Do you want more?

[RedPanda]

Seekrit's thread got me thinking about when people decide enough is enough. For those of you who have made a DEFINITE decision that you will not have any more children, when did you make this decision? During the final pregnancy? Or years after your last child? Or is the decision never really definite? It would also be interesting to hear from people who would LIKE another child, but for some reason (health problems, unco-operative DP/DH) are unlikely to. I have a rough idea in my head that I would like three children, but who knows how I'll feel after two?!

[*~alegna~*]

Hi Hazel - We're both June mummies!:hugs:

I was hell bent on 3 before DS now I an hell bent on 2. DH wants 4 but after DS I have come to the TRUTHFUL realisation that i am NOT the superhuman being that I thought I was I in myself I know that 2 is my limit.

[Ana Gram]

During my pregnancy, I decided that I had no interest in doing it again.

[*Chels*]

i HATED being preg.And my son is very strongwilled so its been tough!Hes still breatfed too,but Im just starting to feel less like a milk bar LOL.
Im still undecdied if I want another.If I do,it will still be a few years away.I wanna enjoy DS while hes young.

[Cheekychops]

DH definately only wanted 2, after 2 drunk with hormones I of course wanted more, but practically after my two not so flash pregnancies and 2 bouts of PND it wouldn't have been wise for me to have more. Turned out after DS2 my body didnt metabolise my hormones anyway and I ended up having a hysterectomy so decision now VERY FINAL!!! I am very happy with the two beautiful boys (5 and 4) that I have though!!!!

[RedPanda]

*bump*

Any one else? I am just curious whether some kind of instinct kicks in that says "That is it - no more kids" or whether it is outside circumstances!

Thanks to the ladies above for sharing! Hi Alegna! It's nice to meet another June mummy!

[Jem]

NO more....:no:

Dp would like another *girl*.. but i dont

[poshBecks]

Well... :rolleyes: hmm I am still undecided. I am happy with just 2, but I fear I may get clucky in a year or so. Dh says no more.

[meme]

we have made a family decision to stop at 3. this means dp has decided no more. and i have decided no more just yet:o . i find it very difficult to think no more forever....:p .

[~EmsMum~]

During my pregnancy, I decided that I had no interest in doing it again.

ditto :D

[rylea's mum]

hey
well before i wanted 2-3( see how we go)
dp wanted about 5( yeah right....i dont think so mister)

now well i dont think i want any more, i cant see myself sharing my time with another baby, i want to give 100% of my love to rylea....i know thats silly but for the moment thats how i am feeling.
and dp has cut his back to 2 lol

it is such a tough, and it upsets me sometimes that i have made this decision, but i realize that i may change my mind later down the track:D

[aardvark]

I always wanted 3.

DH always said one of each, or stop at 3.

After two DD's, we now have DS. I'm 40, and was pretty sure while I was expecting DS that I was NOT going to do it again. I enjoyed being pregnant, but being pregnant and working was hard, even though I have a desk job.

The problem is that now I feel like I REALLY want #4, but I am scared witless about it, because of the co$t of raising an extra child, and because I found being pregnant much harder physically at close to 40 than in my 20s or early 30s like with the girls - so what would it be like over 40??.

DH was going for the big little snip, but we've held off on that for the moment at least.

We're going to see how I feel in about 12 months time. DS is only 7 months old, after all. At my age, though, we can't afford to muck about - and I also can't be having a baby when DD#1 is doing year 12, I think that would be unfair on her.

[3 bambinos]

When pregnant with DS I was NEVER going to do it again. I quickly changed my mind though and am now trying for #2

Ideally I'd like 3 or 4 but financially it will have to be 2

[Areca]

I always wanted 2 before pg..that changed to 3 when pg. Now DD is here dp and I are both thinking there is a chance of 4 or 5. We love being parents and I love being pg and giving birth! Can't wait to do it all again:thumbsup:

[spiritedfamily]

I haven't had to stop for any health reasons so I hope you don't mind hearing about our decisions in regards to this matter.

I have always wanted a large family and before I met hubby, I used to get depressed because I worried that I might not meet hubby till I was well into my 30's. This might seem trivial to some but I've always felt called to be a wife and mother.

So the question when do you stop? that is such a tricky one...with this pregnancy we are reaching the magic number we always quoted...so what do we do once baby is born? I am finding it challenging to make a permanent decision. I don't like the idea of not having the opportunity to have another one...yet I like the idea of the freedom it offers to move onto the next phase. Lately I've come to the conclusion that I ought to enjoy this pregnancy while I can and give it time. I'm hoping we will just know when its time...once baby has been born.
Material limits have never been a reason for us...the decision has always come from our love for each other and wanting to spread that around through the precious souls in our life.

[Pippi Longstocking]

My husband decided for me - he's mean like that :p . I want one more but if I am being entirely honest, I have to admit that I want one more birth and new born, not one more child which I realise is a terrible reason to have another so I guess we won't have any more. But 5 is an odd number - I keep telling my husband that we ought to even it up a bit:D .
Damona, I sooo relate to this
I don't like the idea of not having the opportunity to have another one...yet I like the idea of the freedom it offers to move onto the next phase.. That's how I feel too. The thought of never being pregnant again makes me really sad but also excited for the next phase of my life.

[WeThree]

My DH and I have decided 'no more' but lately my heart has been saying 'no more....for now'. Part of me would love another one later on down the track, but like Them, I think I want another birth experience and newborn more than the whole raising them to adulthood stage thing :laughing:

Its tough, Im looking forward to seeing my children grow, and to having more time with my DH, but at the same time I mourn for the fact that I will never have another baby in the house, will never have another bubs at my breast, and never give birth again :(

[Bubble*Crazy]

My DH and I have decided 'no more' but lately my heart has been saying 'no more....for now'. Part of me would love another one later on down the track, but like Them, I think I want another birth experience and newborn more than the whole raising them to adulthood stage thing :laughing:

That's what I'm trying to sort out myself! If it's just the lovey-dovey part or the whole shebang!

I was always of a 2 baby mind, but during my last pg and because DS is such a trouble-free bub (false illusion, I'm fully aware!) I'm thinking, maybeeeee 1 more. ;)

[LittleBoysRock]

I didnt want anymore while I was pregnant but now I cant wait to have another baby. I am stopping at 2 though!!:laughing:

[FOURtunate]

For me, 4 was plenty.

I have other reasons... uterine probs, bad pregs, DH who would sooner cut off his ****, and I quite like having some time to myself now.

But who knows. If I was richer, younger, healthier....with a live in nanny, chef, driver....

[MummyCharmzy]

I would like one more (being our 5th... my 4th), for health reasons we are still unsure as to whether or not this can happen and will be going against my surgeons and doctors wishes if we do have one last bub. This being because I've had 3 c-sects already and the last one was rather complicated and I have had 3 very compliacted pregnancys with pre-eclampsia, gestational diabetes etc resulting in 2 premmies and my third made it to almost 39 weeks but we were told 'any day now' she would be born from 21 weeks and were not expected to go past 28 weeks under any circumstances.. miracles do happen tho!