To have another baby or not.

[nic182]

Would love some advice on this situation i have.....We have two beautiful boys who are my life but i still get this feeling i would love another,i would love to have a girl and i get so sad to think i will never have a daughter but i know we could have another boy which i would be fine with but im sure that would be my last for financial reason and i think i would go crazy if i had anymore......having said all this hubby isn't on board due to a few things which i guess are understandible, with my last pregnancy i suffered very bad anxiety :( and was on meds the entire time and was going through mental health at the hospital and it was a very tough time and i was sure in my mind i couldn't go through it again. I only seem to suffer this severe anxiety when pregnant.

Now my youngest son is 2 the urge is here and it just wont pass but im scared aswell if i would suffer as i did last time otherwise im sure i would be preg already. I also worry if we did have another and i had the bad anxiety how it would affect our boys....i just don't want to be thinking about wanting another child for years to come but also if i make the choice not to have anymore how do i make peace with that choice and get on with my life as it's on my mind constantly......Some advice would be great:)



ME (28) DH (30)
DS1 (4) DS2 (2)

[jennababe]

so going through the same thing as you. my boys are 4 and 21 months.

i didnt have probs while pregnant, but i got postnatal depression after my 2nd child. and i still struggle with anxiety and depression now.

i feel like its a good time to add to our family, boy or girl it would be our last!! i dont want to have a huge age gap in between first and last born.

i do think about how hard it would be with a 5yr old 3 yr old and new born? but its do able!!;)

as for gender, i know i would be upset if i found out i was having 3rd boy, and have done some reading on threads and talked to people about gender dissapointment.

its not so much that i would be upset for having another boy. its just the loss of never having a daughter!!:goodvibes:

if it feels right then go for it!! maybe talk to DH not about TTC just about letting it happen.

all the best:goodvibes:

[BabelFish]

Are things going better for you now then Jenna? That's great to hear :)

[mummyjac]

If you are not quite sure, then leave it a while longer, you are only 28, and still have lots of egg making time :D.