Want to stop the ex coming to my place - can I?

[Tieko]

My ex was never supposed to know where I lived (due to issues at our last house with him damaging some property and also because he put an offer on the house right down the road from us!!) - I never told him my address and when bought up at mediation by him the mediation officer told me that I did not need to do so. My ex however tricked the kids into telling him where we live as he told him he needed the address to 'send them some money' :banghead: :thumbsdown: So now he knows where we live and has said that he will be picking up the kids from my house, and also dropping them back off home here (instead of at a mutally agreed location like previously done). I know I can stop him picking htem up from here by simply not letting the kids go outside to him if he turns up here! But what am I supposed to do about him dropping the kids off here?? How can I stop that? I do NOT want him at my place at all, I do not want him coming here :no: I have a feeling though that it's not classed as tresspassing to be at the front of someone's place though or knock on their door etc...does anyone know? Does anyone have ANY tips on what I could do to prevent him from coming to my place??? I know a restraing order would prevent it but that would require him actually DOING something, not just tryign to deliberately pi$$ me off and invade my privacy wouldn't it?

[fireflies4]

Not sure what you could do.

Can you speak with the mediator again or with a counselor?

:hugs::hugs::hugs:

Hope you can work something out.

[Pinkzy]

If you mutually agreed to a pick up/drop off destination and it's in the court order, then he has absolutely no right to turn up at your house at all and if he does, then he's breaking the court order and you can call the police.

[almfam37]

if you feel that strongly against it i would get a court order drawn up that states where he can pick and drop them off if he doesnt sign it the courts will judge what is in the best intrest and if there hasnt been any drama before with meeting at a specified location and he found your address by lying to children then he doesnt look good so you would have a good chance of winning then if he mucks you around call the police.

[Tieko]

I don't think I can do anything in terms of court orders, as all it states is that children are to be picked up and dropped off in a 'mutally agreed location' as he does not live here so it depends on where he gets accomodation when coming to visit the kids. We never specifically stated in the order that he couldn't come here as at the time he did not know my address! :hair:

Will I be able to call the police though if he turns up here and demands the children for his allocated visiting day?? Is it classed as tresspassing if he refuses to leave my front yard/door after being asked?

I had to move from my last house due to the problems he was causing (he even came into my last house uninvited and deleted things off my computer) but he knows better this time after I went to the police, so I know he won't actually DO anything...but does anyone know if I can get a restraining order for stalking or something?? I know he'll use the kids as an excuse though "I had to drop them home because one was sick, or wanted to see mum etc etc" antying just to rub in the fact that he now knows my address and can turn up whenever with the kids with out getting in trouble. We have another mediation appointment but unfortunatley it's not for a few months.

[Pinkzy]

If you ask him to stay away from your house and he comes over anyway then yes it is trespassing and you can definitely get a restraining order. Hopefully he won't be that stupid though because if it came to that, it would look really bad for him in court and at mediation.