Hi wives of students!

[mimicj]

I am a wife of a full time student. My husband is studying education and is on prac at the moment. The money situation is a little bit hard, but we get by. It is good having him at home a lot, but he is studying so much that we barely ever see him away from the computer. How do other wives cope with this? I actually can't wait until he is working full-time, we will probably see him more!:confused:

[faery]

my partner is studying medicine so i can relate! it's a tough thing to balance as there are times when i desperately need his help, but am loathe to inturrupt the studying. he does so much around the house so i can focus on feeding jarrah, i really don't want to ask for more.

luckily, uni is much easier to wag than a job, so on the days when i REALLY need him at home, we can work it out. by the time he gets to hospital rounds and internship, ds will be much older and i'll be working and it will seen that much easier.

i think the $$ is the hardest. dp got a scholarship and i am on assistance but we can't earn anything extra or i lose money and it just ends up being not worth the extra effort. we keep dreaming of the things we will do when he gets his first paycheck!!

i have given up spending time with him at night.:( if he is home during the day, we spend time together, or he takes ds off my hands for a bit and gives me some time. but once ds is asleep at night, he studies away. i can't wait till we have our nights back! that is the hardest, having to give up on "us" time. but that's the sacrifice we have made to get him through uni and get through this intense baby time. luckily we have a great relationship that isn't negatively affected by it.

[mimicj]

Oh I know! We are already Thinking of all the things we can do to our house once he starts working!

[Cheekychops]

mimicj - did you get my pm's?

[Supermum]

Hi there

My husband is studying primary ed - full time and has two years to go. We have a 2 and a 3 1/2 year old, a fat mortgage and I work full time. He was a horticulturalist/landscaper until the drought hit so we had to think of something else and fast.

Money is tough, time is tougher ... but just keep looking to that distant speck which is the light at the end of the tunnel.

Looking forward to the day when we have both the time and the money to take even a little holiday ... just a little one!

[mimicj]

mimicj - did you get my pm's?

Yes, did u get mine?

[Cheekychops]

Yes indeedy dooooo!!! Right back at ya!!! :wave:

[missie_mack]

Hi Mimicj I am in a similar situation. My hubby is doing his dip ed at the moment full time by correspondence as well as maintaining work 3 days a week. We have just completed his 2 four week stints at teaching which was without pay from his work as he is a casual (even though he has set hours) Until recently I have been the main wage earner in the family and things are very different to our normal life- before maternity leave.

In some ways I understand what you are saying about the benefits of having them at home and I think it may be a god send for me once (if ever) the baby arrives. I think it is all pretty hard on him trying to balance life/work/ study and I cant wait until we find another normal and he is working. It should be a great life when he is home school holidays and outside school hours...... I keep thinking about the money we will catch up on saving on after school childcare :D

[Shilo]

Hey there,

My fiancee is studying social work, a 4 year degree, this is hes second year. So far it has been quite hard, I can imagine it will only get harder. Money is a pain in the butt and yes time, well there is never enough. But you get through, some days are worse then others as i'm sure we all agree. It is nice to have him around, but I agree, it's hard because he's there but not really 'there' at times. I too never want to interupt his studying. He does so much for me, and has been my only support and the most amazing person to have around during pregnancy.

Keep hanging in there, take every day as it comes, remember everything is impermenant and that our situation at this moment in life won't always be the same.

Shilo

[mimicj]

Thanks everyone, It's good to know that I'm not the only one and that there is many others out there in the same boat!:)

[jessgray]

wow reading this thread sorta gives me a insight into how my DP might be feeling.
i am studying certificate 3 in childrens services and plan on going for my diploma.