TTC 2? Confused.

[Rebecca79]

Hi all. My DS is almost 14 months old and I am super clucky for #2. My DS has been a very easy baby, an actual gorgeous little man.
I am so confused about when the right time to TTC.
I fear the most SILLY things, I don't want to be made to feel here in BH that I am stupid for thinking them, because that is why I am here, I can't tell anyone else in the outside world.
I want to try again in Jan, so if it works out, DS will be 26 months when #2 is born.
I wonder how I will cope with an active toddler wanting to play outside all the time and maybe run off. I worry about Ds feeling like he is left out and too little to understand about having a new sibling. I wonder about if I return to work how hard it would be for my mum to help out and look after a 1 yr and 3 yr old, I worry about finance, being able to take 1 yr off, I worry about #2 being a newborn in the summer months when DS will want a family trip to the beach etc. Oh I know their silly reasons....! But they ponder in my mind. Also I sometimes co-sleep with DS, how can I possibly co-sleep with 2 + hubby, unless I kick him out...haha.

When I think of holding off, I feel slight relief, but more feeling of sadness in my heart.

[Widget]

All things we all think!!

If you feel relieved at the idea of waiting, maybe it's not time to increase the family just yet... You may feel different come Jan, but if you're not ready, give it a bit more time...

[Widget]

And we somehow manage 4 in our double bed... Very cosy lol

[Rebecca79]

Slight relief, more sadness and confusion I think...thanks!

[Rebecca79]

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[Noahmischiefsmum]

I know your pain, I'm back at work and finanically we're ok. But I don't want ds to feel abandoned and that everything is about the baby (should we have another one)

He's such a big boy and would be an excellent big brother but I'm still worried.

I don't know, for me there are a million things that I want to do but can't afford to (travel oversea's, have multiple properties) but I don't want ds to grow up lonely or wanting siblings but his parents were too selfish to do that for him.

[chickenpotpie]

I don't know about you but the list of things I was worried about before my DD was born was as long as your arm! But here we are nearly a year on and I can't imagine my life without her. I think just as there is no right time to have your first child there is no right time to have a second. I can think of plenty of reasons not to wait so I am already trying (DD is 11months). I want my children to be close enough in age that can be friends and playmates and I want another one before I get used to having sleep, time, and money! You never know what you can handle until your faced with it. But it is your choice and you have to do what is right for your family. Good luck with your decision and just remember there is no such thing as a wrong decision. :thumbsup:

[Bambibambino]

My Ds is 14 months too and I have just found out I am pg due in August so a 23 month gap. Eeek. We weren't ttc and I think I probably could have put it off for years as I have all the same worries as you.

My Ds is very attached to me, very mumsy and we co-sleep. No idea how it will all play out and I am freaking out about it on a daily basis.

I clearly am not in a position to offer any advice lol, just wanted to say you sound like a very responsible, loving mummy who only wants the best for her family.

I'm running with the theory it will all work out in the end :p

[Oscsmum]

I have a 2 year old and I am so happy I didn't fall pregnant when I was clucky abt a year ago! 2 is such a demanding age and they so so gorgeous and fun that with another baby u couldn't really enjoy them. I love that he can walk along with me at shops so dont need pram!! I am planning to get pregnant in July next year so he will be over 3 and in kindy a couple of days a week giving me time with new baby! we r all different but I couldn't imagine sharin my time between two!!!

[nic182]

I had all those thoughts and more when I was pregnant with number 2 but prior to falling pregnant I just wanted to have another bub. But really all those things eventually work out and you sit back and think wow what did I worry so much for. If you sit and stress about those things all the time you will never fall pregnant I believe go with your heart,I guess you can never stop thinking about those things but always remember it will be so nice for your son to have a sibling. I guess though there is no rush you will know when the time feels right.

Hubby and I are now thinking about having our third and im so excited but at the same time worried, but I just don't want to have regrets down the track and thinking I wish we had more so we will hopefully be trying real soon,I love my 2 boys and love watching them together.

Good luck.:xmas:

Me:28 DH:30
DS1:4 & DS2:2