How do you deal with constant stupidity!??

[Tieko]

*where is a head banging emoticon when I need one??* :hair: I go through this same crap EVERY time my ex has the boys for holidays!! Today I had him and his girlfriend ringing up AGAIN whinging abou tthe kids clothes....that I didn't pack enough, that they aren't brand names, that they aren't 'new' enough - and I'm just so over it!!! I packed them 5 sets of clothes each for a 10 day stay...and they ring me up whinging because (wait for it...) they have to do WASHING!!! :dizzy: Arrgggh why do I have to deal with this every single time he has the kids!! Yes if you want to have the boys for the school holidays, then it means you will have to wash their clothes!! Being a parent isn't all about take-away food and buying their love with new toys and attraction visits - occasionally you will be required to do some WORK ...welcome to my life! Last time he actually threatened to call child services if I didn't send them some more clothes :laughing: i todl him to go ahead and do it so that they can laugh at him too...but alas even that hasn't put him off, because here we are again with him ringing up with the same stupid complaints (he has a few regular complaints that are in constant circulation!) I'm just so sick of hearing their petty whinging every time I have to deal with them, I have more important things to deal with. I have had 4 family members die in the last 9 months (with my uncle now just beign given 3 months to live!), I have just contracted a potentially serious illness while pregnant (chickenpox), and in less than 7 weeks I am about to bring new life into this world :cloud9: When will they just grow up and realise that their are more important things in life then the crap they constantly harress me with...

Does anyone else have to deal with this stuff on an ongoing basis? How do you cope with it when you actually have 'real' issues in your life and they are just constantly threatening you with stupid stuff like calling child services, and turning up at your house to get this or that they just need for the kids. I'm just over all the drama :gloomy: Unfortuantely I don't think there is much I can do because legally they are allowed to talk to me about issues concerning the children. I just wish there was a cure for stupidity!!!

Okay vent over

[Benji]

I'll let you know when I work out a solution to this ongoing crap!!

It took me almost 2 years to get my ex to buy DS clothes for his house because I was sick of his complaining. I just stopped packing them and said he needs a set of pyjamas there and his own clothes because I was sick of them not being returned. Unfortunately, his poor girlfriend bought DS a *heap* of clothes, along with a carseat (XDP was pinching my parents carseat each visit) and a proper bed for DS. So he hasn't actually learned any lessons, he's just gotten away with abandoning responsibility again.

What if you just don't pack many clothes and send a note saying "you need to buy sets of clothes for your house, that's your responsibility" and don't answer your phone? :laughing:

I also get calls if DS falls sick there to pick him up :rolleyes: Even if it's 4 am.

Are they parents or babysitters I ponder? :detective:

[Benji]

Oh and I'm sorry for everything that's happening with you at the moment :hugs::hugs: Unfortunately ex partners don't seem to be the best at knowing when someone needs a break from the constant nagging from all sides.

[Tieko]

Oh Benji your situation sounds so similar to mine!! One of the very few brand name items I've bought my kids were expensive billabong/quicksilver hats - and I just plain refused to send them with the kids this time because the last two didn't come back!! He keeps telling me they are at his brothers house and I can go and get them if I want - :hair: It's not MY responsibility to chase up items of the boys that he leaves at other people's houses!?? He also took my little one's (brand new) booster seat this time time because he left his one who knows where! Unfortunately I didn't have the heart to say no to that because I care about my son's life more than my ex's stupid ways! I think I must be dreaming to still be heare holding out hope that he will actually grow up one day, all he does is tell me how much it hurts him that he doesn't get to see the boys very often...yet whenever he has them all he does is constantly whinge about the work that comes with being a parent :dizzy: Last time it was because the kids got headlice! Yes that happens sometimes with two school aged children - get over it!!! (of course it was apparently my fault that the kids got headice from school too and he was going ot call child services about that as well :rolleyes:)

[Benji]

Him and his child services!!!! He is absolutely clueless!! Apparantly my son's asthma and constant picking up of colds is my fault too.. because my house quote: "must have mould in it" even though it's a brand new house with zero mould in it whatsoever!!!!

Lesson: everything is our fault even though we're the ones doing the hard yards :laughing: