SMOKING around pregnant ladies and babies

[*Sparkles*]

I am currently 17 weeks PG and twice so far during this pregnancy I have been subjected to people smoking around me or even in my face. (I know there are many smokers out there and I am not intending to offend anyone with this thread).
However, am I the only one who thinks that smokers should go outside and not smoke around pregnant ladies and babies?
Do you think that some smokers are very inconsiderate about this?
If put in this situation, would you ask someone not to smoke around you?
Or if you are a smoker, how would you feel if a mum or mum-to-be asked you not to smoke near her or the baby?

[Foxy]

Yes, I would politely ask people not to kill my child.

Just wait until you have the baby, it get's even worse! We've had this little gem from DH's grandmother, "It's ok, I smoked around you when you were little and you turned out ok". :shame:

[Jem]

Im a smoker, and i wont smoke around babies & kids, and ppl that dont want me smoking near them :yes:

[MeeG]

i dont want to offend any one either ... but yes definatly some smokers are so rude.. eg: i was sitting at a bus stop one day that had 8 benches along it i sat on one side and a group of bogany girls came started smoking on the bench right next to me, i was having a bad day and snapped, i said excuse but do you mind?? i was sitting here first and dont appreciate u blowing smoke in my face, then they jus said something to me laughed and walked off, but yeh i cant stand it grrrrrrr:mad: makes megan ANGRY..... i have no problems telling my friends not to smoke around me, and no one NO one is smoking near my baby...

[MeeG]

Yes, I would politely ask people not to kill my child.



LOL sublty is always best :thumbsup:

[Bubble*Crazy]

I personally HATE smoking and I especially hate it when ppl smoke around pg woman & babies - but each to their own. I'm too shy though to actually ask someone not to smoke around my kids ... bad, huh? I just discretely move away.

Friends and family never smoke around our kids, as they know how much I HATE it!

What's also making me angry lately is when ppl stand outside the shopping centre having their fix before going inside etc and stand right outside the baby parking areas so when you get out of the car, there they are. :banghead:

Wish I had the guts to stand up for myself and the safety of my kids.

(DP's a smoker :banghead:, but NEVER smokes around the kids).

[~EmsMum~]

I dont think they should be smoking around pregnant woman and babies, I acutally had a girl sitting next to me the other day asking me if I mind if she lit one up, all I said was id prefer you not to, she said thats alright I understand went off and smoked somewhere else

[tegz_84]

i am 29 weeks preggers, I don't have a problem with people lighting up in front of me coz it is my problem to get up and move if i don't want to be around the smoke. Most people I know are smokers, including my finance and I was, until I fell pregnant, but I don't make them responsible 4 the health of my baby (except 4 my fiance), it is my responsibility - no one elses!!

[Niki]

my mum and dad never used to smoke around me wen i was pregnant

[*Sparkles*]

i am 29 weeks preggers, I don't have a problem with people lighting up in front of me coz it is my problem to get up and move if i don't want to be around the smoke. Most people I know are smokers, including my finance and I was, until I fell pregnant, but I don't make them responsible 4 the health of my baby (except 4 my fiance), it is my responsibility - no one elses!!

I see your point tegz and I agree to a certain extent as it can be just as easy to move away from the smoker/s

However, one of the situations I was in was at a friend's place and there were about 6 smokers there all puffing away inside the house around the dining table. My only option was to go outside myself (in the rain at night) or try to stand away from them (which I did) but there was no getting away from the smoke as it was everywhere.
In the end we left early. I have told my DH that I will not go back to that person's house again because of this.

[bronny-jane]

:o well im a pg smoker:eek:
i dont smoke near pg women or babies though, i'd feel like a tosser.
its bad enough im doing it to me and my bub, so i wouldnt subject someone else to my smoke:o

[Seekrit]

At the Sydney New Year thingie last year some blocke stood beside me with a fag out his mouth.
So I turned to him and nicely (hah) said.. "Mate.. I'm pregnant and you're making me sick."
:eek: he apoligised and put the smoke out. I wasn't expecting me to say anything - or for him to put it out!

[zenifa]

i am 29 weeks preggers, I don't have a problem with people lighting up in front of me coz it is my problem to get up and move if i don't want to be around the smoke. Most people I know are smokers, including my finance and I was, until I fell pregnant, but I don't make them responsible 4 the health of my baby (except 4 my fiance), it is my responsibility - no one elses!!

Although I don't agree with people smoking around pregnant women, babies and children..... I do have to agree with the above quote.

In the situation Hels described...... if I was unhappy or uncomfortable, I would just leave. I don't think we can always expect others to be considerate or expect them to change their behaviour......so just remove yourself from the situation wherever possible. To those who would politely say 'please stop killing my child' etc, well wouldn't logic dictate that by staying in the situation (ie standing with a bunch of smokers), its the mother who is responsible for putting the child into a situation of potential risk? Just a thought.

[EskimoMumma]

I am considerate of other people as a smoker myself. I would never smoke near other people unless i have asked them first, an d i would expect the same.

There are standards for everyone the only controversay i see is the inability for smokers and non smokers to reach a comprimise.

[~Danni~]

I hate when people smoke around me.... (but I also understand that in a public place there is nothing I can do....

What really bugs me is at our local shops the parents with pram parking is bout 1 meter from a door where poeple hang round and smoke (especially all the workers in there uniforms which I think looks trashy anyway) How do you get your baby or small child out of the car and avoid the clouds of smoke??? The fact that the parking is obviously for parents and children suggests to me they should prehaps find somwhere else to rot their lungs.....:mad:

[EskimoMumma]

You cant really..and its pretty bad at Werribee Plaza isnt it? Yes i smoke but somedays i dont and when its that day and i have to walk thru that with the kids in tow its sickening.

DS has this ability, of whenever we walk through a cloud of smokers, is pretty much saying loudly That smoking is disgusting and you could die :eek:


(I wish i knew where he got that from but hey maybe its a wake up call to some inconsiderate smokers..)

[~Danni~]

DS has this ability, of whenever we walk through a cloud of smokers, is pretty much saying loudly That smoking is disgusting and you could die :eek:


(I wish i knew where he got that from but hey maybe its a wake up call to some inconsiderate smokers..)


Thats funny as:laughing: I think I might teach DD that, wonder what all the smokers think???:D

[*Sparkles*]

Thanks for your comments, it's good to see that the majority of you agree with me. I notice that everyone who voted so far has voted for "NEVER" :thumbsup:

I think next time I am in that situation I will politely ask the smoker/s if they mind not smoking around me & bub or otherwise I will just leave.

[Lunar]

PPL use to smoke near me when I was pg with kailah and I would ask them to move away/ go outside/ whatever so it was not blowing in my direction. the smell use to make me....:barf: so it was move or get thrown up on.... needless to say I never had anyone refuse to move lol.

If I go to someone's house and they smoke inside (like the out-laws:rolleyes: ) I always ask them if they can smoke outside while we are there. I know it may sound rude asking someone to not do something they usually do in their OWN home, but if they invite us over and want to see my babies they have to respect that I would rather them not breathe in the poisonous toxins and come home coughing for the rest of the night.
If they don't like it then we leave and don't visit again, simple.

[SamanthaJane]

I'm always walking into a cloud of smoke whenever i go into my local shopping malls... drives me crazy! I hate the smell of it, and its not good for me or my baby... i dont see why its fair that i should have to put up with something that THEY, not ME, are choosing to do... :banghead:

Okay... sorry... vent over... :o

[LittleBoysRock]

I dont really know anybody who smokes but when I was 12 weeks preggers with DS we went to a party for a friend of my DH and everybody was smoking (not only tabacco either! :rolleyes: ) DH and I were the only non-smokers. I felt really uncomfortable so we left pretty quickly.

[Minke]

Im a smoker, and i wont smoke around babies & kids, and ppl that dont want me smoking near them :yes:

Same

[bronny-jane]

If I go to someone's house and they smoke inside (like the out-laws:rolleyes: ) I always ask them if they can smoke outside while we are there.

i do the same thing:thumbsup: , and if i go to someones house where they smoke inside and have children i go outside, it makes me shiver seeing kids running around in smoke, oh and i do tell them that i think its disgusting that they do it....i know a bit stupid coming from a smoker:rolleyes:

[Caz4alex]

Hi Girls

While i was in Germany for holidays i was so angry with the amount of people that smoke there. They're allowed to smoke anywhere including food places. I couldn't go anywhere without a smokey environment. All i could think about was my babies. I'm so against smoking and how people are so rude and just blow smoke in your faces. It's not like i would go up to a stranger and blow my breath at them.
Even on the plane coming home a lady couldn't get through 7 hours without a smoke and lit one. I woke up because i couldn't breath properly because it. The flight attentant came up to me and asked who was smoking and all i could do was tell them that the person behind me smokes and the old lady in the middle. I looked at the old lady and it was her and told the flight attentant.
I mean if a person wants to smoke than let them but they need to respect others that aren't. I always wonder how much none smokes have been exposed to smoke.


Carrie

[Ana Gram]

If you really have a problem with people smoking outside the building at shopping centres, which if you read the rules that is where they are supposed to smoke - COMPLAIN to centre management. They are the ones who have set that area up for people to smoke.

[Leez]

I'm a smoker too and I have to say it freaks me out to read the posts that people have smoke blown in their faces - I wouldn't smoke within co-ee of ANYONE - its too embarrassing and you don't enjoy it anyway. I only smoke on my verandah in my special chair where I can relax and I'm not affecting anyone.

[Tarnya]

I'm a smoker and I will cross the road before I smoke near someone else or their child, smoking near my kids is my choice but I will not make that choice for someone else:shame:

[Alatariel]

i voted NEVER, but think that its also up to the pregnant woman to avoid areas that are going to have smokers. i work in a pub and the amount of pregnant ladies, or people with bubs who just sit around in the smoke is amazing! not to mention worrying...