I miss Daddy too...

[Atkogirl85]

I'm a mum, not some kind of emotionless slave robot like my family seems to think.

Since February 1st my DH has been working FiFO on the mines, leaving me at home with our DD4 and DS1. He is away for 4 weeks and home for one, which means that I have only seen him for 6 weeks in the last 7 months and right now I kind of want to snap.

I know I'm being silly as the job has enabled us to buy our dream house... Once we sell the one we are in.

Five weeks of cleaning, inspections, home opens, replacing and painting gutters, gardening painting eave etc etc all with two kids who miss their dad has left me exhausted.

I know it seems so whingy but I just needed to vent somewhere. Unfortunately my IL's have the opinion that I need to get over it and needing sleep makes me weak, my mum just spent 6 months beating breast cancer and I can't worry her, and if I vent to DH it makes it harder for him to be away. :(

Sorry it was so long...

[QTB]

i know the feeling :hugs:

my DH isnt away as much as yours... 6days on 1day off, 6days on 2 days off then repeat.

but we have a 4yo, 2yo and 12wk old... its not easy. the kids miss him, i miss him, but we have to do it to get ahead :(

just wanted to let you know your not alone

[Atkogirl85]

Thanks, when the kids are crying for their dadddy sometimes it's hard not to just sit down and join in lol.
I can't wait until DH gets a job with a shorter roster... :)

[Thermolicious]

I commend you for doing that kind of roster :hugs: I hope you find the support you need it must be very tough :(

[HART]

WOW getting a house ready to sell and all the home opens AND looking after two little ones on your own - You are a SUPERMUM!!!!! Of course you need sleep... you must be exhausted!

Fingers crossed your house sells soon and that your DP gets a better roster soon. Mine has just done 5 weeks straight (usually 2 away one home) and I found it hard enough without the added pressure of selling a house.. :hugs::hugs:

[Atkogirl85]

Open house tommorow, so fingers crossed... We have been lucky that the owners of the house we are buying let us put it under offer and they will wait as long as it takes for us to sell so I don't have to worry about someone else trying to buy it, but the waiting is as exhausting mentally and the physical work.

[Cromo]

Know how all you ladies feel.
Although my DH is on 2 weeks on 1 week off. It's still hard.
DH, DD, myself and soon to be DS are living with my mum at the moment (Not for too much longer!!:hair: though) and we miss DH when he's away. Mum thinks its ok because we have her and her support around us, but she isn't my husband and the kids father.

A BIG hug to all you ladies out there :hugs:

[kas3]

Your ILs sound very unsympathetic. Is there anyone else who could give you a bit of a break?? Needing sleep does not make you weak, it makes you human!

[Atkogirl85]

The IL's have always been that way, when I got Glandular Fever 6 weeks after my DD was born they decided it was all in my head despite seeing 3 doctors and seeing the blood test results lol

I placed an add last week and have organized to hire someone for a few hours a couple of times a week to watch the kid here in the day while I catch up on house work. But with dad gone and the trauma of packing DD4 won't go anywhere with anyone without me by her side. :(

[pinkprincess_84]

I know how you feel, DH and I are in the same situation, except we are in the process of building, so instead of cleaning and fixing our old house i am dealing with finance companies and builders. On top of that i have to DD's one hypo 3 yo, and a 16 weeker! Its tough, especially at the end of the day when all the kids are asleep and you have no one to unwind with. It is a hard life and until you live it you wont understand. I feel your frustration! If you want to chat just PM me.

xx:hugs:

[kas3]

They sounds like jerks :(

[Roselynda]

Hi Guys,

it is so nice to finally read that someone else out there is feeling the same and i am not the only one. my hubby is away for 6wks and home for 1-2weeks. it is so exhausting trying to fill all the gaps. our daughter is 20mths.

i am in melbourne and would love for our daughter to have more playdates and coffees for me.

[Atkogirl85]

Bah, it's early in the am and DD has me up :(
There is still a week till DH gets home and unfortunately still no buyers on the home front. My agent is taking the weekend off so I thought I would get this weekend off but I got phone call yesterday and someone wants to come through today. Bah!
To make things worse our offer on the house we planned to buy expires on Monday and the owners have suddenly decided to take the house of the market and stay there instead of waiting for us like they planned! So no I have to start house hunting again!
My baby sitter quit and my roof is still leaking and I am quickly running out of silver lining :(
I know it will all work out but it does make menfeel better knowing you ladies get what I'm feelng right now :)
I'm thinking I should just start cleaning now lol and I hope your all doing well :)

[Timestwo]

You poor thing. I can totally sympathise. My DH just finished a 4 and 1 roster that he had been doing all year to move to a 2 and 1 roster. The 4/1 was just so hard and exhausting and the 1 week at home always went too fast.
Have you got plans in place, like an end date to FIFO or something in the future to focus on/look forward to after the house stuff is completely.

[Atkogirl85]

Lol our future is a long way off. After we move we will continue saving until the kids are in full time school (4 more years) and buy a couple of rental properties.
We bought our first home when we were both 19, first child at 21, second at 23. So we figure we have already made so many sacrifices that we may as well go all out and set ourselves up in a position to enjoy life when our kids are grown.
Two on one would be sooooo lovely though, I know what you mean about the week going too fast!
I'm glad for you Timestwo though to at last get that chance after four on ones, I'm jealous :)

[Timestwo]

It sounds like you have some good plans in place. While its hard now, the hard work will pay off for you in the long run!

2/1 is lovely I must admit. We were resi for 5 years which has been great in getting started in life but I wanted to come home to be near family and he has been doing FIFO while he looked for local work. DH skills are more mine based though so we are going back to resi in the next few months so I have resigned myself to the fact that we will probably live remote forever now.
If you ever get lonely, feel free to contact me, Im probably feeling the same!

[moet70]

Hi Ladies

I am 40 and 24 weeks with my first! It's a boy..Sam, Ha how organised am I?

I was single for a long time before I met my partner who works in the mines last year. It was the perfect relationship! one week on one week off, so I got my space still which I was used to. I work long hours in a professional job, and travel a lot, so it really suited me.....

Until now...LOL, I am starting to worry about how I am going to cope with a new born on my own...much like a single mum I guess, I don't have any family close but the IL's are very supportive.

Anyway I am here if anyone wants to vent....better out than in I say ..

[Cromo]

You do feel like a single mum. If you have the support of great friends and family it makes it a bit easier