Is It Too Soon For Another

[Mrs J]

My DD is 8 months old and i can't seem to stop thinking about having another baby, is it to soon ? I feel i should be enjoying Lorelei first ?? Will they be to close together? I just don't know what to do. I love her very very much but i just feel like i want the next. Just a little confused wether to forget about it or do it.
All advice welcome...

[Dannii79]

In the end it is entirely upto you and DH as to when you start ttc again and it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks/says. My boys are 1 yr 9mths apart, we decided when DS1 turned 1 we would try again. I copped alot of s**t from people saying that it was too soon. It was the best thing we ever did. My boys are the best of mates (most of the time) and they always have someone to play with. I will admitt at times it can be pretty full-on having them closer together, but I wouldn't change it for the world.:thumbsup:

[Cheekychops]

Definately not too soon!!! My sons are 18 mths apart and I wouldn't do it any other way!!!

[jessgray]

i am up the duff with #2 right now (7 weeks to go :smiliedance: ) and my monsters will be 17.5 months apart :D
#2 was a complete surprise after a few months of ttc and health problems for me so a very welcome surprise but ask me in october how i feel lmao

[~Danni~]

we will have 12/13 months between our two and although it is a decision you guys need to make for us we feel that we have made the right decision!!

We knew we wanted our next and then we fell preg with #2 that same month... for a few weeks DF and I were a little freacked (even though it is what we wanted:rolleyes: ) We wondered if we could love both of the same, especially when DD is our whole life, or if one would get left out etc...

Now we have 11 weeks left till the lil man makes his entrance (give or take:p ) and since about 12 weeks we have not once questioned or worried about what is going to happen. While we know it wil be difficult we figure we will face the challanges no matter what age gap we would encounter different problems anyway! and I already feel like I have more than enough love for both my kiddies, :ecomcity:

ANYWAY just me prattling on, the decision has to feel right for both of you, I personally see so many benifits and positives to having your kids close together, Good luck with your decisiin thogugh!!:fingerscrossed:

[twolittlegirls]

Ours are going to be 18 months apart. We decided while we're in the baby stage we might as well keep going with it!!

[*~alegna~*]

bring on the babies!:smiliedance:

my DS is 12 weeks & we're going to start trying again in Dec/Jan so they will be roughly 15/16 months apart...all goig to plan. Thats it then for us....oven will be unplugged:yes:

Do what YOU feel is right for your little family:hugs:

[tweedledee*tweedledum]

My twins are 5 months and I am currently 8 weeks pregnant, so there will be exactly 12 months between my 3 children. If I had a choice I would have waited longer, but looks like it's all systems go! :D

[Niki]

my ds is 8months also and i am ttc #2, mthe time all depends on wat u want:D

[Sara's Boys]

Hey, if it's what you want, then it's no too soon. I had these feelings of guilt for my son, but he will benefit the most out of every one. He will learn to share and respect his little bro and will be close enough in age to play the same pretend games, they will go to school together for nearly all their years and there will be more love in your house.

Also, consider, you may not fall pg straightaway, and when you so you still have ages to spoil your 1st little babe.

Go with your gut feeling, it's usually right!

Good Luck!

[Melo]

There is going to be 15 and a half months between my 2 and this is the way we both wanted it - Having two babies close together!

If you think you can cope with 2, then go for it! :smiliedance:

[Mrs J]

Thanks everyone for your help, still not sure what im going to do but it's not something to rush so i will have a long hard think about it and do the pros and cons and ill see how i feel after that. Im also getting married in 8 weeks so we might TTC after that. :fingerscrossed:
THANKS AGAIN.

[DQ]

Ours are going to be 18 months apart. We decided while we're in the baby stage we might as well keep going with it!!

I totally agree!!

There is 5 years between #1 and #2 for me which was COMPLETE culture shock!!! I feel when you are "in the groove" of having a baby, and if you want more, you should stay "in the groove" IYKWIM

Hence the reason why there is only 15 months between #2 and #3 and 17 months between #3 and #4!!!

[~mia&ryan~]

Do what feels right. Mia is nearly 5 months and we would happily try for another now. The only thing stopping us is our wedding next september, but after that its all on!

[*~alegna~*]

Hey Em! ;)

Yeah we'd like #2 pretty soon....I don't wanna go back to work! :banghead:

[MummyCharmzy]

My youngest two are exactly 12 months apart (or could be technical and say about 35 minutes off 12 months apart lmao)

The age gap you're looking at now would be a much nicer gap imo, not too close, not too far! 12 months imo is too soon! My youngest is almost 3 months, older dd is almost 15 months, its a lot of hard work.. lots of fun, but yes lots of work.. especially with 2 other young children :D

[Mrs J]

Hi Girls,
THank you for all your replys they really helped and DF and i have decided to try for another starting this month, and if i dont fall this month i can fall on our wedding night in october as that when ill be Fertile, that would be a story to tell the baby :yelclap:, Thanks again your advise helped alot, i will keep you posted :thumbsup:

[Cheekychops]

Good luck!!! :thumbsup: My two are 18 1/2 mths apart and it was great!!! Wouldn't change a thing.....

[*Sparkles*]

I am currently expecting no. #1 at age 36. We had to have insemination so I would like to try for #2 after 6-8 months of giving birth. I am worried incase it doesn't happen as quickly next time and we may need IVF. If it does happen straight away, I will be more than happy to have them close together.
I reckon if you feel ready, then go for it :thumbsup:

[Mrs J]

Im being judged a bit about it everyone is saying its too soon im being silly, but like my DF said who cares it's what we want and we always have each other :smiliedance: so it doesnt matter what they think. I would like My kids close to be close growing up and id like to have my family all finished before i go back to work so im not starting and stoping work, i can stay at a job, as i dont like changes in work sort of situations.

[bronny-jane]

my dd's are 15 months apart, i got pg when dd 1 was 6 months old......it was hard at first but now i think its one of the smartest things ive ever done:D

[~mia&ryan~]

Hey Ange!!:hugs:
I know what you mean about going back to work!:thumbsdown: Maybe just a couple of hours a week to get more money for the wedding, or spending money for the honeymoon:smiliedance: If the wedding wasnt next year we would definately start soon cant wait to have another one!:D

[jo-anne.36]

:wave: hello lucknikn oh wow that is the day we got married we have been married for 5 years and been together for 21 years and ttc for 10 years had ivf for 8years good luck with your married and your 2 ttc :smiliedance: :smiliedance: :smiliedance: jo-anne

[Mrs J]

Hi girls thanks for all the messages, jsut an update we are TTC#2 this month and im in the 2WW atm which sucks. THis is the first month off the pill and first month of trying so im not holding my breath, but i fell on the pill with DD so anythings possible. Thanks Again for all your help. :fingerscrossed:

[blessedmummy]

yeah, its up to you and your dh to decide when you want to ttc, my girls are 15months apart, and they are the best of buddies and also its great cause they have each other to play with and look after and i wouldnt change it for anything!