DQ
29-08-2006, 11:02
My mother is a compulsive liar. She has gotten herself into the worst situations in her life and our relationship has been more reversed, with her being the childish one, and me bailing her out.
A few years ago she told me her boss of 30 years had bought her a house. She had worked for this man for 30+ years and he had never paid her holidays, sick pay etc. She had been a cash in hand worker (so as to not affect her c/link). She also did not receive any superannuation. When she told me he bought her the house (worth $350,000.00) I was a bit sceptical. She figured that he owed her that much over the years through holidays, sick and super pay etc. She told me her boss got a bridging loan to buy the house as he had money tied up in other investments and that when those investments matured, he would pay the loan off and transfer the house to her. She said he had written a letter to this effect and lodged it with his solicitor, should anything happen to him.
Anyway, a few months ago her boss died, before he paid off the loan and transferred the house to her. I told her to get a copy of the letter from the solicitor and give it to the executors of his estate (his 3 sons). She keeps making excuses about getting the letter and says it will not stand up in court. Don't you think that if all that stood between you and a $350,000.00 house was a letter, you would make an effort to get that letter? If it existed! That was a lie, there was never any letter.
So she wouldn't lose the house we started asking questions about how much money was owing on the loan. Initially she said it was $108,000.00. My DH offered to use the equity in our home to cover the $108,000.00 owing on hers. Until we found out it was actually $308,000.00. Another lie.
To cut a long story short, she is going to lose the house because she has lied to everyone so often, that no-one is willing to help her, except me. I offered to rent her a place near me and pay her to look after my kids so I could go back to work. She then went on to say that she would rather go back into the housing commission scheme (where she came from mind you), because at least the HC were stable houses. She didn't want to rent because they can make you move at the drop of a hat. I offered to pay her rent and to look after my kids, is that not fair enough?
She then said she was not leaving that house because she was fighting for what was hers. HERS??? A house that may or may not have been intended for her from a man she worked with for 30 years?? Did he ever intend to transfer it to her or was that just bul*s*it too????:banghead:
I honestly don't think I can afford to go back to work. Childcare would cost in excess of $500 per week for 3 of my littlies to go. On the other hand, if I left them with my mother, god knows what would happen, she might sell one of them for 50 of $1's for the pokies!
Sorry, I just needed to vent, but I am still shaking my head in bewilderment!!!:mad:
A few years ago she told me her boss of 30 years had bought her a house. She had worked for this man for 30+ years and he had never paid her holidays, sick pay etc. She had been a cash in hand worker (so as to not affect her c/link). She also did not receive any superannuation. When she told me he bought her the house (worth $350,000.00) I was a bit sceptical. She figured that he owed her that much over the years through holidays, sick and super pay etc. She told me her boss got a bridging loan to buy the house as he had money tied up in other investments and that when those investments matured, he would pay the loan off and transfer the house to her. She said he had written a letter to this effect and lodged it with his solicitor, should anything happen to him.
Anyway, a few months ago her boss died, before he paid off the loan and transferred the house to her. I told her to get a copy of the letter from the solicitor and give it to the executors of his estate (his 3 sons). She keeps making excuses about getting the letter and says it will not stand up in court. Don't you think that if all that stood between you and a $350,000.00 house was a letter, you would make an effort to get that letter? If it existed! That was a lie, there was never any letter.
So she wouldn't lose the house we started asking questions about how much money was owing on the loan. Initially she said it was $108,000.00. My DH offered to use the equity in our home to cover the $108,000.00 owing on hers. Until we found out it was actually $308,000.00. Another lie.
To cut a long story short, she is going to lose the house because she has lied to everyone so often, that no-one is willing to help her, except me. I offered to rent her a place near me and pay her to look after my kids so I could go back to work. She then went on to say that she would rather go back into the housing commission scheme (where she came from mind you), because at least the HC were stable houses. She didn't want to rent because they can make you move at the drop of a hat. I offered to pay her rent and to look after my kids, is that not fair enough?
She then said she was not leaving that house because she was fighting for what was hers. HERS??? A house that may or may not have been intended for her from a man she worked with for 30 years?? Did he ever intend to transfer it to her or was that just bul*s*it too????:banghead:
I honestly don't think I can afford to go back to work. Childcare would cost in excess of $500 per week for 3 of my littlies to go. On the other hand, if I left them with my mother, god knows what would happen, she might sell one of them for 50 of $1's for the pokies!
Sorry, I just needed to vent, but I am still shaking my head in bewilderment!!!:mad: