Please do not judge this part of the forum...supportive posts only!

[FluffyDucks]

My one greatest fear in starting this section of the forum is that there may be people with certain opinions who feel the need to espouse them here where these opinions may not be supportive to the posters.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion and I support the rights of all individuals to have those opinions however I ask that we are respected here as this is somewhere where we can share our thoughts, feelings and experiences with people that have been in similar situations.

Please respect our right to do so and refrain from making any negative or demeaning comments on this forum.

I can assure you that we have been harder on ourselves then anyone else can ever be.

Thank you

PS....Mods is it possible to make this a sticky?

[SorenLorensen]

:hugs:
i hope this area helps you all and everyone is able to come together and give you all the support that you need :hugs:

[1CrazyMoose]

Michelle I applaud you for setting this thread up. I thankfully have not had to be in the position to terminate. But i am sure it takes alot of guts and many tears etc to go through with it. There are so many elements in why someone decides termination is needed. NO one has the right to judge. I definately don't. I just want to give all those that have been in the horrible situation a HUGE hug!!! Xx best of luck for what the future holds :-)

[brogeybear]

Just wanted to send u all some hugs and let u know that I sincerely hope this section serves its purpose and stays supportive.

[SassyMummy]

It's definitely a good idea to have this forum, and it's great that you organised to have it made OP.

Hopefully, the members of the forum are compassionate enough to realise that this is not the place to be giving their opinions or debating ethics. I'm sure the mods will remove any posts that are negative anyway, but sometimes that can take a while, and by then, the damage can already be done.

As I said though, anyone with any sort of decency will understand that this is not the place for their opinions.

[BelMia]

I feel the same as Mitake, the fear of people finding out what really happened to DD scares me so much, how would they feel about me, treat me. Would they judge me or think i was brave to make the decision I made :(

[xkwzit]

Consider it stuck :)

And remember, you can report any post that doesn't belong in this section (little red triangle at the top of every post). It sends a post to the mods, just explain why you think the reported post needs moderation.

Cheers

[xkwzit]

I think we can restore your faith in humanity Mitake :D

[kar]

Oh gen. It makes me so sad you feel like this. You made the best decision you could for your beautiful girl. your advice today has helped me so much xxx

[faroutbrusselsprout]

I understand:hugs:

I feel like such a liar. I told close friends and immediate family the 'truth' but the wider population I lie too. Feels horrible and makes my heart hurt everytime I do it. I tell them DD was stillborn, that her heart stopped and I had to be induced. Awww makes me cry to think about my big fat lies.

Self protection is my reason, too sh!t scared that someone will make me feel worse than i already feel:(

Personally I think you are brave as it's the most heartwrenching decision any mother could have to make:hugs:


:hugs:
we can be big fat liars together.
We owe no one an explanantion.
We did what we thought was the right thing for us.
:hugs:

[BigRedV]

I don't feel any guilt, but I feel like people think I should feel bad about it. What I hate is being forced into making a decision that no mother should ever have to. A mother's worst nightmare. My twins would've endured a miserable, painful life. I love my twins, and and I am certain they are in a much better place now than this cruel world.

I have a box with their tiny clothes and photos and I look at it often.

I think what I am scared of the most is the day I have to tell my children they have sisters and why they aren't here :(

[faroutbrusselsprout]

Hope it wasn't too OTT, was glad to help. Don't feel sad for me I'm just having a sooky la la night :(




True, i rememebr chatting about your little girl with you, eeek years ago now. I even remember her name. It stuck in my mind. Not sure if you do, I can't even think of a thread it came up in that we both posted in:confused:

You have a great memory! I can't remember which post it was in either.. !


I don't feel any guilt, but I feel like people think I should feel bad about it. What I hate is being forced into making a decision that no mother should ever have to. A mother's worst nightmare. My twins would've endured a miserable, painful life. I love my twins, and and I am certain they are in a much better place now than this cruel world.

I have a box with their tiny clothes and photos and I look at it often.

I think what I am scared of the most is the day I have to tell my children they have sisters and why they aren't here :(

Massive hugs :hugs::hugs::hugs:
x

[kar]

Not ott at all. Jet really helpful to have an insiders view on how to better help my friend.
Ladies, I just find it totally abhorrent that anyone could criticize you for making the hardest decisions of your lives. And that you feel somehow ashamed. :(

[NewMamma]

I just wanted to post to say my heart goes out to you all. Xx

[Teesh]

I just wanted to say THANK YOU for starting this support thread. I sadly let my twins go Oct 09 it was the most heartbreaking devastating decision to ever have to make my heart aches with sadness every time I think about it and still can't believe I never got to meet my twin boys. When I had the 18wk scan I never expected to get told the horrible news that both twins were missing apart of the brain and with that other serious complications, My 2 other children and husband were with me when the Dr gave us the news just after we found out we were having boys. R.I.P Izaak and Jay always in our hearts and sadly missed every day

[Alison Campbell Rate]

support for women and men grieving after termination can be found at www.opendoors.com.au (http://www.opendoors.com.au). It can help to talk to someone who isn't involved so you can express all that you feel.

[Manda M]

Hi Teesh, I am sorry to hear of your loss. This is the first time i have ever posted anything like this on any site and it's been 9 years since i had to make the decision to let my baby go. I too found out at my 20 weeks scan that my boy was missing a part of his brain. The unfortunate part was that this dragged on for many weeks as i underwent test after test until they told me i was too far to do anything in NSW due to laws. My partner and i ended up driving ot Melbourne where we were looked after by a special clinic. My heart goes out to you, there is not a day that goes by that i dont think about the what if... I am now 33 weeks pregnant with a little girl. All tests have come back clear. Just wanted to say hang in there, you made the right decision.

[Teesh]

Thank you Manda M for sharing your story I to had to go to Melbourne from Qld then 12months later after seeing a genetic Dr at a major Hos here in qld they said they would of helped me I was so sad to here that after the traumatic trip to Melbourne, Im glad you are having a healthy little girl all the best xxx