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FourAngelKisses
28-08-2006, 12:01 PM
I went to get Matthews weight checked today and there was a new lady there. The regular one who has been there since before Jacob was born was supposed to be on 6mths long service leave and the one who replaced her wasn't too bad....but this was someone I'd never seen before. I asked if E was still on leave and was told that she had resigned. :gloomy:

E has been there since before Jacob was born. She was there for me when Jacob had his surgeries, Brooke had hers, when my brother died, when I put Brooke in respite care and for all 4.5yrs of my struggle with PND. She has seen all 3 of my kids grow up and I felt so comfortable with her and she never tried to force things on me. More often than not, we would talk about what we had been up to during the week etc.

I mentioned to this new one that Matthew was really clingy and that I wanted to get him out of it before this baby is born and she rambled on for the next 15mins that I should take him to playgroup, that he would know I was still there with him and that he would socialise with other kids and feel comfortable as I will be there with him. I tried telling her that I wasn't interested as the women in this town are *****y people in cliques, but she just kept going and going. She said that she will be there next Monday and that she expects to see me there.
There is no way I will be taking him there. People scare me, especially people who don't like people who weren't born here. I tried it when Jacob and Brooke were babies. I tried it when I took Matthew there to get weighed (ECHN was there so I had no choice) and I have never been made to feel welcome.

But it worries me that I will have to get used to a new ECHN after I have this baby. What if she is like this one and tries to force things on me and wont let me decide things for myself? I like to go every couple of months to make sure that they are growing properly and also for a chat as I don't talk to anyone IRL, but I certainly wont be going if I don't like them.

Oh, another thing. She knew I had two older kids but she kept telling me to make sure he was eating and sleeping right and that I was brushing his teeth properly. She even told me how to do it.....ggggrrrrr. After being a parent for 9yrs, I think I know by now that I'm not stupid.

Foxy
28-08-2006, 12:09 PM
Hi Jeanette, that is such a shame. Any chance that E is still somewhere in your neighbourhood? Anyway, this type of attitude is exactly why I stopped going to my CHN, I have a great GP who is always supportive, so next time I will not be bothering! You can always weigh bubs at the chemist etc. :hugs:

FourAngelKisses
28-08-2006, 01:23 PM
Apparently E is now working at the private hospital in the next town. I know she loved her job here, but she will probably feel more appreciated over there (by the staff, not the parents).

I might just do the height measurements myself at home and do the weights at the chemist when I'm out and about doing the shopping each week. I will miss the chats though. Maybe I will get lucky and the new one will be as nice as E.