Introducing myself as new to site

[aqua28]

Hello, I'm new to all this, so I thought I'd introduce myself and say Hi. My husband and I are seeking an egg donor who would be willing to travel overseas with us. Due to my mature age, we cannot receive ivf treatment here, so some major decisions will need to be made. Anybody out there facing similar issues? Would love to hear from you. Cheers, aqua28

[Thinking_about_it]

Hi aqua, unfortunately I'm already in the process of donating to another couple so am unable to help, but was just curious - is there an age limit in Australia? I didn't know there was, but then I don't really know much about the topic. I do wish you the best of luck with your quest though!

[aqua28]

Hello Thinking_about_it and thanks for your kind wishes. Yes in Australia, the age limit for a recipient is 45 (at least that's what we've been told by our ivf dr in Melbourne), which I think is very limiting, that's why we have had to look elsewhere...and the implications are much bigger of course, in terms of not only the costs involved in ivf, but also travel expenses, etc. Still, we are determined to go ahead with it and our quest in finding a donor has only just begun. The couple you are donating to are very fortunate indeed- good on you for such a generous act!:thumbsup: Cheers, aqua28

[Roxy]

Hi Aqua...

Good luck in your search for a donor.

I thought that the limit was 45 if you wanted to cycle with your own eggs, but cut off was around 50 with donor eggs. Might be worth re-checking with your clinic, as I know lots of recipients who have been 50 when cycling with a donor.

[Kamaikia]

Hi just wanting to know how old are you?

[aqua28]

Hi Roxy and Kamaikia and thanks for your support and consideration. Because of advanced age, we are not able to get treatment here in Melbourne. Are you aware of any other clinic, anywhere in Australia, that might be able to help? We would be eternally grateful for any new information.
:devil6: Cheers, aqua28.

[abe]

hello can you tell me more as may be interested. where are you thinking of going? how long does it take etcHello, I'm new to all this, so I thought I'd introduce myself and say Hi. My husband and I are seeking an egg donor who would be willing to travel overseas with us. Due to my mature age, we cannot receive ivf treatment here, so some major decisions will need to be made. Anybody out there facing similar issues? Would love to hear from you. Cheers, aqua28

[aqua28]

Hello abe, I have sent you a private message, in response to your request for more information. Please read the message and see what you think. many thanks, aqua28:yelclap:

[xkwzit]

A gentle reminder of the OP:

Due to my mature age, we cannot receive ivf treatment here, so some major decisions will need to be made. Anybody out there facing similar issues? Would love to hear from you. Cheers, aqua28

Please keep to the topic...off topic posts will be deleted (after all *I* wouldn't tell you how old *I* was if you asked...:D )

[aqua28]

Sorry, I'm not terribly familiar with all the acronyms yet, so I'm not sure what you mean by OP? ("a gentle reminder to the OP").

Also, when you say "please keep to the topic..." is this directed at me or someone else? :confused: :confused: Please explain. Thanks. aqua28

[mummabear86]

i would love to be a egg donor or carry a baby for someone but my dp dosnt feel to good about it other wise i would be first in line good luck

[xkwzit]

Sorry, I'm not terribly familiar with all the acronyms yet, so I'm not sure what you mean by OP? ("a gentle reminder to the OP").

Also, when you say "please keep to the topic..." is this directed at me or someone else? :confused: :confused: Please explain. Thanks. aqua28

Hi Aqua
Sorry to confuse...I deleted a few off topic posts (by others) and then posted my reminder of the OP (your original post) asked, whether there were some ppl who had experience with some of your issues. Some ppl had gone a bit off track so the reminder was for everyone else (not you).

Cheers

[aqua28]

Hi xkwzit and thanks for clarifying for me. Apology accepted. cheers, aqua28:)

[sarahstarfish]

Hey Aqua

I'm not sure if you are posting this as an ad or not, but you may be unaware that in Victoria, any ads for egg donors must first go through the Department of Health for ministerial approval...but perhaps more of a discussion anyway.

If you are looking for a donor in New Zealand, you might be better off actually advertising over there than asking an Australian donor to go over...has a huge impact on someone's time just donating let alone popping overseas trips and the associated stress of stimming/EPU on time etc. Just a thought.

Re age limits here, some clinics will take recipients over 50 if they are already signed up and 'in the system' and even those clinics seem to be getting fewer....are NZ's rules a little more relaxed?

Cindy

[aqua28]

Hello, no I wasn't aware that one has to go through the Dept of Health, but I do now, as this has been pointed out to me, twice. Anyways, it's good to have a discussion about the topic. Thanks for the advice. aqua28

[Lisadaniella]

Hi,
I'm also new to this site but have been thinking about finding an egg donor for quite some time due to my eggs passing their 'use by date'. I recently posted an ad here.

But the reason I'm replying to your thread is I'm wondering whether you have considered just going to an overseas clinic which provides egg donors? You may have already considered this and discarded it because (from my research) they are anonymous donors. But if you haven't then you may want to try having a look at the website Fertility Friends, which is an English infertility site which has a lot of threads about going overseas. From what I saw there were women going to clinics in Spain, South Africa, you name it and using overseas donors. Not sure if that helps as I'm aware many people have issues about this but if you haven't looked at it - it might be an option.

(As an older mum with an older partner - I wish you best wishes on your journey - it is hard enough to be infertile never mind having the age card played on you as well!!)

Cheers

[aqua28]

Hi and thanks for the suggestions re overseas clinics- yes we have considered going overseas but decided not to, even though it would make it much easier for us, because overseas clinics have clinic recruited donors. However, we decided against this, for the simple reason of cost (mega $$) and also we don't feel totally comfortable with the idea of an anonymous donor.

After much research of pros and cons, I think it makes a lot of sense for donors and recipients to know each other, especially in terms of future implications, eg. donor-conceived child needing medical help from biological family, etc. I also think that with the large numbers of children being conceived this way, the risk of siblings (when adults) meeting as complete strangers and creating their own offspring is very high! (I guess this could lead to another very lengthy discussion, but it is neither the time nor the place to do that here and now.) Anyway, it is good to put all this down on paper, for speculation and brain-storming purposes.

Yes it is difficult having to face the prospect of not being able to conceive, due to infertility and as you put it " having the age card played on you as well", but we are determined not to give up just yet and who knows what lies around the corner? Miracles do happen...at least that's what I'd like to believe. Once again, thanks for taking the time to write to me and best wishes to you and your partner as well, as you decide whether to go on this journey or not. aqua28:kiss: :thumbsup:

[jo-anne.36]

[quote=aqua28;601306]Hi aqua while do you try my clinic in sydney jo-anne:wave:

[aqua28]

Hi jo-anne, does your clinic in sydney have an upper age limit for the recipient? also, do they recruit donors thru the clinic? (I'm over 50 and looking for an egg donor). thanks, aqua28

[jo-anne.36]

:wave: hi there iam not sure about the age 50 but unfortunatly my clinic do'nt have a donor program thats why i have to find my own donor which is a bit of bumper take care love jo-anne

[aqua28]

thank you jo-anne- how long have you been trying to find a donor? do you have your up days and down days? I guess it all comes down to having the patience and determination to carry on this journey...let's keep our fingers crossed for each other heh.:fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed: ciao, aqua28

[jo-anne.36]

hello there i have been looking for a donor since june but i join bubhub in july and 2 more site and i have placed 5 ads in 5 diffrent news papers and i do have good days and bad days iam more sad when my af come a round or i here that some one is pg or have to go to partys or shopping or even i see a woman pg on the tv then i busted in to tears i just wonder when its our turn to be pg sorry if i have made you sad too its good to talk to some one who is on the same path as me by the way where do you live i live in sydney jo-anne

[aqua28]

please don't be so sad jo-anne, what you said brought tears to my eyes, as I too have those feelings sometimes and feel as though I could scream and no-one would hear me! I'm also a lot older than you and I often think "am I so stupid to think that someone is going to help me?" or "who do I think I am, trying to get pg at my age?" (over 50 but feel and look much younger) but as I read somewhere- the body clock doesn't agree and keeps on ticking! anyways, enough of this self pity, I was supposed to cheer you up and look at what I'm doing. seriously, I do thank God for everyone and everything in my life each and every day and I pray every night for my own quest but also for peace on earth and all the creatures on this earth...take good care of yourself because 'you are all you've got', my dear. by the way, we live in melbourne. cheers, aqua:smiliedance: :kiss:

[jo-anne.36]

hi you made me cry and well i hope that some body mite read this and be able to 1 or both of us to fulfill our baby dreams in be comming a mother god bless you jo