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DaughteroftheForest
19-08-2010, 23:30
Okay,
DP and I are currently thinking about trying for a third. My AF is late and I've had spotting so may already be UTD, which was certainly not on the cards for us but now we've discussed what another baby would mean to us I just can't get the idea out of my head.

I've heard somewhere that it's a bigger leap from one child to two than it is from two to three. Is this true in anyone's experience?

I have a 6 month old DD who is just bliss. She's such a happy, placid, social baby. She feeds well, sleeps well and is generally everything that people dream their baby will be like :cloud9:

I also have a 5 year old DS, who has just started school and is doing really well. He has a different father to DD and spends two nights a week at his dad's place. in the past this has been a bit rocky but the last several months things have been smooth sailing in that department so :fingerscrossed:

I've had two healthy pregnancies and two healthy babies :smiliedance:

DP and I have recently been through a VERY rough patch and were actually broken up for the last few months. He's a dope smoker and this has bothered me for many reasons. Recently he has given up and is doing really well. i can see how hard he is trying and he's communicating with me about it and i feel safe enough to have faith that there is a light at the end of that tunnel :goodvibes:

We do have a alot amount of family support. We live around the corner from MIL, who adores the kids and babysits at least once a week for us. We have dinner at her place at least once a week also. DP little sister also comes over quite regularly and takes DS out to the park, shops, etc. DP's older sister drops in about once a week for a chat and a cuddle and occasionally takes the kids. My Mum has a house by the beach that her and her husband stay at on weekends and we often take the kids down there and she'll watch them for me when I'm there. My Dad is also around a lot and is very involved with the kids, takes DS to swimming lessons, trips to the market, etc.
We also have my older brother renting a room from us and he's awesome with the kids, he's DD's Godfather and is just the most unobtrusive, easy going guy. And to top that off, DD also has the most doting, intelligent, supportive Godmother :p (Hi Mimi Grace!!)

So Family support is not an issue.

We rent a 5 bedroom house in a good area. Our landlords are great. We have a very long term agreement here and have no plans to move in the near - mid distant future.

DP is going to start study asap so he will be around to help out with the kids once the horrible early pregnancy exhaustion hits.

He really wants a boy and I must say I'd love another, but would be happy with either.

Just interested in anyone's experience with #3. Also, if I got pregnant now there would be a 16 month age gap between DD and baby. Any thoughts there?

Thanks! :flowerz:

HunterzMummy
24-08-2010, 23:52
I can't comment on the 16 month age gap as I have a 3 yr gap between my first an the twins. I would say wait atleast another 6 months and focus on ur and DP relationship . If you were only broken up a few months ago then I would be making sure he proves himself first. There is no rush ESP if u guys are trying to work through things, another baby isn't gonna fix it just make it more complicated if there is another baby in the mix. another thought is what if bib number 3 is not a dream has reflux or colic (heven for bid) that would put tremendous strain on even the most healthiest relationships.but ultimately it's up to you, but that's just my thoughts on it :p good luck xo

kas3
25-08-2010, 02:27
I agree with HM. I think you need to give your relationship a little more time to settle in. It's great that your DP is doing so well, but an extra six months before TCC will really help cement the positive changes you've been making. That said, with all that great support, if you ARE pregnant with no.3, I'm sure you will do fine. I just think it wouldn't hurt to wait a little longer before you add a (potentially) stressful element (pregnancy I mean lol) to the situation.