want to show emotions?

[dioriffic]

hey my husband FIFO 3/1. when hes home its so great. the night before he flies out, i get all weird. like "dont touch me" "whatever". i dont know why but it always happen. i guess i dont like to look weak in front of him and to show that am coping with our first daughter 7 months. when hes at site a few days in, i just become negative and i see everything as bad. i have always been use to "the man not being home". my dad worked away through out my child and adult hood. my parents relationship were difference due to a disable sister it was very hard. 25years of marriage my dad left my mum.

him being away is hard for the both of us. lucky in a way we have our dream house but still on a tight budget. thats the only pro about this. i dont know anyone that partners work away and no one understand and its sh*ts when i hear them say "i'm in your shoes too" when they complain that their partner doesnt clean or whatever.its not the same. just be thankful that hes home. i'm from perth i would love to chat to anyone. my email is shayonbaby@hotmail.com

[lulululu]

Talk to him about it and youll probably find you do it less, as it's a defense mechanism and once you've talked you hopefully won't need to defend yourself

[dioriffic]

but thats just it. we talk all the time. i've told him why i do it, but yet i still do it. i believe its a childhood thing when i my dad always goes to work and my parents relationship wasnt very affectionate for what i saw of them. my husband and i had a hard childhood, me living in the shadows of my sister and he had a horrible family breakups . no one likes the police to take you away from your father's care. from all what had happen in the past of ours lives we dont want that life to repeat itself for our children.

[Laksa]

Being a FIFO wife is HARD!
There's a chat thread on here for parents with partners working away :)

[Seacretsquirrel]

:hugs: to you DH is in the navy so sort of similar - you love it when they are home but you have that run down to them going agian (for me I get all teary a couple of days before he leaves) then you have the horrible first few days of getting back into the its just mummy routine then it is nearly time for them to be back *rinse and repeat*
DH had been (he has a shore posting for now) doing the in and out thing (on patrol boats so 8 on 4 off weeks that is) so a bit different to 3/1 I think the only thing you can do is try to be aware of when you are doing it and try to make an effort to curb it a bit if you can.
Big hugs to you and keep on keeping on:hugs: