Naughty Corner/Chair etc

[mytwolilprinces]

I'm having a few problems implementing discipline with my 2 1/2 year old son. After reading through some previous posts etc, I'm interested in finding out more about the naughty corner/naughty chair etc concept. I have seen that sort of thing on the super nanny before and I've heard it works. What exactly do you have to do?

I have tried sending my son to his room when he does something wrong but he seems to enjoy being in there and doesn't mind when I give him a warning and say - do you want to go to your room? He actually says "yes" little terror :D

If someone could respond with some actual steps I could take to do something about his behaviour ( which I know basically comes from a lack of consistency on my part ).

Any help would be appreciated as I am finding it all a bit stressful at the moment :banghead:

[javalava]

Ok you need the supernanny book!! It goes through all the steps you take... i mean not that there is alot but still its handy to have there on hand as when things start to not work anymore she has tips on how to get it back on track.

I doesnt work for all kids but from what i know and have heard from other mums as well as watching supernanny its the most effective method. Mainly because there is no hitting or yelling from the parents involved. It also helps you to be able to remove the child from you and the situation, that in itself is a godsend.

Now that ive said all that, its not easy, you do have to persevere with it but if you can make it work its totally worth it!! :thumbsup:

Good luck matey!

[javalava]

If you really dont want to buy the book and need me to type up the steps from the book for you let me known and ill pm it all to you ;)

[mytwolilprinces]

that's ok, I'll look for the book tomorrow - thanks for the offer though!

[javalava]

It has heaps of good stuff in it, not just on that subejct but usual toddler and baby problems... its really quite good. Most of it is common sense but she can get inside your head and make you believe you can do it. Regain the power so to speak. We all know what its like to have your children run your life, especiall your moods, and we all need a little helping hand every so often!

Once again, good luck.

Let us know how you go.

[ButterflyKisses]

I use the naughty corner and it works like a charm whether I'm at home, playgroup or visiting family or friends.

If DS is naughty when out of the home (bar when shopping - lucky for me he loves coming shopping so I've never had to deal with it in that situation) I continue implementing the naughty corner technique and so far it has worked with no fuss coming from him - he sits there just like he does at home - no crying, kicking, screaming, shouting etc and the problem is all over and done with in the 3 mins that he has to sit there. He then says sorry for his behaviour (without any prompting from me) and then goes off to play quite happily.

I also have the Supernanny book but I'll let ljd_83 do the copy typing for you :D.

good luck with it and I hope it works for you.

[FOURtunate]

I use the naughty chair (which happens to be in a naughty corner) for Jack, and it works really well.

He even puts himself there when he needs to!

But I'm having trouble when we're out, or generally wny time the naughty chair isn't available.

It's really hard to threaten him with it because if it's not an immediate punishment, it doesn't work.

I bought the Supernanny DVD and use that. It's pretty good if you want to borrow it.

[Mumshmum]

My husband uses the 'stand in the corner' technique, and I have to say I personally find it humiliating for my girls. I have been following some techniques by Dr John Irvine and find they are working really well.
If my DD's are misbehaving, I let them know what they are doing wrong, and show them how I want them to behave. If they don't respond, I calmly take them to their room and tell them I need them to stay there, as I am feeling unhappy. (It is Ok if they play in there). When they come out I let them know that what they did made me unhappy, and ask them to think of a way to make me happy again. Sometimes they help me fold the teatowels, or tidy up their toys.
It does require you to be patient though. If they continue to misbehave, ask them whether they need you to teach them again. (this involves roleplaying)

[mytwolilprinces]

Well, I went out and bought the "supernanny" book today. Seems ok so far although there isn't that much in it ( for $30!) but it did give the steps to take for setting boundaries, so I'm going to start testing it tomorrow - I'll let you know if there is any improvement over the next few days/weeks :fingerscrossed:

[Briswegian]

I'd recommend every parent by matt sanders. It has tips for encouraging desireable behaviour, decreasing unwanted behaviour, and other specific tips (bed time etc). It is a well validated set of techniques and it uses language to label the behaviour rather than the child. I don't like the term, naughty, as it implies that the child is naughty to my way of thinking...uses a similar technique called quite time.
QLD Health runs free positive parenting training which is what is in the book.