why don't i have any real friends?

[sunnyflower]

hi everyone.

i am new to this site and iv'e been struggling with a problem that may seem quite trivial but it has been making me feel so sad and lonely for so long.i am a single mum of a beautiful 4 year old boy.his dad does not bother to see him or provide any financial assistance whatsoever.

my problem is i don't know how to shake this feeling of lonliness that i constantly feel.i don't have any real or close friends and i honestly don't know what i am doing wrong.i have aqaintances who have children who we socialise with but i feel as though the only people who care about me is my mum (who i feel i burden with all this) and my sister (who lives in melbourne).i long for just one friend who i know loves and supports me.

we go to playgroup every week and we socialise sometimes with them,i find myself more and more envying them as they have someone who will come home to them and seem to have such busy lives.i know this sounds pathetic but it's how i feel.

can anyone give me advice as every weekend that rolls around i feel the stress of being a solo mum so much and i am starting to feel really depressed and am starting to hate get out of bed in the mornings.please help!!

[Lisawa]

I also feel the same, since finishing work I dont even get any adult contact so to speak... DP has his friends that call in all the time and I know they are also friends of mine I dont really have any girlfriends I can catch up with, DP has sisters but I just find them to get in the way and involved in my business...

I can only suggest which I am going to try do is find a new playgroup and mums group, join and gym and put bub in crache, if I am happy with myself I will be happier in general... and maybe meet new ppl.

I have joint a mums group but never really clicked with anyone really closely, I also find I am different to them, I am not single but I am the only one not married, we sold our house to get out of financial stress and I feel so different to them and they make me feel worse about myself.

try a few playgroups till you find one you are happy with and maybe you will find just one person you click with.

Good luck! your not alone, I think its a thing most SAHMs go thru if they dont have friends with children.

Lisa
Madison 14months
DS due Oct. h

[Bellarim]

Hi Sunnyflower,

Believe me I totally understand how you are feeling. I am in exactly the same position pretty much word for word. I am in Melbourne but I would love to have a chat with you sometime. Email me or add me to MSN if you have it. billybin13@optusnet.com.au

I am a 25 year old single SAHM with two boys Cam 4 and Ross 2

[jlrjyeboah]

Hi,

Whereabouts are you all. I am also in Melbourne. I do have a husband, but he works long hours so I am at home all day by myself with my 2 sons.

[sunnyflower]

thank you so much to everyone that replied,i feel so much better and i will take everything that everyone has said on board.i am going to put my son in gymnastics and i have just joined a new church so we will see what happens!!

you were right darl when you said that when you are at peace with yourself you do attract people and that we only have a couple of friends to take to our grave.thanks for putting it all into perspective!!