Pulled elbow :(

[jennababe]

My son got this today. I honestly thought his arm was broken. Yes it was an accident. But im feeling very guilty. Hes 22 months i had his wrist walking him to his room for nap time when he threw himself to the ground throwing a tantrum. And i tried to pull him back up, usually he would stand straight away. He started crying and i knew his arm was hurting him. And the way he was holding it and not moving it. Xrays were done and showed no fractor or break. The doctor was baffled, and re examined it as ds still was being protective of it then the doctor heared a click which was it going back in. He said usually within 5 minutes they start moving it again, so we went in the waiting area again and he did! Thank goodness! So apparently this is quite a common thing. But i wish i didnt feel so awful. :( BIL gave me a huge mouthful this afternoon, he had had a few 2 drink, and pretty much said i was an awful mother :(

[Jensha]

:( Your not an awful mother...:hugs:
Good your DS is ok.

[babydroid]

Ignore your BIL- this was an accident! Big hugs to you and DS poorly arm! You're a great mummy! Xxo

[jennababe]

It definately was an accident. I love my children so much and would never want to hurt them. When we got to emergency yesterday i was a blubbering mess :( the ladies were really nice. Ds is very much his happy little self this morning.

[Shazza]

Hey it is really a very common problem for kids under 5 so don't feel bad. We had to take my son (nearly 4) up to ER a few weeks ago late at night after he got one. Was mucking around with his Dad on the couch and out it popped - DH felt bad because he thought he was faking it hurting but as soon as I saw him I knew we would be up at the hospy :-( And the worst thing is they didn't even get it back in that night - we had to go up again the next morning and do it all again! *hugs* cause it is hard seeing your kids in pain even if it is an accident. (I'm assuming they told you that once they've had one it is easier to get it again so be extra careful?)

[Bubmum]

your poor little man.. I hope he is all recovered today, although sadly, he is stuck with an idiot for an Uncle. Hugs hon

[danni3]

My DS (around the same age as yours) jumped off his bed and fractured his elbow. The first medical center we went to were treating it as a pulled elbow and we were made to feel like criminals that must have hurt our child. Whilst I respect that they need to have the childs welfare at the top of the list it was one of the most horrible feelings. They also held him down and tried to 'pop' it back in without taking any x-rays. Hubby actually passed out from watching it it was so sickening, of course it never 'popped' in cos it was never out :(

We then left and took him to the childrens where in minutes we had x-rays done showing that he had infact fractured his elbow and they were just fantastic.

Anyways just a :hugs: for you, we have gotten the third degree over the same issue and it wasn't nice. Shame on BIL. Apparently it is super common with littlies, can be caused even by something like then getting their arm stuck and pulling it out too hard etc :)

[Azurial]

Pity you werent holding a very big frying pan when BIL put his 2 cents in!!!! What a jerk. :geek:

I'm sure it was very traumatizing for you in the first place and you didnt need him making you doubt yourself. :no:

[maliwoo]

You are not alone! And you are not a bad parent. It happened to my daughter when my hubby lifted her up. We took her to the emergency room, and while we were waiting, it popped back by itself, thankfully. Good as new.
I had never heard of it before, but apparently it happens quite a bit...

[shelle65]

:hugs: Happened to my DD too, her grandpa was swinging her around and her elbow popped out, took her to the hospital and they popped it back in and she was fine within seconds, it's really very common and in no way says anything about your parenting.

Just make sure you are careful with that arm from now on, apparently once it has happened once it makes it more likely to pop out in future until they are about 5 when the muscles are much stronger to hold it in.

:hugs:

[Purplebird]

It's happened to DD twice - it's the most awful feeling. It is very common though - that's why I cringe whenever I see children being swung around by their hands for fun - apparently that's the most common way to cause an elbow or shoulder dislocation. Ignore your BIL, he's obviously an idiot.

[jennababe]

Thanks girls. Yes i read that its likely to happen again within 3-4 weeks. So im being so careful and things i normally do im not. Like when he gets dressed ill hold both his hands to help him up. Seems so innocent and normal but last night helped him up from under the arms, or just say up u get. To the girl who had greif from hospital staff that is so unfair! And im so lucky that i didnt have to deal with that.