Goodbye my Bubbie

[Veruca]

We lost our baby on Friday. I guess what I need at the moment is some hope. As an older Mum with a 10 month old, I need to hear from others who have miscarried whether you've gone on to have another healthy baby. I want to know whether it's normal to want another baby so soon after losing one. God, my heart aches so much, when does the pain ease just a little? thanks for listening, sorry to be such a downer.

[*Sparkles*]

Really sorry to hear of your loss :hugs:
I haven't been in your position, but my sister had a M/C when she was approx age 32 and then went on to have a healthy little girl approx 1 year later. She has had another healthy girl since then too and she is now 38.

[tikaani5]

I lost a little one...and we had our little man shortly afterwards...
Just remember you are not alone and I know how you feel...you can pm me if you want to chat. Hugs to you

[Lunar]

:hugs: to you. I am so sorry for your loss.
I have been there twice. My first m/c was complete and I concieved the very next month. Then that was not meant to be 10 weks into the pg, incomplete m/c and I had a d&c.Then it was 4 months after that I was pg again and this one stuck and the result... the beautiful bubba in my Avatar!

I don't think it is bad that you want to get pg again so soon. It is really up to you and your DP, and if your body is ready it will happen.
Good luck in the future.

[~EmsMum~]

im so sorry to hear about your loss :hugs:

[Chickadee]

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. It does hurt for quite a while some times :( I don't really know what works to ease the pain. Time certainly. Some mums find a remberance box or ceremony helpful.

As others have said, it is possible to become pregnant again quite quickly and normal to want to do that. I have had 2 m/c and was pregnant the 3rd time only 2 months after my last m/c. I was 32 at the time.

[Percy]

Im so sorry to hear about your loss. The pain seems to go on forever.

I was pregnant a month after my m/c and DS is perfectly healthy.

I dont think there is a right or wrong time to start trying, as long as it is what you want.

Good luck with your decisions:hugs:

[wantagirl]

It is totally normal to feel this way. I have posted on a few other threads that my friend miscarried in Dec. Well she is 28 weeks right now and doing wonderful. So yes many women go on to concieve healthy babies later. You should wait atleast one cycle though as there is a slightly higher risk of miscarriage if you don't. This is because after the miscarriage everything is cleaned out in there and you must rebuild your lining enough for the egg to implant sucessfully. Many women do get pregnant straight away and carry to term anyway but better to be safe though!

[Whispers]

We lost our baby on Friday. I guess what I need at the moment is some hope. As an older Mum with a 10 month old, I need to hear from others who have miscarried whether you've gone on to have another healthy baby. I want to know whether it's normal to want another baby so soon after losing one. God, my heart aches so much, when does the pain ease just a little? thanks for listening, sorry to be such a downer.
i am really sory for your lose i know it must be hard for you i have never miscarried a baby but my mother has my sister has and so has one of my best friends my mother lost hers and not long after had a beautiful baby girl who is as healthy as anything she is 9 years old now and my sister mum&bubs she is on here somewhere lost her baby and pregnant again is due in october so far the baby is fine my friend had a baby who was born ealier she had excess fluids i cant remember the name of the condiontion but 1 month later she passed away she has sinc had a nother baby and the baby is healthy she is 11 months old now she recently fell pregnant again and is doing great cheer up hun i know its hard think of the beautifull children you have got already you can always try again not that this would replace the loss of your baby nothing could do that but this is your body telling you something wasnt right better it happened this way then further down the track where something seriously could of been wrong wit hyour darling child

[Ys_Woman]

We lost our baby on Friday. I guess what I need at the moment is some hope. As an older Mum with a 10 month old, I need to hear from others who have miscarried whether you've gone on to have another healthy baby. I want to know whether it's normal to want another baby so soon after losing one. God, my heart aches so much, when does the pain ease just a little? thanks for listening, sorry to be such a downer.
I am so sorry hon. I do know how you are feeling as I was in your shoes a few months ago. I have been ttc for the last 3 cycles since the mc but with no success. I have decided to opt out of temping and charting..but sincerely hope I fall pg one last time.
It hurts hon, and it doesn't stop hurting straight away. Frankly I thought I was on top of it, but suddenly fall back into the abyss after someone around me discovers they are pg or has a baby. I don't want to feel that way but I cannot help it. I guess it gets better over time. Like you I am an older mum. I don't feel I have that much time now and can only hope that if another is meant to be then it will happen soon.
Hugs to you, and baby dust to us both.
Amy:)

[Kirstlea]

Give yourself some time to process it all - it only happened last Friday. :hugs:

I lost our little girl last year at 19 weeks, I was 36yrs old at the time and actually was terrified of getting pregnant again. About 4mths later I realised that yes I did want another baby (we are lucky to have a 3yr old daughter already) so we started trying, it took a little while but I am now 30 weeks pregnant and 37yrs old.

This pregnancy is going really well and if it wasn't for the fact that I tried again I would never have realised how bad that last pregnacy was. I mean that in the sense that I was so unwell and uncomfortable the whole 19 weeks but didn't realise it was because something was wrong.

I actually thought it was because of my age - :o So I can quite understand your concern at being an older mum as I have the same concerns.

You will always remember your angel baby and you will find peace eventually you just need some time. If you want to talk please feel free to pm me.

Take care of yourself

Kirsten

[Veruca]

Thank you all for your supportive words, it's been a great comfort to me. This week has been hell and the time seems to be passing really slowly. Everytime I go out, I see pregnant women everywhere and newborn babies and feel like someone's drained the blood from inside me and replaced it with ice. The only thing that keeps me going is the thought of being pregnant again. For once in my life I'm looking forward to having my period. Again, many thanks everyone, you're a great bunch of gals.:hugs: