I know this is a morbid question but...

[Tieko]

What will happen to your children if you die?? Would they automatically be given to their biological father...even if that means separating them from the family they know, love and live with 99% of the time? Even if it means taking them away from their half brothers/sisters? Do courts ever allow them to stay with their step parent and half-siblings if their biological father says that he wants them? Do they take into account how much the bio father actually sees them, and does ti affect the situation if you are actually married to your DP or not?

It's just such a terrible thought to think that if anything ever happened to me, that these boys could be ripped away from the only life they know, moved interstate, and taken away from my DP, and their future half-siblings to be forced to go and live with their biological father whom they only see 2-3 times a year at most :gloomy:

I have never bothered to do a will up before as I was always told that if something were to happen to me, that my ex would automatically be granted custody. However now that I'm due to have a little bub it's really distressing for me to think that they could really be taken away from their siblings.

[Benji]

I think about this a lot. If I passed away I'd want DS to stay with what he's familiar with - i.e. live with DP for 5 days then his bio dad's house for 2. Our house is the only house at which he's actually wanted, his dad just carts him around with him to work.

So I don't stress too much - because his dad wouldn't want him anyway!!

I'm going to put in my Will that I want DP to be his guardian. I know that doesn't necessarily mean it'll happen but I think DS' bio dad would agree to it :yes:

[Sadaussiemum]

think about this all the time just hope he dies first ooops but seriously I worry about ds life if I'm gone

by he I mean fob

[hsvmum09]

think about this all the time just hope he dies first ooops but seriously I worry about ds life if I'm gone

by he I mean fob

This, but I do know my DH will fight to keep my DS 6 no matter the cost he will fight to keep this family together.

[supa_star323]

I have thought about this a lot too. I am going to get a will drawn up saying that I want Jacob to continue as is if something happened to me. Every second weekend with his dad, and living with my mum or my sister. I truly believe this would be in his best interests as his dad never pays attention to any of his important stuff like therapists. I know he could challenge the will, but I don't think he would.

[nat278]

I have thought of this and lucky for me bio dad is not in the picture but it is in my will that all children birthed by me are to stay together with DH and siblings.

I also worry about medical things because even though I am married should a medical event happen (ie ds and I both in accident and seriously hurt) and i am unable to decide for DS my parents are legally next of kin not my Hubby, he has no legal rights to DS even when bio dad has never been in DSs life.

I am looking at legal options to give DH those rights but they are complicated and expensive as I have to prove bio dad can't be located and prove he gives up his rights as father, how do you prove a guy you only know as Tony that you met at a party 12 years ago and have never seen since doesn't want parental rights??

I think it's a morbid thought but I think it is an issue that must be addressed while your alive to sort out rather than leave to be fought over after your gone if the worst should happen.

[3peasMummy]

I've only just started thinking about this, as I've drawn up a Parenting Plan in regards to my DD and her Bio-dad.
I have a DS too and I think I need to let DD's Dad know now, that if anything ever happens to me that DD and DS are to stay together.
I haven't got a full-time live in partner, but hopefully by the time any of this would be needed he'd be able to look after the kids himself, but I think DD's Dad would fight that, though he already know's how much my DS adores his sister. It's been us 3 for a very long time, and to think that DD's dad would separate them is stressing me out.
Even if I didn't have a partner it's hard to pin point who I could get to take the kids. My dad is not up to and neither is my mum. The only real solution is that my best friends family (they've basically adopted us all as part of their family and ADORE my DS as if he were their own grand child) would get first priority. If not, then DD's Dad would have to step up and take DS also. I know he loves him too, but I worry about their relationship if that were too happen... ARGH!!! This distresses me greatly.....
I think I need to make a will!!!