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Has anyone ever gone through their whole life (up until now) only ever wanting 2 children, but because you got 2 the same sex, you had a 3rd to try and get the other sex?
I only ever wanted girls, or maybe 1 of each, but I have 2 boys and am still disappointed over it. For that reason I am considering trying for a 3rd just to see if I could get my much wanted little girl. But I just dont know if I want 3 if I ended up with 3 boys (hard work with hyper boys...)
Has anyone else been through the same thing? What did you do? How did it turn out?
Just curious as to what other people in the same situation have done...
Blairysmum
25-10-2010, 23:19
My parents were in a similar situation to you only they had three girls, they were in sure to try again but ultimately they asked themselves do they want another baby weather it be a girl or a boy and they did so they had there fourth child who was a boy but they would have been just as happy had he turned out to be a her! So I think that's the important question, do you want another child if it's going to be a boy!?
The C Team
25-10-2010, 23:28
I've only recently had this conversation with DH. We decided that we would love 3. But if we don't have one of each we will go back for one more. I really don't mind what we have though as I got the little girl I always dreamed of :bee:
mummaof4
25-10-2010, 23:40
happened to my sis.. 2boys and tried for a girl.. ended up having twin boys! :laughing:
she loves them to bits ofcourse!! and gets to have her girly moments with my 3girls :)
Id always wanted 3 kids but after a rough and hard pregnancy and labour, DF decided that he was happy with our 2 girls (even though DD1 isnt his) I know he really wanted DD2 to be a boy so he could have his little man but, well, we had a 50/50 chance of getting either.
I had also come around to the idea of only having the 2 girls even though many people were trying to convince us to try again.
So when we got our little surprise that is now baking, needless to say i was very upset.
I dont really care if its a boy or girl and DF surprised me by saying the same (i thought he would really want a boy)
Naturally everyone is saying they hope its a boy but a girl would fit into our house, family and lifestyle just as well as her sisters do.
mummyjac
26-10-2010, 13:21
Yep, I know how you feel :yes:. We are going to try once more for a girl, probably late next year. I want to try all the gender swaying things and give it our best shot. Then, if I have another boy, at least i know it was meant to be. I totally sympathise :hugs:.
Im in the same position. We have 2 awesome boys, I have always wanted 3 but have a terrible time when pregnant.
I always think about having a third and I always dreamed of having a girl,at times it drives me crazy just thinking about it but then I think if we did try again and had another boy how would i feel,is it worth taking the chance and then maybe being disappointed.
So now for me the option is always there I guess to try again but for now im just going to enjoy my boys and see what happens and try not think about it so much,but im sure if we do try i we will also try the gender swaying.
Good luck with what ever you decide.:)
MummyNanny
28-10-2010, 13:45
My friend had 3 boys and then had an "oopsy" and it was a girl :D
Isn't it funny, here I am with one of each, a gorgeous daughter and a beautiful son but I am thinking of a third for another girl. If I had two girls to start with we would have stopped even though my husband is stoked we had a boy. I wasnt so excited but now he is here I wouldnt change him for the world. I am very close to my sister so as we had our daughter first I was hoping for a girl so she too could have a close relationship with her sister. I guess its their life not mine so it will be nice she has a brother which I never had. As someone earlier in the replies said, only go the third if you will be just fine [in all its sense] that its not what you may have wanted.
Be careful!! I know someone who wanted only 2 kids but really wanted a girl so kept trying - she ended up with 5 boys before giving up!! :eek:
I would seriously shoot myself - no WAY would I have 5 boys - or 5 of any kind!!! If I did go for a 3rd, that's be it, either way. But I know how disappointed I'd be if I got another boy - dont think I could do it, so...
And 5 boys - can you imagine how many bandaids, bottles of betadiene and trips to the ER that would entail??? Not to mention lego blocks up the nose, bugs and lizards through the house - ugh - couldn't imagine it
joalisha
03-11-2010, 11:59
I understand how u feel, im in the same place, i have 2 girls and my hubby really would love to have a boy! im really not as keen as him, im so happy with my girls! i did not have easy pregnancy so it makes me love my girls even more! dont get me wrong i would love to have a boy! but nothing is 100%!
I have 2 amazing girls and I am in 2 minds about having a 3rd.... My DH is happy with just the 2 girls but I feel like I would love him to have a son if that makes any sense... Thats the only reason why I would go again.... so he would have a boy to take to the footy, races, etc etc, he says he does not long for a son but I just feel that every man would want a little boy just as many women want a little girl... ah... He is content with 2 and only 2 and does not want any more kids
I have 2 amazing girls and I am in 2 minds about having a 3rd.... My DH is happy with just the 2 girls but I feel like I would love him to have a son if that makes any sense... Thats the only reason why I would go again.... so he would have a boy to take to the footy, races, etc etc, he says he does not long for a son but I just feel that every man would want a little boy just as many women want a little girl... ah... He is content with 2 and only 2 and does not want any more kids
My husband actually wanted a little girl more than anything! Because little girls love their daddy's so much! And I never felt any particular need for a daughter. So it is possible he is just happy with two little girls!
OP - i have no real advice, except make sure you will be happy to have a baby of either gender before you TTC. I hope you can make a decision that is right for your family.
I know exactly how you feel.
All I wanted was girls and all I got was boys. After having DS2 though, I pretty much accepted my fate.. so when we decided to TTC #3, I'd already accepted that this bub would also be a boy and had boys names and nursery theme already picked out. Well imagine my surprise at my gender scan when the sonographer told me it was a girl. I've since had two more scans and both times ive been told it's also a girl (I'm still having trouble believing it to be honest).
So it CAN happen.. but unless you are prepared to have another boy, then Im not sure it is worth the risk.
Good luck... Sending you lots of girl vibes :)
sammyplus3
03-11-2010, 23:34
i only ever wanted 2 kids too 1 boy 1 girl but i caught the baby bug love being preggers and babies. i had 2 girls from previous relationship my current DH and i have had a baby together cos i wanted a boy and we got our little man
a couple i used to know had 3 boys and really wanted that girl 5 boys now and have given up on that little pink dress
nataliej
04-11-2010, 12:35
Isn't it funny, here I am with one of each, a gorgeous daughter and a beautiful son but I am thinking of a third for another girl. If I had two girls to start with we would have stopped even though my husband is stoked we had a boy. I wasnt so excited but now he is here I wouldnt change him for the world. I am very close to my sister so as we had our daughter first I was hoping for a girl so she too could have a close relationship with her sister. I guess its their life not mine so it will be nice she has a brother which I never had. As someone earlier in the replies said, only go the third if you will be just fine [in all its sense] that its not what you may have wanted.
This sounds exactly like my situation. I had a girl and a boy but had hoped for a girl so my daughter could have a sister like I had. Am stoked we had a boy now - and both my kids get along great. Would love another little girl though too.
With regards to the first question,
my aunt was desperate to have a boy and ended up with 5 girls before you got her boy (then had one more girl :laughing:).
A friend had 3 boys and got pregnant again with the hopes of getting a girl and got twin boys.
Another friend had two girls and got pregnant with another girl.
Whatever you decide, just make sure you'd be happy to add a third child to the family regardless of the sex.
I think you have to think how you would feel if you had another boy.
I personally wouldn't have another baby if I was desperate for one particular sex.
And 5 boys - can you imagine how many bandaids, bottles of betadiene and trips to the ER that would entail??? Not to mention lego blocks up the nose, bugs and lizards through the house - ugh - couldn't imagine it
I think there is too much stereotyping in this thread.
I actually went to the emergency more times than my brothers put together. I've had sticthes so many times, boys aren't the only ones like that.
And boys aren't the only ones who like football. And some boys don't like football.
We've had this decission but more as humour then seriousness. We always decided on the number 4 but DH likes to remind me sometimes that if we have 4 girls he may just want to try for a 5th lol then I kindly remind him that he could have 5 girls then! I don't really see myself with 4 girls anyways so hopefully we get a little man somewhere thrown in the mix :)
I feel a bit the same, have 2 boys who i love dearly, but there's a little part of me that would love a daughter and i know it would make DH happy to have a baby girl, cause the boy's are total mummies boys i love it, but he'd definatley love a daddy's girl :yes: Still undecided whether to TTC again or not. It all just seems like hard work! :laughing:
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