Does anyone else worry about how they're going to cope?

[filmgirlgail]

HI

I'm having a bit of a downer day today and just don't know how I'm going to cope with 2 kids. DD is usually pretty easy to deal with, except for being a fussy eater, but today she has had a "naughty" day and with me being on a downer, it hasn't been the best day. I've just had to put her on the naughty step for spitting in my hair. When I have days like today I just wonder how I'm going to cope with 2 of them, knowing how much attention I've given DD since she was born. I guess I know I will cope, just as millions of women since time immemorial have, but on days like these I just can't see it.

I guess I just want to get this out. Thanks for listening.

[sunshine girls]

You're not alone dont worry, i worried all the time...plus random people telling me that "Oooo you're going to have your hands full" didn't exactly help....but its ALL GOOD, i think its great for them and just know that after a couple of weeks your first wont even remember what it was like when it was just them...you'll be fine good luck and try not to stress xxx

[CJJHRA]

I'll help you, I'll give you my 6 for two days, and see how you go.. (my kids are in ferral mode at the moment running about chasing each other yelling scraming, fighting and I am trying very hard to ignore it hence.. online here)

After having my lot for that long, I am sure you could cope with anything LOL ;)

[BJelly]

Totally, I think back to the early days of 1hr and sometimes marathon continuous BF's/comfort sucks/sleeps, and spending hours at a time (sometimes 6 hours straight) trying to get DD to go to sleep (off the breast). Also I tore really badly last time, so I was invalided for nearly 3 mths - I had to rest a lot, I couldn't pick up anything heavier than my newborn - so going out and picking up the stroller was out, I couldn't walk or stand for more than 10 mins for the first few weeks anyway. I'm sooo hoping things are easier this time round:fingerscrossed:

[Briswegian]

You just do in the end! My DS was 2.5 when bubs was born and I was REALLY big preggers and DH was away all the time and when he was home he was an extra burden and I also had step BIL staying and I just was having meltdowns left right and centre. But in the end you cope and when you have a good day you feel invincible and when you get to the end of the day with no time outs and no shouty voices and they are in bed asleep you KNOW that you can and the 'bad' days are just your wonderful children learning how to be themselves.

Oh, and a glass of wine at the end of the day and bub hub helps too:o

[blessedmummy]

i know excately what you mean! i have them days too... even though ive just got my two daughters, they do fight, winge, want attention, run around the house mad.. etc etc... i do sometimes want to tear my hair out.. but somehow i do make it! hope this helps in someway.. :fingerscrossed:

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[jessgray]

my ds is just starting to test the limits of what he can and cant do and i know it will get worse as he gets older lol :devil6: i sometimes wonder how i will go with 2 under 2. i can imagine myself holding ds2 while ds1 is running circles and climbing walls and the house is a mess but was clean before ds1 &2 got up lol and i will be standing there wondering why i got up to tidy the house lmao

[~Emmylou~]

I wonder about this every single day! You're definitely not alone ;)

DD is also just at the age where she is so incredibly busy, inquisitive and demanding. Some days I think I must've been crazy to get pregnant again on purpose :laughing:

We'll be ok - I surprised myself the first time at my ability to cope with chaos so I'm hoping for the same again. And same for you! :yes:

[FourAngelKisses]

Oh yeah......I'm worried about how I will get 2 kids ready for school when I have a toddler messing up the house and a newborn who will want feeding and changing.

I worry about how I am going to make dinner with a newborn and toddler (I did it years ago, but it's different now cause I'll have 4 kids, not 2).

I worry about how I'm going to get the older 3 to bed with a baby crying.

I worry about how DH will sleep after nightshift if I have a toddler having tanties and a baby crying.

But most of all, I worry about the washing getting done for 6 people. Yuck!!!

[jessgray]

i often wonder how my mum coped the first few years with me and my sister she had us 51 weeks apart (sister was born week before my 1st bday)
i use to remind my self if my mum could do it back then i can do it too :D

[mumma_jessy]

I'm noty gonna tell you it's a walk in the park, cause it's not. The first few weeks it's really hard to figure out how to juggle them both, but once your over that hump it's fine!

Sure you still have 'those days', where both of them drive you nuts or you get nothing done etc etc, but at the end of those days you don't feel any worse than when you had those days with just 1!

You'll be fine, and trust me when you see them playing together for the first time, or giving eachother cuddles it makes it all worthwile!