Throwing my own baby shower?

[rjwhite08]

My sister has offered to throw me a shower. She plans to do it two weeks before I am due. This is my first pregnancy and I don't really know what to expect. I am due Feb 17, and suggested the party should be done in the first couple of weeks of November due to the holidays. She is opposed to this, saying it is too early. I will be about 26-27 weeks along.
I am very stressed with everything that is needed for a baby and really don't want to be extremely uncomfortable still worried that I might not have everything for the baby.
I am thinking she might not have the money right now to throw me one. She might be relying on her tax return to throw it. I understand this but I am willing to help out financially anyway I can. I don't want an expensive party, just one that's in my home with friends and family over for good conversation and food.
Would it be rude to tell her she can throw me a party at that time once the baby is born and I'll throw my own shower if she would like to host it? I don't have any real close girlfriends and my sister in law just had her baby and financially can't do it.
I do want the party to be a particular way. I want certain food and really don't care for the shower games. I am liking the idea of the crafts to decorate the baby's room though.

Please help!!!

[flicker]

hey, first congratulations!

Let your sister throw you a shower huni! It is so beautiful that she wants to be involved so much. maybe you can work out a comprimise. have it a bit earlier than she wants, and later than you want? when are you due? and you can always talk together about what you want, i am sure if she is kind enough to want to throw your shower, she is kind enough to listen.

as for getting things ready. you can always do your reasearch of the things you want earlier, write a list so that you are organised in what you want and you dont have to worry about which brand/style you want at the last minute. all it then takes is one shopping trip. If you shop at one of the big shops they often have a loyalty card that will get you extra. and you never know what post christmas sales may be on. some shops have gift lists too, like you do for weddings.

:flowerz: it is too much of a blessing to stress:hugs:

[hamlady]

Hi there, I agree with you and I believe the mamma should get what she wants. I had my baby shower at 27 weeks at my house I organized most of it with the help of three girlfriends. Perhaps your sister and sister inlaw can help out and have their names on the RSVP for the invites. I had a really lovely day a few classy games, lots of yummy food and so many cakes! It was a hit. I also found I was not stressed. Here are some reasons to convince sister. 1. It will be good to have party in advance so you can see what you receive as gifts and save or plan to buy other items with a bit of time before bub is due.... 2. Feb is so hot!!! You will be heavily pregnant and in no mood to socialise or stress. Ultimately it's your day your choice good luck :)

[mummyrissa]

I would have it about 1 - 2 months before you are due.

I think you should tell your sister 2 weeks before you are due is to risky - what happens if you go early? And you need about a month to sort out your presents and buy things you need, as it's pointless buying stuff and then someone buys it for your baby shower.

Enjoy it! I loved mine I had 2 - one from work and one with family and friends. I was or should I say DD was (and still is) very, very spoilt!

[Ruby Sneakers]

I pretty much organised my own shower.... As all my fam live interstate....

I do agree that 2 weeks before is definately too close to the due date (I did mine 2 months before)

I think if u approached it careful with her explaining ur concerns that it's too close to it due date and u are uncomfortable with it I can't see a problem xox

[FunKy~Mummy]

I was due on the 17th of March, My gf organised mine on the 18th of Feb I had been on hosp the weekend before in early labour. I was huge uncomfortable and extremely hot and didnt enjoy the shower at all unfortunately and I loved that everyone came but I felt so ikkky!!!
I think earlier is awesome and I agree mumma should be able to have it when she wants too!!!!

My lil one came on the 4th of march so Im glad it wasnt any later!!!

good luck

xox

[Kathee]

I'm due at the end of Jan and will be having mine beginning of December, I'm also concerned about getting too close to the party season and that everyone will be super busy but that is why we are just going to have a drop by anytime in the afternoon kind of thing. :)

[MagicalLeopluradon]

I had my baby showers when I was about 30-32 weeks pregnant. You are the Mum to be though and should come down to your decision!

[1CrazyMoose]

I did mine 2.5 weeks before my due date (due to the first dat being cancelled as my grandad passed away) I was worried that it was to late but I lived it!!!! My belly was at prime size and it was so real that I was meeting bub so soon.

With ddi was 35weeks preggy. Any later I don't think I would have had the energy as it was at my place and I had a toddler aswell

[willowtree78]

Just politely thank your sister for offering to throw the shower but you'd really like to have it a bit earlier so you're not so huge, it's not so hot and it's not so close to the due date so you're happy just to organise it yourself...and suggest maybe she can organise one for the next bub when that time comes :)

[MummysMojo]

Can't you work together? I basically organised my whole baby shower from catering to games, prizes and goody bags... but my sister was the hostess with the mostess. That way I got the shower I wanted and my sister made sure I got to enjoy the day. Looking back I probably should've had it a little earlier as I had my DS (11mths) 2 wks later 'cos he was impatient to be in the world :wave:

P.S. A good game is randomly picking 3 guests and getting them to drink water/milk etc out of a baby bottle. Whoever finishes first, wins! So funny!

[shockinamillion]

I have had two. The first I had at 32 weeks with twins. I was in hospital the next day.
I organised it myself ( MIL said she was throwing it, she got the cake:rolleyes: ), my mum and friends did all the decorating and such for me, but I paid for and organised it.

This time my friend told me when it was, I was just to be there. It was here, yesterday actually :D. I am 35 weeks. I was tired and needed a nana nap by the time everyone left, but it was SO MUCH NICER to have it all sorted for me!