Mums and mums of blended/step families - i need your opinion/advice :(

[Hopefullyamumma]

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[laja]

i have no advice sorry but wanted 2 give u lots of :hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs: u n ur DP seem 2 b doing a great job and i dont think u have done anything wrong have u maybe spoken 2 her about getting DP name on the birth cert would he like 2 be on it? it seems 2 me that u guys love him very much and she is just being spiteful so lots of :hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs: and i hope things get better

[sweetseven]

:hugs: That sounds like a very difficult situation.

It seems to me that your options are:
a) give up to remove the stress from your life.
b) continue as you are to offer as much as you can to him and work with his mother as much as she will allow.
c) seek legal advice about trying for custody, or formally specified contact. This would likely be very expensive and I would suspect that a judge would not want to separate him from his brother and that would make your case for custody more difficult.

Note: The above is merely my thoughts and I have no legal knowlege in this area.

[baby makes four]

Hi, I couldn't read this and not post! While I have no useful advice to give I just wanted to give you some of these :hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:

Even though we are a blended family (I am Ds's bio mum and my partner is his step daddy) we have always encouraged a relationship between Ds and his bio daddy as I think that personal feelings should be put aside (easier said than done i know!) for the benefit of the child.

I do everything in my power (including travelling 3000 kms pregnant lol) so that DS and his dad can have time together and would be so excited if he lived close by.

I applaud you for all that you do and hopefully this woman wakes up to herself a bit.

I will say that I can kinda understand where she is coming from with the photos on facebook though, as it would make me feel very uncomfortable if DS's dad did that without talking to me about it first. but that might just be cos i'm a control freak :o

Anyways good luck with your situation, I hope you get some good advice and things improve!

[Ruby Sneakers]

Big hugs I cant imagine how frustrating it would be for u!!!

I have had no experince in this and these are purely my thoughts but I assume if u took the court route to get a custody agreement in place there will probably have to be a paternity test as ur dp isn't on the b/c but at least u may get a bit more visitation.... But then would also be liable for more child support (I assume) but I'm sure that would be all worth while to have more time together....

Best wishes with it all hun and I hope it improves for u soon xox

[TurnedBatty]

:hugs: Sounds like your step-son is lucky to have you.

My ss's mum is very frustrating too, and I know what you mean, I could never just turn my back on him despite her crap.

I would go to court if you have to, or even back to mediation. Try to get a parenting plan in place, because without one things may very well continue the same way.