View Full Version : When will this end?
Ok, i'm almost at breaking point. Ist our rat dies, then we get our dog put down (yes they are "only" animals).......then after all the "issues" with my dad, his wife dies so i'm back in contact with him. I've got 2 uncles with cancer, one they think they have got all of, the other uncle has now lost all use of his legs so hasnt got long at all.
NOW i find out that my cousin has killed himself :banghead: I dont know how much more of this **** i can take. I'm so tense & stressed, have no patience with MJ, am snapping at everyone etc. I'm so close to just walking out with MJ & going away from eveyone & everything. I know DH doesnt mean to upset me more but he does constantly.
Have to go to dads wifes funeral on Monday (thank god i have MJ to take my mind off that & give me an excuse to leave).
Please, someone lie to me and tell me it'll all get better real soon. I cant handle any more bad news :gloomy:
oh hun, its not a lie things will get better soon.
Ive often been in a dark hole and feel like im not going to get out of it, but time after time I somehow manage to do so.
What you have been and still are going through is horrid.. i am so sorry :hugs:
I am sure it will only get better from here
Keep your chin up ( i know that sounds so lame but you have to try mainly for MJ)
I am sure one day you will look back at this time and wonder how you got through it... but you will have got through it !!
Hi RB, sorry to hear you're having such a horrible time :hugs: I wish I could look into the future and tell you you're in for a good run, but all I can say is I hope things do get better really soon.
don't know what else to say sorry, but I'll be thinking of you :hugs: :hugs:
Sorry To hear you are having such a rough trot atm..
Sending you out loads of ((hugs)) and hoping that things improve for you soon!!
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:hugs: poor you all these things happening all at once, must be sooo hard on you, hopefully things start to clear up soon...i think that with everything going on your coping really well :hugs: :hugs:
It will get better soon, I promise. Nothing good or bad lasts forever:hugs:
Thanks so much everyone. Just went & had a good cry in the bath. I'm just seriously not coping at the moment, but have to be strong for everyone else. I'm so sick of it! Everyone thinks i'm fine but i can honestly say i'm not. Thank god for bubhub. This is the only place I can admit that i'm not as strong as I lead everyone to believe. I cant appear weak. Stupid i know but i just cant break down in front of anybody, not even DH.
I really would love to just go away for a while, just MJ & myself. I can dream :rolleyes:
Wish i could offer some great advice but i cant all i can do is this :hugs:
I too wait for the day things will get better & we both know they will we just need patience ! ( whats that again :p )
Take care of yourself & remember to see you g.p if it all gets too hard !
Im always here if you need to talk :hugs:
I am really sorry to hear all that you are going through at the moment RB. Lean on those you have close to you if you can & talk about it as much as you need too. I really hope things improve for you soon. Keeping you in my thoughts
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Remember you can call me, text me, pm me, visit me ANYTIME!! I am always here for you.
i believe these things happen for a reason. we are tested to make us stronger. hang in there and soon things will get better. in the mean time feel free to cry as much as you need to. vent away on bubhub if you need to. try talking to your dh. (men are usually insensitive idiots but you need to tell them what is wrong for them to realise it)
:hugs: to you. i think you can never have enough of them :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:
Rainbowbrite - I don't need to lie, I can tell you things will get better - they have to! Have a listen to my past fews months, it has been so testing because in many ways they have been the best of my life (because Kade has arrived), but in every other way they have been soooo challenging. Here is a list of things I have dealt with in the past few months:
- Kade diagnosed with reflux
- Kade diagnosed with dairy intolerance
- One of my best friends Emily is diagnosed with cancer :gloomy:
- Kade gets a urinary tract infection and is hospitalised for three days
- While in hospital, we are recommended to a Mother Baby Unit (MBU) and so then go to that hospital for a week's stay
- At the MBU I am diagnosed with post natal depression
- Emily's husband calls and tells me she has been given 3 weeks to live
- Go home from MBU, have to leave Kade and fly up to Brisbane to be with Em
- Come home, Kade has a suspected hernia
- See paedatrician, turns out its a hydrocele (phew)
- 2 weeks after terminal diagnosis, Em passes away :crying:
- Day after Em passes, DH breaks his leg
- Have to go to Em's funeral without DH (who, 2 months later, is still on crutches!)
- At wake, have too much to drink and fall over and graze my forehead, hands and knees (please don't think I'm an alcoholic!)
Anyway, touch wood things have been getting better. Of course Emily's passing still hurts like crazy (she had just turned 27), but Kade's little issues seem to be under control, he is sleeping through the night and things are improving. MJ will get you through, Kade certainly has gotten me through. If I didn't have him I don't think I would get out of bed.
I know what you are going through lovely, so feel free to PM me anytime. Things will get better! :hugs:
:hugs: is all I can offer, it's hard when everything falls apart all at the same time. I thought the bad luck was only supposed to come in 3's?
Sounds like you got hit with a double dose I'll keep my :fingerscrossed: for you and send you all :hugs: x1,000,000
Oh RB - I'm so sorry that so many difficult things are happening at once.
:hugs: If I lived closed I would be delighted to give you a real hug, but this will have to do. :hugs:
I wish I could help more. I'm thinking of you.
RB - hope you are having a better day today. Things will get better - and we are all here to help in the meantime.:hugs:
I just wanted to give you a cyber hug RB :hugs:
I wish I could give you one in person, I hope things are a bit better for you today.
Just wanted to send you a great big HUG
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Remember: Everything turns out okay in the end, and if its not okay, then its not the end
Chin up, you'll great through this and we are all here for you!!! :hugs:
RB, :hugs: :hugs: from me too. Someone here in Bubhub land has a great signiture - It'll all be ok in the end, and if it's not ok, then it's not the end. :hugs: :hugs: You have to walk through the valley before you can stand upon the mountain.
Thanks so much everyone. I am feeling a little better. Going to dads wifes funeral on monday. Just got a call last night to say that my BIL's sister has early cervical cancer so has to have a hysterectomy :banghead: We are close to BIL's family, parents were friends for years. I'm SO SICK OF BAD NEWS!
But thanks for all the :hugs: I really need them atm.
OH RB..... :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:
I do hope you get some good news soon, but as everyone has said, all our shoulders are here for you to lean on in the meantime.
Just popping in to give you this:hugs: we need a "shoulder" emoticon.
I do hope the bad news stops soon.
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