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parentingrocks
21-09-2010, 11:56
Hi

DD is 19months old. We have had a potty just sitting set up in her room for ages because it was given to us as a gift. She has wondered what it was for a while and I always said littl things about it like 'big girls do wee's in there(pointing)'. Also she is a very clingy toddler and follows me to the toilet every time I go and always watched me wee (sorry bit gross) and when I flush she says 'bye wee wee'.
Anyway last week gestured to me that she was about to poo(in her nappy). She has never gestured to me that she was about to do a poo before, only once she had done it. So i took the opportunity to say "Charli do you want to do poo on the potty?" and she nodded and propmty whipped her pants off and ran to potty - she sat there and I read her a book and she pooed.
I mentioned it to her nanna (my mum) and mum said strike while iron is hot, have a go at TT'ing her in next few days (just during the day still in nappies at night)... so I did this yesterday and this morning. She did 1 more poo that day but wee's seemed to be impossible. We then had a few functions to go to so i put her in a wetness liner nappy. Once home nappy was off and she actually to my surprise jumped on potty herself and wee'd in it on her own. We did big praise and showed her tipping it into toilet, flushing and saying 'bye wee wees'.

Anyway, there were spills here and there and 3 wee's successfully in potty yesterday but this morning has just gone completly backwards...

She now recognises when she needs to wee, says 'mum wee' and holds herself, and I say oh ggod girl charli sit on potty to do wee's, and now she just cracks it and says 'No' in a real 'tantrum' sort of voice. She ends up holding on so long and sooking that she needs to wee (and I keep offering the potty) but she refused until she ends up weeing all over the carpet (yuk).

So I felt she was gettign such an aversion to the potty that I stopped and popped her into a wetness liner nappy this morning because I didn't want her to hate the potty alltogether.

What should I do??????

She totally understands the concept and can hold on a little bit nw when she feels wees coming but wont sit on the potty when she is really needing to go.

I must add that even today she sat on there from time to time, we watched Dora, read books, played games all while she sat there but she wouldn't wee... she just simply waited til she couldn't hold on anymore and then refused to sit on it and wee'd on carpet.
:confused::confused::confused:

Any advice welcome.

I know she is young but I just follwed her lead as she initiated most of this on her own, just wonderign why she now wont sit on it when she needs to go.

If you got this far thanks for reading
Anyway,

Naeby
21-09-2010, 12:50
My daughter refused to use the potty so we just popped her on the toilet (with supervision ofcourse we didnt want her to fall in lol) and that seemed to work fine :) she has only ever seen us using the toilet and we haven't got any other kids yet so we figure that's why??? hope this is helpfull??

p3nguin
21-09-2010, 13:03
My advice is You can either 1 put potty away for a month or so and try again later or 2 keep offering her the potty and give her the choice of potty or nappy. Every accident just clean up ith no fuss and don't even mention anything. Toddlers sometimes just do things because they can and to see what happens. My ds is not 25 months and has been potty trained for at least 12 months but is absolutly terrified of big people toilets even with small seats and stairs etc . Every child is different.

parentingrocks
21-09-2010, 16:39
naeby - thank you we have a little step up/insert thing for normal toilet so I've offered her that too.
She loved sitting there yesterday, today refusing everything.

p3nguin - thats very impresssive your LO was trained so early. I feel like my DD understands the concept but is just overwhealmed when it is all we are doing and focusing on all day (because she wee's so often) I think I will just do it for a couple of hours each day and if she ever feels overwhealmed just stop and offer nappy.

I am haunted by the constant advice from others "Once you start you can't stop, never put them back in a nappy" but I feel I have to let her lead the way. When she is in the mood to take nappy of and go to toilet, fine. When she is overwhealmed, nappy back on, not the end of the world.

Any more advice welcome.....

teenie
21-09-2010, 19:36
The only advice I have is not to worry about putting her back in a nappy if you need to. DS TTd over a 5 month period (DD was born during that time). I just couldn't manage a newborn and TT - so it was back and forth. He got there and we've never looked back.

MummaBear03
21-09-2010, 21:28
DD never used a potty. Refused to use one. She had one of those step ladder and seats that go on the toilet seat and went straight to that which was good because she started daycare around 19 months and they didn't use a potty there, only the little kiddy toilets so it worked out well that she went straight to using a toilet.