hubby vent

[lucyp]

This is just a whinge I am afraid. My husband has taken 2 weeks holiday recently and whilst I thought this was a lovely idea and a great chance to spend some time with his son (7months) all he has done - has compained about how boring it is and ask questions like - how many times do you go to the shops a day (sarcastic tone). I don't know what he expected being at home ALL day with a baby was going to be like. Not that we are home all day - but a good deal of it is spent as you would know , sleeping, eating, or in the pram , at the shopping center etc etc catching up with mothers group and so on

I suppose what really hurts me - is the fact the he thinks what I do is boring, meaningless and menial, when in truth - sometimes just getting the baby fed and dressed and managing to hang out one load of washing before 11am is an accomplishment in itself .

Sorry to complain - but I don't really know where else to turn for a sympathetic ear at this hour.. Anyway - back to the "chores" while he sits on the couch watching tv and sulking about the fact he does not feel like he has done anything these holidays. ( in fact he has .e.g golf, dinnners, lunches and not just with me!)

:(

[Miss_Vicki]

Grr at some daddys , they Dont understand Arg U vent away my dear thats wht we are hear for to lend a ear :)

[Chickadee]

Give him the basket of dirty laundry. If he helps out in the mornings you can go somewhere fun the afternoon.

[Kristy&Alex]

Don't let him get to you Lucy! My Partner has little digs at me sometimes about staying home & "sleeping all day" but I just put it back onto him & say that he's just jealous! :p That usually shuts him up....probabley because there is some truth to that. I think all men secretly envy SAHM's because they wish they could be spending more time with bubs. However in saying that I know that there is a crazy, stupid, deluded, dumb idea that being a mum is easy................PFFFT!!!!....go out & leave him with the bubs for a cple of hours & we will see where is attitude lies then hey?

:rolleyes: Sorry got a bit carried away there....i guess i needed a whinge too!

Stay positive babe................without mothers where would we all be?! :confused:

[mummyb]

hi oh men are so stupid sometimes ,not alll the time just some .
my husband complained about exactly the same thing at the beging of the year when our boys where 4yrs,7mnths .
i felt quite hurt ,then i decied to go out for a few hours with my mum ,he was alone with them HE had to feed them,HE had to do nap time,HE had to clean up play answer a thousand questions .
when i got back he was having a nap and his mum was playing with our eldest ,never again have i heard the words this is boring what do you do all day ?
now he knows i parent allday and all night and everything i do i have to be accountble for as little eyes are watching me allday.
so dont feel bad all of us mums know your amzing ,just washing my hair is an achievment and ive got two kids. go to mums group and enjoy your bub ,thats something thats never boring . :D

[lily81]

I went away with my sister to a wedding, just overnight and boy what a difference 24 hours makes. I came home and hubby said never again would he question what I do all day. (Mind you I have twins but one can be just as hard!!!) Maybe this would be a way for you to let him know what you really do. A little drastic I know but maybe as suggested by some of the other mothers, a couple of hours away and let him have time at home would wake him up??!! :rolleyes:

[melzy]

Hi, i know how you feel. It breaks your heart doesn't it. I don't work (let me rephrase that - I workand don't get paid) and if I ask my bf to read to our daughter or to bath her I get comments such as "I've worked x hours today, can't I have a break". Well hello, I have too except mine doesn't stop until my little one is in bed!! It is so disheartening that I just want to cry. Some days I just walk to a spare room and have a sob. :( NOW he has been playing the friggin xbox as well and s*** me to tears. I feel that friggin machine is more important to him than we are, than to my beautiful little girl. My partner was quite helpful when our little girl was born but as time has got by I feel it's just gone. I have spoken to him about sooooo many times I am a cracked record but obviously nothing has sunk in. I have even told him that I can't rely on him for anything which upset him and I thought that now it would make him change for the better but no. I don't ask for anything because I just don't want to be dissapointed. I am up with my daughter at 7am, with her all day, cook,clean,bath her, washing and all the stuff that seems "meaningless" like you say. Moving interstate and needing to find friends for us and my girl makes it harder too.

I am sorry to be going on about me, I guess I just needed to vent a bit too. You are not alone and we'd be surprised at how common this is. Signing off because I am getting teary.

I wonder if they'd notice us and exactly what we did if we were gone - i'd never do it but it crosses your mind.