Should i have more?

[javalava]

Ok im not sure if i need advice or just to get this out....

Ive been thinking about if we should have any more kids. I have a few pros and cons running through my head and i cant make up my mind. I thought id just let it out here and maybe somethign will come to me. Plus you guys will all make a comment and it might help me to decide.

I absolutely adore my kids. Yes they are challenging at times and sometimes i think have i done the right thing having kids? Am i a bad mother? Im sure we all go through that sometimes. But the love they bring to this house, to me, to my DP to our families, it all makes it worth it. Ive never expereinced a love like this and dont want it to end. They way my DS tells me he loves me out of nowhere (in the middle of jeans west!!) and how my baby girl is such a happy beautiful baby and smiles at us countless times in the day. I just love that something that my DP and i created, somthing that wasnt here before we met, can bring us such wonderful forfilling unconditional love and happiness. Everything these little people do is amazing and im constantly thanking the higher beings for our little angels we have here on earth.

I want to have more kids, for the fact that they do bring so much love. But i think, can we afford it? Is having more kids going to hurt the ones we have by not being able to provide enough for them once the other babies are here? Is it wrong to want more babies? Is it being selfish? I mean should i be just focusing on the ones we have now?

My mind is so confused on this subject. I really want more kids but the realistic side of me says i shouldnt.

What do you all think? i need a bit of guideance, although i know you cant make up my mind for me or tell me whats right or wrong i just want an opinion. Thanks for reading.

[Lozie]

:wave:I think if u want more u should go for it, but consider how old ur youngest is and if ur really to be pregnant again.
my 2 are very close together 12 months and i thought we were ready for another but i was wrong i misscarried last thursday week and we decided we arent ready for 1 more yet we want a big family 6 at least!:D but u have to rememeber u and ur dh have the rest of ur lives together and realistically u probably have another 20 years or so of good fertitily so why rush.

Do it when ur ready and have fun along the way;)
hope i had good advice for ya!

[javalava]

Yeah im in no rush. I mean i want them but not right now. But i mean in general should i have more. Like ever? LOL

[Niki]

But i think, can we afford it?

have u looked into weather you will be able to get more from centrelink wen u do have another child


Is having more kids going to hurt the ones we have by not being able to provide enough for them once the other babies are here?

i dont think it will, just more ppl to play with


Is it wrong to want more babies? Is it being selfish?
mean should i be just focusing on the ones we have now?

it is in no way selfish, there is nothing wrong with wanting more kids

only u know wats best for you and your family wat does your dp think about it all?

[javalava]

he would probably have one more... But any after that im not sure. I guess we will see as time progresses.

The other thing is housing them all? I mean DS is use to having his own room now, it would be mean to put a girl in there with him. I dont want that for the kids.

[Mummy-2-2]

If you want another baby, have one. Dont let finances stop you cos realistically there are probably people worse off than you and with more kids.

You have had previous kids, recycle their clothes, breastfeeding a baby costs nothing, public schooling costs nothing, and too be honest boy/girl wont matter at this age and when they get older you can put the new baby in with the same sex older sibling.

All that matters is whether you can cope and if you can and if you want to, go for it!

[sugar n spice]

I dont know what your finances are like but it wasnt something i even considered when we started thinking about anotehr. Only you know wether you and your family will be able to cope financially though i think you would more than likely find a way and adapt.

Your kids wont mind another they may be jelous at first but it one more playmate for them

Depending on the sex of the child just get the same sex to share. i always keep the baby in my room for the first 6 wks and i know a baby could possibly wake the older sibling sharing a room but my two boys share not because they have to but they chose to and they love it, surprisngly they dont wake eachother up.

You sound like you really want another one i think it really just comes down to when your ready and wether you think you and dp can cope with a 3rd

[javalava]

Well the posts say i should thats for sure lol. Right now DS is playing up and DD wont stop crying..... Do i really want more?? haha

[spiritedfamily]

I always say follow your heart and not your bank account...money is paper, children are a witness of you and hubby's love. If you believe they are little angels, then they must have come from heaven and God will provide for the little ones he places in your care:hugs:

Good luck:thumbsup: