SassyMummy
28-08-2006, 22:10
I'm only 20, so my biological isn't ticking just yet...but ANOTHER type of clock is ticking away...and each and every day it's getting louder!
What I mean is, there's YEARS ahead of me in which I can concieve, so it's not like it's a race against time because soon I'm going to begin menopause or anything... But there IS a race against time regarding my next birth.
Why you ask? Because I had a c-section first time round, and I want a VBAC next time. I've read and read and read, and have so far discovered that the optimal time to have a VBAC birth is between 1-5 years after your c-section. Specifically, 1-2 years is even better. Since learning of this, the clock has begun to tick...and I'm slowly going insane.
The thing is, DP doesn't want another baby. EVER. So he has decided since having DD (which annoys me...she's such a GOOD baby...and it's not like he has to do anything for her anyway...it's even ME that is doing most of hte financial stuff for her...!). Still, I'm working on that...and i know that I can change his mind.
Ideally, if I could, I would wait a while...but I REALLY WANT my VBAC birth, and since thinking about it (with the clock ticking away loudly in my ear), I'd like for DD to have a sibling close-ish in age...and also have them close together so I can go back to work sooner (sounds bad written down, but I want to have them close, so once they're in school, I can do my thing...or at least do SOMETHING other than mothering some of the time...and I imagine it would be more difficult to be a SAHM for 6-7 years than it would be for 10 or more years...).
Financially, we aren't the best we could be...but I think that, while DD is young, I've got all the baby stuff. I can't keep it in storage or anything until the next baby (would end up costing us more than the items themselves) if I have to wait several years for that baby...and IMO it's important to be a SAHM when your babies are young (if you can of course). Since I'm already doing it, I might as well shorten my non-working period by having 2 babies at the same time...rather than prolonging my unemployed period. The sooner they're off to school, the sooner I can work and help out financially.
I think this is a bit more of a vent than anything else...I just really want to have another baby...and SOON...because I'm going insane.
Sorry if it doesn't really make sense (ranting/raving gibberish really...lol). And, thanks for reading.
If anyone has any advice as to how to make a DP cave in and agree (lol) then it'd be much appreciated!
What I mean is, there's YEARS ahead of me in which I can concieve, so it's not like it's a race against time because soon I'm going to begin menopause or anything... But there IS a race against time regarding my next birth.
Why you ask? Because I had a c-section first time round, and I want a VBAC next time. I've read and read and read, and have so far discovered that the optimal time to have a VBAC birth is between 1-5 years after your c-section. Specifically, 1-2 years is even better. Since learning of this, the clock has begun to tick...and I'm slowly going insane.
The thing is, DP doesn't want another baby. EVER. So he has decided since having DD (which annoys me...she's such a GOOD baby...and it's not like he has to do anything for her anyway...it's even ME that is doing most of hte financial stuff for her...!). Still, I'm working on that...and i know that I can change his mind.
Ideally, if I could, I would wait a while...but I REALLY WANT my VBAC birth, and since thinking about it (with the clock ticking away loudly in my ear), I'd like for DD to have a sibling close-ish in age...and also have them close together so I can go back to work sooner (sounds bad written down, but I want to have them close, so once they're in school, I can do my thing...or at least do SOMETHING other than mothering some of the time...and I imagine it would be more difficult to be a SAHM for 6-7 years than it would be for 10 or more years...).
Financially, we aren't the best we could be...but I think that, while DD is young, I've got all the baby stuff. I can't keep it in storage or anything until the next baby (would end up costing us more than the items themselves) if I have to wait several years for that baby...and IMO it's important to be a SAHM when your babies are young (if you can of course). Since I'm already doing it, I might as well shorten my non-working period by having 2 babies at the same time...rather than prolonging my unemployed period. The sooner they're off to school, the sooner I can work and help out financially.
I think this is a bit more of a vent than anything else...I just really want to have another baby...and SOON...because I'm going insane.
Sorry if it doesn't really make sense (ranting/raving gibberish really...lol). And, thanks for reading.
If anyone has any advice as to how to make a DP cave in and agree (lol) then it'd be much appreciated!