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jessi
29-08-2006, 13:48
OK- this is REALLY long... apologies!


It all began at 3am on 25th August 2006… I was awoken with a pop and my waters gushing out over my legs and onto the bed. I quickly woke Nat and he grabbed me a towel... and then another... and then another... I managed to soak about 10 towels.
I made a dash to the shower and covered the floor in water and then stood in the shower for maybe 15 minutes with it gushing out of me. We were pretty sure I lost about 3 liters of fluid!
My belly halved in size and I was having some strong contractions... I called the hospital at 8am (after trying to get some more MUCH needed sleep!!) and they have advised me to come in. I wanted to avoid going to the hospital too soon at all costs, and asked if I could just rest at home until the contractions were stronger. They said no and insisted I come in right away.
Sticking to my original plan, I didn’t go in straight away… I rested some more, finished packing my bags and relaxed, knowing that I was going to be more comfortable at home.
At 11am, I told Nat that we should probably head to the hospital as the contractions were getting more painful and I didn’t know how much longer I could sit at home. He showered and MIL got ready to head over.
When we arrived, the Middies were shocked that I had waited so long to come in. They thought my waters had broken around 8am when I had called them, but when I said that they had actually ruptured at 3am, the middies went into a state of panic. They immediately hooked me up to the machines to monitor the baby and my contractions… I don’t think they really believed I was in labour as I was still talking and walking and had a smile on my face.
To make it worse, the monitoring equipment would drop out every time I had a massive contraction, making it look like I wasn’t in labour at all!! All I wanted to do was get up off the bed and walk around, but the middy I had was insistent I stayed where I was. I then just said “Listen I need to go to the bathroom.” And took the straps off. When she came back in, she said that she needed me back on the machines and that they were going to start me on a syntocinin drip to bring on labour.
We looked at her like she was mad. We explained clearly that I was NOT going to be hooked up to the machines again and that we would NOT be having the drip because I was actually in labour- even though she didn’t believe me.
It was about this point we asked for another midwife. Within 10minutes, another midwife, Sharney (who I had met before and thought was lovely) walked through the door. At this point, I was on a mat on the floor with the birthing ball having really strong and painful contractions. We went through our birth plan with her and she thought it was really great that we wanted such a natural birth.
Sharney kept an eye on bubs heartbeat and said I was doing really well dealing with the contractions, and breathing through them etc. Nat was sitting with me on the floor rubbing my back and holding me- giving me words of encouragement. I was visualizing breathing the pain up into my chest and then blowing the pain out… it worked, but not for long.
It was about 3pm that the contractions started getting unbearable. I couldn’t go through a contraction without tears streaming down my cheeks. We tried swinging my hips, kneeling on the mat, heat packs, walking and sitting on the toilet. I requested a hot shower, so in I went. Nat held the shower head and moved it across my back, the water was so soothing, although I had to grip onto the wall handles tightly for each contraction and had my head shoved into the corner of the shower to help with pain.
After this I moved to the bed and then back to the toilet a few times, I had people reminding me to empty my bladder but every time I went to the toilet, I felt like pushing and it made it impossible to wee.
After a while the tears returned and eventually I ended up sitting on the toilet, rocking my pelvis, sobbing into Nat’s chest. I kept saying to him “Nat I can’t do this… it hurts too much” He kept on holding me and giving me words of encouragement. We decided to try moving around abit more and ended up on a mat on the floor again with a beanbag lodged beneath me. The contractions were so strong and the tears kept coming… I asked for anything, and Nat asked if there was anything he could give me to alleviate even abit of pain for me. (I could see that it was upsetting for him to see me in so much pain, but he kept so strong.)
Sharney offered me the gas, and I accepted eagerly. I kept moving between the mat and the toilet, each time, the contractions intensified and id grip onto something so tight and pull the gas into my mouth with huge gulps.
Nat’s Mum and Sharney started stroking my arms and lower back lightly, this helped immensely with the pain and Nat squeezed my hips together with each contraction to take some of the edge off. While the gas didn’t take the pain away, it made my head spin and I guess it gave me something else to concentrate on. Nat said I was off my face for almost 3 hours of the birth.
Sharney then asked if I would like to know how far along I am, and I agreed to let her do an internal. I was only 6cm dilated. I was so disappointed- I was sure I felt lie pushing, but at that stage, pushing would only make the cervix swell and mean a C-Section for me. At this stage, the doctor came along and asked to speak to Sharney. He was concerned, after hearing from the other midwife, that syntocinin hadn’t been started yet. (Because apparently, I wasn’t in labour- what the?!) But Sharney refused and said “No, we don’t need it.”
Not long after this, I climbed up onto the bed, on all fours and rested my top half against the head of the bed. Contractions were coming on so strong now that I was making a lot of noise. I would heave the gas into my mouth and then start moaning and almost yelling. I kept feeling like pushing, it hurt to stop myself from doing this… I was still sucking on the gas hard out, my eyes were rolling back into my head, I had a hard grip on Nat’s hand and apparently I told everyone that the Gas was my friend.
I was nearly falling asleep between contractions, which were now only a minute or so apart and lasting for a minute themselves. I was yelling out in pain for them to get her out of me at this point, and Nat and Sharney and Judi kept telling me how great I was doing and that my baby would be here soon.
Every time a contraction came, it felt like I needed to push. So Sharney checked me again. The babies head was about 2 cm from the opening, and the cervix was fully dilated but because Id felt the need to push, it had swollen abit on one side. Sharney told me to push with the next contraction and she would try and push it out of the way. I did this and was informed that my baby would be here in the next few pushes. This made me feel a heap better and I was so happy that this was almost over. Judi massaged my back and Nat stroked my thigh and kept telling me that he was so proud of me and that he loved me.
Every contraction after this I was told to push into my bottom, I could feel the pressure of the babies head and pushed as I was told… I kept sucking on the gas and was screaming out in pain every time I pushed.
Nat was watching everything that was happening down there, and after a few pushes told me that he could see the top of the babies head. I pushed and pushed and pushed, screamed, screamed and screamed and then reached down to feel her head.
Keeping on with the words of encouragement, Nat was in awe of what was happening; he kept saying how proud he was of me.
Sharney told me she wanted me to give 3 good pushes with each contraction. So with each contraction I pushed as hard as I could, took a breath and pushed again… finally, the head was crowning. Sharney and Nat guided me through getting the head out… I screamed out “RING OF FIIIIRRRE!!!” and her head was just sitting there- almost out… I started sobbing again; the pain was so unbelievably horrible.
Another contraction came and I pushed. I have never screamed so loud in my whole life. I screamed at them to get her out, it was too much for me. Sharney told me to pant, and then give a little push… this was so hard to do as the pain was so intense I could hardly breath.
After I did this, the head was born. Nat was touching her and saying how great I was doing. I pushed again, thinking that she was going to just slide out now, but she didn’t move. I pushed again… scream scream scream. Then I heard something a new mother never wants to hear “Push the emergency button!” and then an emergency team came running into my room. Her shoulders were stuck and they weren’t letting her come out. Sharney pushed her hand up inside and somehow managed to twist her just enough and free her from my pelvis.
After one more push, Nat, guided by Sharney, pulled our little girl into the world at 7.20pm. I moaned in relief and then exhaustedly whispered to Judi “is it really a girl?”
Nat came back with “Darlin’, it’s a girl”. I pushed myself up onto my legs and turned to look at her. She was so blue and was having trouble breathing…they passed her between my legs and I held her for a small amount of time before they tried suctioning the fluid out of her mouth and nose. We had wanted to let the cord pulsate but she was having trouble breathing. Nat got to cut the cord and she was rushed over to the table for the nurses to examine her. She was 7 pound 11 ounces, 50.5 cm long and had a head circumference of 32.5cm.

jessi
29-08-2006, 13:48
Once she was cleared, they bought her over to me and I sat and breastfed her for a short amount of time. Sharney got me to get on my knees and try to birth the placenta. Everything was so sore that I could hardly push to try get it moving. After an hour, it still hadn’t come, so I asked for the syntocinin shot to bring it out in under 10mins. 10 mins passed… 20 mins passed… No placenta. Sharney called the doctor in to help her… they were pulling on the cord and couldn’t get it out. I was informed that if they didn’t get it out ASAP I was going to have to go to theatre to have it removed and they didn’t want for that to happen to me as I had just given birth to my baby naturally and going to theatre for the placenta would ruin the experience.
I pushed and they pulled… I was screaming in pain again… Out came the gas- Nat was holding onto me and I somehow managed to push out the placenta… which was about the same size as the baby! The docs said they had never seen one so big and strange looking. I told them to take it away. They then examined me for tears or grazes. No tears!! A couple of grazes but nothing serious.
For the next 20mins I sat, covered in muck, and just relaxed. I felt really faint so I didn’t get up to shower for abit.
I don’t think I could have done this without Nat’s support. He was so strong and helped me get through such a hard labour. I saw a soft side of him which I never thought existed. He was so proud of me and is so in love with our little girl... Im so glad he was able to experience this with me.


:smiliedance: :smiliedance: :smiliedance:

Mamaduke
29-08-2006, 13:58
Congratulations...you did good...you did real good!!!

belinda
29-08-2006, 14:01
oh that was so beautiful you did a wonderful job. hope everything is going fine.

mama2cierra
29-08-2006, 14:01
yay Jessibear!!!!
Congratulations Jessi and Nat!
happybirthday Bubbawhale!!
I have a massive smile on my face 4 u. U did great!!! :kiss: :yelclap:

Rachel&Emma
29-08-2006, 14:05
That is a beautiful story. Congratulations.:yelclap:

Jem
29-08-2006, 14:06
happybirthday Congratulationshappybirthday

Niki
29-08-2006, 14:07
congratulations that was a great story and nat seemed so clam and collect not like my df :laughing:

bigglet
29-08-2006, 14:07
oh wow.... what a great story!!! Loved it!!

Every birth story is so different and personal and while some parts bring back glimpses of my own experience it's so touching to be able to read others experiences.

Thanks for sharing and congratulations!! :smiliedance:

Pixie
29-08-2006, 14:10
wow OUCH lol what a tense birth story I felt like I was right there!! Well done to you and your support team!!

KarniF00l
29-08-2006, 14:14
Well done Jessi !! That was an awesome example of a pretty tame natural labour! You did great :yes:


:smiliedance: CONGRATULATIONS :smiliedance:

indigoin0z
29-08-2006, 14:16
great going mummy! :)

& great to hear another gorgeous daddy story too!:kiss:

im so proud you were able to get a middie who truly cared for your wishes... its fantastic! :smiliedance:

shed
29-08-2006, 14:19
What a great story!! Congratulations and Well Done!! You did sooooooo well. You were strong, you were brave and you stuck to your guns and used what you knew.

So very very VERY proud of you. You did good. You did REAL good.
:smiliedance:

Your daughter is a lucky little girl to have a mummy like you.

Melo
29-08-2006, 14:19
Congratulations Jessi!!!

Rockett
29-08-2006, 14:21
Congratulations Jessi and well done! :smiliedance:
You did extremely well to only use gas.I couldn't have done that.


Now I have that song in my head...the ring of fire....:p

chookie
29-08-2006, 14:34
Congrats!!!:smiliedance:
thank you for sharing your story you both were amazing

LittleBoysRock
29-08-2006, 14:35
What a fantastic birth story! Well done Jessi and Nat. Can't wait to see some pics of your little princess!:thumbsup:

~EmsMum~
29-08-2006, 14:39
congrats :)

she has exactly the same stats as my dd :hugs:

SamanthaJane
29-08-2006, 14:46
Thanks for sharing your story with us jessi!!!

Congratulations to you and nat, you are a little family now! :hugs:

You did an amazing job, i dont even know you, but yet i feel so proud of you!!

Well done, You are very very brave!!! :yelclap:

*Kimmy*
29-08-2006, 14:48
Congratulations Jessi. What a beautiful birth story. I'm so glad you stuck to your guns with your birth plan, and just made it happen. Give Nats a pat on the shoulder for being so fantastic throughout the experience! :smiliedance:

Can't wait to hear the bubba whales name!!!!

Mum&bubs
29-08-2006, 14:50
Congrats :yelclap: :yelclap: Seems like you have such a lovely partner who was there to support you every step of the way :thumbsup: Well done!!!

*Chels*
29-08-2006, 14:52
Well done Jessi,you did an amazing job!!Good on you for sticking with your birth plan!Youre so lucky you had a great middie!!
Well done to Nat too!My DF was the same,he was amazing.It makes it so much easier when you have a great support person.My DF said it was the most amazing thing hes ever seen.Go the daddies!
Congrats to you both and welcome to the world baby whale!!!

Karizma
29-08-2006, 15:03
Congratulations Jessi, thank-you for sharing your birth story, bought tears to my eyes. :hugs: You did really well hun :yes:

SweetSerenity
29-08-2006, 15:04
Wow Jess!
What a story, loved reading it though! You tough girl going through it all just with the gas...
Im glad Nat gave yuo all the support you needed :D
Best wishes to you and your little family:hugs:

Wondermum
29-08-2006, 15:13
:yelclap: Congratulations Jessi:yelclap:

Thanks for sharing your birth story

InSaneOne
29-08-2006, 15:13
well done jessi. welcome to your new arrival.

Grizabella
29-08-2006, 15:24
CONGRATULATIONS JESSI AND NAT!!! Girl you should be so proud of yourself! What an amazingly strong woman you are!!! I could never have dealt with all of that without an epi or c/sect!!! Hope you are both doing well - and I can't wait to find out what you decide to name your bubba whale!!

~Danni~
29-08-2006, 15:35
:yelclap:
Congrats to you and your man and your new little girl...:yelclap:


I really enjoyed your birth story, you told it wonderfully!! Good luck and all the best in the coming months and years for your little family!

*butterflykisses*
29-08-2006, 15:41
Oh Jessi you did a fantastic job:smiliedance:

congrates on the birth of your baby girl whale (cant wait to hear the name you have picked out when you pick one that is )

it sounds like Nats did a wonderful job as well

im so glad you are all doing well

thanks for sharing you birth story with us :D

Valosgirls
29-08-2006, 16:02
Oh CONGRATULATIONS Jessi!!!!:thumbsup:
Your story made me cry - it was just beautiful and here's to you for sticking to your guns for a natural labour - WELL DONE!!:)

Ashleigh<3
29-08-2006, 16:08
Jess, we were all dying to read this!:yes: Amazing to read!
I knew you'd do so well! I'm so glad the pain is over for you now.
And i'm still dying to know how your sleeps are, as i'm still waiting for a good nights sleep lol, I have a very strong feeling that even one hour of sleep after my little one is born will be amazing.:fingerscrossed:

Couldn't be happier for you and your family! One million congrats!:hugs:

mum2elouise
29-08-2006, 16:16
happybirthday Bubba and congrats to you Jess and Nat:thumbsup:
What a great read:yes:

NZMama
29-08-2006, 16:22
wow what a experience. Congrats on your new bubby girl

Chub Chub
29-08-2006, 16:30
Amazing......what an awesome Midwife! Congratulations and watch out it sounds like you are already losing Nat to another female......your DD!:D

Mariposa
29-08-2006, 16:33
congrats on the birth of your lil gal

V8
29-08-2006, 16:55
Congratulations, what a fantastic story, you did so well, i don't think i could've held out for as long as you with no pain relief. Congratulations to you and your DP on the birth of your baby girl :)

Crazy Monkey
29-08-2006, 16:55
Congratulations... Thanks for sharing, you did a fantastic job...

mum23girls
29-08-2006, 17:05
What a special lady you are Jessi!!!! Congrats to you and your family!!!!

:hugs: :D

Peaceangels
29-08-2006, 17:14
Wow Jessi! What an uplifting and incredibly detailed birth story, your an inspiration!!

Congratulations to you and Nat and welcome to your precious bubba whale.

May your lives be filled with much love and happiness :)

JorBai
29-08-2006, 19:39
Congratulations Jessi and Nat! Welcome to the world bubba whale! Cant wait to meet your lil girl Jessi, youll have to come see us Gold Coast girls when your ready! Loved reading your birth story, sounds like a tough but very rewarding experience for you! Take care and enjoy every moment with your new baby girl!

Cheekychops
29-08-2006, 19:41
:yelclap: :yelclap: Congratulations!!! :yelclap: :yelclap:

busylizzy
29-08-2006, 20:03
CONGRATULATIONS JESSI & NAT!!! AND WELCOME TO THE WORLD BUBBA WHALE !!!:smiliedance: Good on you Jessi for sticking to your guns & having the birth that you wanted. You are a strong woman. It was a beautiful story & I look forward to finding out what you name your beautiful little girl.:hugs: Enjoy this very precious time:hugs:.

~Alicia
29-08-2006, 20:22
What a gorgeous story! You did so well!! I'm so proud of you Jess. :smiliedance: :hugs: welcome bubba whale!

Billy
29-08-2006, 20:57
:smiliedance: Congratulations Jessi and Nat!:smiliedance:
What a beautiful birth story! I got all teary :) Thank you for sharing :hugs:

Funkychicken
29-08-2006, 21:19
Well done Jessi! :yelclap: Congratulatons to you and Nat. You have done an amazing thing!;)

Teto
30-08-2006, 12:56
Far Out!

Foxy
30-08-2006, 13:08
Congratulations Jessie and hello to your baby girl. :wave:

Emmy1
30-08-2006, 13:50
Wow, Sounds like you did a fantastic job.:yelclap: Well done and Crongrats to you and your hubby.

lou81
30-08-2006, 16:56
Congratulations Jessie and Nat and welcome to the world little bubba.


Good on you, what a positive birth experience!!!

mumslilspunks
30-08-2006, 20:48
Ive got tears streaming down my face that was so beautiful!! Well done and thank-you for sharing your story!!:yelclap:

mummyof5
30-08-2006, 20:49
Congratulations Jessi:yelclap: Well done!!!:yes:

Nat sounds like a fantastic support...good on ya Nat!:thumbsup:

Welcome baby girl!:smiliedance:

Areca
30-08-2006, 20:58
What an awesome story Jessi! You should be very proud of yourself! I can't wait to hear what you name your little bubba whale!

ButterflyMama
30-08-2006, 21:50
Ohhh wow that was an amazing birth story. I loved reading it. You did so well and even though I don't really know you - I'm so proud of you!

:hugs:

♥My Innocent Angel♥
30-08-2006, 21:59
Hey Jessi So glad to hear how well you did what an amazing job and surpport team you had with you :hugs: :kiss:

WELL DONE and CONGRATULATIONS

Welcome to the world Bubba Whalehappybirthday :yelclap:

bronny-jane
31-08-2006, 06:36
:D congrats jessi, you did really well:thumbsup:
also i was so glad to read about how well your dp was after all the trouble you had, its great he came through for you:D :hugs:

MrsTwith3
01-09-2006, 09:28
Congratulations Jessi and Nat
WELCOME BUBBA WHALE

What a beautifully written birth story. Thankyou for sharing it with us all.

Rosa
01-09-2006, 11:18
An amazing story Jessi. Good on you for being so determined and asking for another midi. I read your story while I was at work in a call centre and I was finding it really hard not to cry. Really was a beautiful birth story! Congratulations to you all.

1+1=5
02-09-2006, 16:47
What a wounderful story, I actually started getting teary and felt like screaming 'somebody do something!' half way through. your story bought back a lot of memories. what a beautiful birth CONGRATULATIONS.

kadownie
02-09-2006, 19:16
Congratualtions on your birth!! you did such a great job!!

ETsMum
05-09-2006, 14:03
Congratulations!! :yelclap:
What a great story - thanks for sharing.
Looking forward to reading the last little bit.... her name!!

~V&M~
05-09-2006, 14:17
:yelclap: :yelclap: :yelclap: OMG I am sitting here with tears streaming down my face! That was such a beautiful, real, well written story. Congratulations on your natural birth, I am in awe, and congratulations on the birth of your beautiful daughter, can't wait to hear her name!

Jenster
06-09-2006, 15:35
Congratulations Jessi & Nat!!! What an amazingly detailed account - really wonderful to read!

Good on you for sticking to your guns and insisting on what you wanted/knew was right! I can only hope I'm as brave!! Well done!

Jen :hugs:

Lisa&Davey
07-09-2006, 14:14
Great job! You are such a legend for asking for another midwife when the one you were given didn't agree with your view on birth. Thank you so much for sharing.

SalTheGal
07-09-2006, 22:18
Jess, what a fantastic birth story- I hope I can be as strong as you when my turn comes, your story is inspirational!

iamstephyc
14-09-2006, 10:31
That was such a great story. congrats for doing so well and on your beautiful baby.

:yelclap: :yelclap: :yelclap: :yelclap:
You story brought back so many memories of my own births and had me pressing my legs together and tense from the waist down. ANd laughing my head off at the "RING OF FIRE" thing! OMG, so true!!
Now even though I'm terrified of doing it all again, I can't wait!
Thank You!