How to concieve???

[Nates_Mumma]

Good afternoon ladies n gents....

This is now a lot easier for me to write without dp looking consistently over my shoulder and stickybeaking...

We have been ttc for ages - like years, only definately ttc last 3 months. As DP turns 40 nxt yr and we are thinking if we don't start soon officially, it may never happen, especially when we won't ever be able to afford IVF or anything like that.

I want to know if we are doing it right, as both of us dont have any kids at all, we are unsure if the technique we use is incorrect or what not...

When my dp ejaculates normally when he withdraws, most of the sperm is either is his hand (tmi?) or in my hand as i race to clean up...

Someone suggested pillow under hips, so i hve been tryin that, the whole upside down against a wall aint going to happen.... not that flexible...

Does anyone have any tips/suggestions on what to do/not what to do?

Also i am trying to start the FF calendar thing.. so i have a few q's from that angle too..

*What is CM classsed as specifically , and how to you check/measure it?

* When is the best time to do your temp?

* Can u actually use FF with the chart for free? or does it cost? What do/does all the stuff on it mean, like temps rising/dipping etc?


Any tips in regards to any of this would be greatly appreciated!

Cheers

Vicki

[QTB]

Ill try n answer as many as i can....

This is now a lot easier for me to write without dp looking consistently over my shoulder and stickybeaking... ahh i have one like that too! :)

When my dp ejaculates normally when he withdraws, most of the sperm is either is his hand (tmi?) or in my hand as i race to clean up... i get DH to withdraw slowly, leaving as much in me as possible.... we do it straight before im going to go to sleep, i have a clean pair of undies ready with a panty liner in them, get dh to help me put them on (so i dont spill!) and go to sleep (and let the boys do there work!)

Does anyone have any tips/suggestions on what to do/not what to do? after trying for so long i would be seriously seeking medical help... even if u have only been 'seriously' trying for 3 months..

Also i am trying to start the FF calendar thing.. so i have a few q's from that angle too..

*What is CM classsed as specifically , and how to you check/measure it?ok (TMI) i do it everynight before i go for my shower. basically you put your finger inside yourself, make sure you get some cervical mucus on your finger and see what its like, creamy, stretchy, clear, etc.. you are looking for EWCM, which is egg white cervical mucus.... clear, stretchy, just like egg whites.

* When is the best time to do your temp? i set my alarm for 6am and do it then, but basically you do it before you get out of bed everymorning, at the same time each day....

* Can u actually use FF with the chart for free? or does it cost? What do/does all the stuff on it mean, like temps rising/dipping etc?
yes you can use it for free... i do. temp rising is when you are ovulating (temp rise and three high temps mean u have ovulated...) a temp dip could be illness, implantation etc... (we like to hope its implantation!!)

Any tips in regards to any of this would be greatly appreciated! i hope this has helped a bit... you couls also try accupuncher, seeing a natropath and other stuff like that :)

BD regularly... :) and try to relax and have fun (hard i know!)

[QTB]

* FF is free when u first join but it only lasts for 30 days unless u become a VIP.

nope, not true! you get VIP features for 30days then you have to pay for them, but you can still use the charts free....

[Lambie]

I've heard somewhere that if you bring yourself to climax before having intercourse, this can help...

Of course this maybe useful if you can climax with cliteral (sp?) stimulation!

[twitch]

Lambie, my naturopath told me the same thing. She said it's because the cervix contracts and "sucks" the little guys up.

Vicki if you do start charting with FF, I think it is worth paying for the VIP service cos you can ask them questions and get one on one answers from them, especially if you're new to charting and have heaps of questions. I take my temp at 7am every day, even weekends, before I do anything else (like talk or get up or go to the toilet). Also if you do get pg you can use FF to track your pregnancy as well, so you're not wasting money on just the TTC part.

Another thing you could think about would be to invest in an OPK (Ovulation Predictor Kit), you can buy a Maybe Baby which is like a mini microscope that you look at your saliva every day as it changes when you ovulate, or you could get ones that you wee on and lines up come to tell you you're ovulating. I have used both of these and for me they worked.

I also seen a chinese herbalist for the last 3 months who has helped to regulate my cycles and is making my uterus more "baby friendly", but we have been ttc for 11 months and it is a bit expensive so maybe not something you need right now but if you do want their help now they should be able to do something for you.

Hope this helps and good luck!

[nicoleE]

I've heard somewhere that if you bring yourself to climax before having intercourse, this can help...

This is true, apparenlty the cervix opening opens and contracts basically sucking in sperm when you climax..

[nicoleE]

lol Cantwait, I was too slow to click the Reply button first!

[twitch]

:laughing: No worries. It's like an added bonus part to this whole ttc!

BTW your chart looks great!

[nicoleE]

thanks, lets hope my temp keeps rising and stays up! I couldnt control myself and did a HPT today, even though I am only 6dpo but I couldnt help it... I have 14 (actually 13 now!) HPTs at home so I told myself I have plenty, even if they are a 'waste'.. there's the odd chance I might just know a few days in advance if a BFP shows up! :D

[bekkyboo]

ive heard the orgasm one too. Im pretty sure G was concieved on a late night then sleep one...

oh p.s - of course Garrett is beautiful... everyone wants a bubba as cute as him....

speaking of the little man, he is asleep holding on (and drooling on) my arm...


......fun....

[Nates_Mumma]

well i just did a ovuplan test and it came up positive... so that means theres 24 - 36 hrs til ovulation?

[Nates_Mumma]

anyone else with any ideas?

especially all those of you who have successfully concieved.... what did you do specifically??:devil6:

[Lambie]

Lots of bump and grinding!!!....:laughing:

[Rachael]

do it every single day. Charting and stuff helps but when I decided to forget about all that and simply bd every day we conceived :)

I still new when I was supposed to ovulate so ensured we bded a couple of times a day around that time.

It took us 8months so don't stress after just 3months as stress will not help in the least. I know it is hard when people say to forget about it and relax whilst still bding every day but it worked for us and now I have a gorgeous baby boy :)

goodluck

[mich71]

the sprem that fetlises the egg needs 3days to mature so you have 5 day window which is for conception 2 days before and ovuation day and 2 days after keep bum up and pick possys that help and dont get up straight away hope this helps good luck ttc