Can't leave baby alone or she cries...

[alanasmum]

My DD is 9 weeks old and when she is awake, if I'm not constantly entertaining her, she cries. I can't put her down on her play mat or put her in her rocker without being in the same room. She will just scream. Sometimes she doesn't sleep much during the day (today is one of those days - she's only slept 1.5 hours) and I have to entertain her the whole day. It's impossible to get anything done. Days like today are so frustrating. Is anyone else's baby of a similar age the same? Do they grow out of it? Or is it just her personality? Even if I could just put her in her rocker in the kitchen for 1/2 an hour and get some things done I'd be happy, but unless I'm holding her, rocking her or playing with her she cries. :banghead:

[misskittyfantastico]

Most little bubbas want to be near their mums...it's familiar ans comforting for them. Have you thought about getting a sling? Then at least you have free hands.
I hope this helps :)

[hayleylea]

Hi there :hugs: It might not seem like it but it does get better. My DS went throught the same thing and i know it can be very frustrating but you just have to hang in there. I think they just feel very vunerable. Maybe if you carry her around in a sling while you do the house work? I never did this but i have heard of it working. All I can say is that they do eventually get better and learn its ok to play by themselves etc. Its really just a stage...enjoy it while you can because as they get you older they want you less and less lol!

[Crazy Monkey]

Firstly, just wanted to give you :hugs:
I understand what you are going through as DS was the same when he was your DD age... They do grow out of it...

Having the radio or TV on would capture his attention sometimes and keep him happy while on the floor or in his rocker... Sorry I dont have much else to offer...

Keep you chin up as it does pass...

[Fitmumma]

[QUOTE=Crazy Monkey;596573]Firstly, just wanted to give you :hugs:
I understand what you are going through as DS was the same when he was your DD age... They do grow out of it...



Yup, my now 2.5 DS was exactly the same, they do grow out of it but until my DS was mobile he was exactly like that, I never got anything done & some days Id feel so frustrated too it just felt like things would never get better, but they do so hang in there, if you ever want to chat PM me.:)

[Mischief]

Lots of hugs to you! I know how frustrating it is. :hugs:

Oliver didnt really START to outgrow this until 12 weeks....even now he still has his days. But now he does enjoy some time alone on his play mat or in his bouncer. :)

Do what you can, but she will outgrow it by herself. :) In the mean time forget the housework!

[Blessed Mum]

DD definately went through this stage. I honestly had to just put her down & she soon stopped thank goodness. I hope the same happens for you.

[faery]

:hugs: it has taken ds 5 months to be put down and be happy. and even now he lets me know very quickly if it is not a good time for the floor.
get a sling, or a baby bjorn, or whatever feels comfy for you to carry her. i had to realize that things were just not going to get done and had to be happy with doing the bare minimum (nappies washed, snack made).
ds only day sleeps in a sling or on boobie. i have had to learn to rest. and not use his naptime as my worktime. it is hard cause there are no breaks, but they will eventually become independant. I never thought ds would change. i though the sleeplessness and the constant crying and carrying would last forever. then one day it just stopped.
:hugs: it will get better. just know that your bubba needs you to hold her and be close to you. and that is a good thing!

[pookiesossige]

I am going through the same thing with my 14 week old... And a few weeks ago I lost my hug-a-bub so it's just awful now. But I really recommend you get a sling/baby carrier- they are life-changing! With the hug-a-bub I could do anything with my hands free and bub happy and all snuggled into my chest. I tried many carriers and found the this one dispersed the weight of the baby across my hips instead of my back and shoulders- she felt as light as a feather when in there for hours.
Good luck- thankfully they grow out of it- sounds like she just adores her mum!

[alanasmum]

Thank you all so much for your advice and especially for the hugs :hugs: . Today was another day like yesterday but at least my wonderful DH was home to help out. I think I just need to be greatful for the fact that she does want to spend so much time with me and just do the bare minimum around the house for the moment... after all there will come a time when she won't want to know me!! :rolleyes: I was looking back over my photos today of the day she was born and she was so tiny - she has grown so much already and the weeks are flying by. I need to treasure every day with her - enjoy the good days and forget the housework on the bad ones... :) Thanks for suggesting the sling idea though - I do have a Baby Bjorn so I might give that a go if I really need to get a few things done. :hugs: to you all.

[Natsmummy]

My DS was like this until he was about 4 months old and even now isn't keen on being left alone really, but I think that's understandable - they just want to be close to us! Try the sling idea or else do what I did, and carry the rocker from room to room and talk to her while you're having a shower, cooking, cleaning the loos or whatever it is you need to get done.

[Yasmeena]

Some babies just cry more than others, my first was like that, cried all the time, would only sleep being rocked in my arms, drove me crazy! Lucky I was living near my Mum (same street) it's just something that you have to go through, so just do the best you can and get all the help you can.
As to personality, he is still rather sensitive but goes to sleep fine now (he was co-sleeping til he was 3), I love him to bits and wouldn't want to change him.
My second was like an angel and rarely cried, so I guess it is just the individual.

[stellarella]

My DS is 7 weeks and he is the same. He needs alot of attention, or he gets upset and yells for me to come back. He is happy to smile and coo at me for hours as long as im playing with him but if i have to do something like eat, use the bathroom etc he cries. and during the day he needs to be cuddled during sleeps or he wakes when i put him down. in the night he is the opposite, he sleeps solidly, only waking twice and falls back to sleep immediately. Go figure.
ella

[Milliner]

I go through the same thing with my nearly 8 month old most daya I am still waiting for him to grow out of it!

:hugs: to you.

[bindiloo]

mine was the same and i was getting nothing done i felt like i had no life as i was holding her constantly or amusing her but after letting her lay there and cry and just kept turning her from her tummy to her back for half an hour before her feed one day then she went straight to sleep after her bottle and slept like and angel for hours and after doing this alot more often and letting her know she isnt going to be held all day, she now enjoys her own time on the floor and doesnt care when i leave the room to go put the washing on etc.

[Will]

Yep my DS went through the same thing! He went through a stage of sleeping only twenty minutes at a time probably twice a dayifi was lucky! Needless to say nothing got done! I used to have him in the pram following me around and always talking to him, but not being out of sight. That didnt usually last that long, but he has grown out of it now, sleeps for 1 and a half hours twice (sometimes 3 times) a day and will lie on the floor for hours playing with his toys... i can get vacuuming dishes washing, heaps done!! even come on here!! It is great!! But yes he does still have some days when he wont be put down. But it is ok when it is just a day here and there.

:hugs: to you, it will get better. Try to enjoy the time you spend together now in a few years she will be at school and you will miss her more then anything! You arent going to win an award for having a tidy house!