Co Sleeping - how to stop

[bolly]

I would love some suggestions on how to transition a baby from co-sleeping back into own bed. Has anyone done it successfully with no crying?

I don't believe in CC and since i weaned my 12 month old he has slept with me. It has been great as he is super happy in our bed and i get more sleep than i have had since his birth. he seems to bang around in the cot - even his day sleeps are really short in the cot and very good if i put him in our bed. Problem is Daddy can't sleep with him in there too so he ends up in the spare room which is starting to depress him. And i miss him too!

I have read elizabeth pantley's no cry sleep solutions which has been great but i would love to hear from people who have done it - how long it took and was it very traumatic.

Any suggestions would be g8!

[Bambibambino]

I have co-slept for the last 6 months with my now 12 month old and have wondered this myself. I do miss my DH too :(

I think I have read things suggesting you start by moving the cot next to your bed side-car with the front rail off and do that for a while, then add the rail and slowly move it away from your bed a bit at a time before moving it to the nursery:detective: something along those lines.....

[MummaBear03]

It was successful with us with no crying or fussing, but she was 6 at the time :o

[Dezemya]

We squeezed the cot next to our bed and our first born slept in that so that I could give him a hand to hold if he wanted it. DH and I had the whole bed to ourselves this way. Then when number 2 came along and it was time for her to move into a cot, I put No 1 and No 2 in their cots side by side so they could comfort each other. Worked a treat.
They (3.5 & 5yrs) are now in single beds, in the same room and when it is cold or one of them feels lonely they climb in bed with each other which is great!! :) We have No 3 on the way and we'll be doing the same thing again. We pride ourselves that our kids very rarely cried!! My sister studied books when she had her children and used the controlled crying method. This broke my heart and I think my kids are more confident because they never wonder if Mum and Dad are going to leave them in the dark!!!!

Hope this helps :)

[bolly]

Thanks heaps for replies!
Dezemya - i'm going to give that a go and see what happens! i think it'll work!
Bambibambino - glad i'm not the only one!! it's just so easy isn't it - if i had a king size bed would be no problem!

[CazHazKidz]

Hey Bolly. My bub is 9 months, and until 3 days ago I would feed him to sleep, put him down in his own cot, then whenever he woke through the night I would take him into bed with me and that's where he would stay, so in essence we were co-sleeping.

3 nights ago I decided it was time he started sleeping in his own bed and learning to self settle, So I put him in his own bed awake, patted and soothed him for a while, kissed him goodnight and walked out. He carried on, so I went straight back in and soothed him again, walked out, back in back out - took quite a few times, but I never let him cry for more than a 30 seconds. Next night same thing only it took less times, last night - I walked out and he never made a fuss. I went in to check on him half an hour later and he hadn't even moved, was asleep in the exact spot I'd left him in! All 3 of these nights he has SLEPT THROUGH! Not one wake up. Mind you, if he did wake through the night, I would have gone and got him and taken him straight back to bed with me. I'll never leave my bub lonely in his room!

Not sure if that helps at all, but just thought I'd share as I'm so impressed with my lil boy. I do not like controlled crying either. I know essentialy that's what I am doing, but I never let him whinge for more than a few moments.

[bolly]

Thanks CazHayRific - that is definately worth a try too. we do the same - put him into his cot at night, after a book, cuddle him to sleep and pop him in. he used to stay there till 3 or 4am before coming in with us but now it is around 11pm!!! Sickness, teeth and it all went backward. i found that i could get sleep by having him in with me so i just do it.Probably i need to make a big effort in resettling him in his cot for a week or so before moving his cot next to our bed. It's just working up the energy!

Great news that it has worked for your little man!

Thanks again:yes:

[alisonmum]

I slept with bubs till he was 2! Then we bought him a single bed and made a huge novelty about it, bought a Licensed Cars doona cover. Generally tried to hype it up heaps. It took around 2 weeks of pain, him waking up and trying to get back into our bed and us (well mainly me lol) puting him back and telling him what a big boy he was etc. Was a tough two weeks and my mother said "see I told you it wasn't worth co-sleeping". My answer back to that was in the whole two years I had the best sleep ever and unlike many mums didn't have to get up let alone even half wake up to breast feed so two weeks struggle out of two years of blissful co-sleeping was so very worth it. He now sleeps fantastic in his 'big boy bed', we taught him that only when the sun comes up can he come for a cuddle in our bed. I now have a new little man in our bed lol, and will likely be there for some time yet! :bee:

[Boobycino]

Alisonmum that's what we are planning :D BIG hype around moving into his bed. I want to find 'yo gabba gabba' bedding and maybe a 'yo gabba' plush toy and pajamas or something make a big deal. I don't know if we'll do it at 2, he's 22 months now and doesn't quite seem ready. So I'm thinking after Christmas.

Though one thing we've started with is his cot next to our bed with the side off to get him to start sleeping in his cot at least part of the night, then we'll move the cot into his room side off and dress it up for him. :D