Hypermesis and a wedding

[RmumR]

So DF and i are getting married on sept 24th and i am freaking out that i am going to have an awful time because i am still so sick and i have pretty much given up any thought that i will feel better by then

to be totally honest if i had of had any inkling that i would be this horrendously sick this pregnancy i would definently have post-poned the wedding for sure.

even when i was sending out the invites 2mths ago i was still assuming i would be totally over the sick part by now so had no hesitation in sending them.

here i am with less than 6wks to go stressing how the hell i am meant to get through my wedding day let alone the reception that night and knowing that i have no choice but to struggle through as we'd loose too much money at this stage.

i sure as h3ll hope that i get a good nights sleep the night before cause i will be getting hair and make up from 9am and the reception goes till midnight so thats a super long day for anyone let alone someone feeling like i do.

not sure why i am posting this more of a getting it out than expecting solutions i guess

[Myztiks#1Fan]

you still got MS bad do you?

cant believe its only a little over a month til you get married. cant wait to see the pics.

if you cant manage the entire reception, leave early. i am sure people would understand as i know i would be understanding of it :hugs:

[Areca]

:hugs: I don't know how you are going to do it. Let other people run around for you so you are resting as much as possible in the morning. Perhaps be prepared to change things around too where possible so it suits you better.
I got married when I was 18 weeks pg with DD2. My morning was relaxing, but by 10pm I was exhausted and just wanted to go home so I think realistically you should be prepared to leave before midnight.
Hopefully your meds work for you that day :hugs:

[Leisa21]

I got married at 19 weeks with severe HG and we left at 10pm. It was a lovely wedding and there was so much on that I wasn't too bad. I did leave early but no one cared as they partied on after while DH and I snuggled by a fire in a big bed :bee:

I hope you feel better :hugs: it's really tough, I was lucky because mine started easing a dew days before hand and I was only throwing up all morning not all day.

[mandypiee]

Have you tried Zofran? It's pretty much the only drug that works for me!! I hope you get through the day.. Best of luck to you

[RmumR]

yeah i have zofran coming out my ears but still vomit at least a dozen times a day when taking it ...compared to 20times when not.
Think i will talk to DF about the possibility of leaving the reception early if i want.
Luckily my parents are staying all weekend after the wedding so we don't need to rush home to DD - can pretty much bet that i will sleep the whole of the following day.

[futureherder]

I think planning is your best option and making sure you are well hydrated and feed in the days before.

Plan to have rest points during the day...ask your bridal party to support you in this and make sure there is someone there for you that can clear up all the issues you may worry about.

Always have spews bags to avoid accidents and lots of back up make up. I hope you wont have to use any of them :fingerscrossed:

Talk to the celebrant about the situation and maybe shorten the ceremony etc so you are not standing for long etc. if you are really worried about :barf:maybe think about a signal for your celebrant/DF/photgrapher/MOH and BM.

You dont even have to go to the reception if you dont want to (although I am sure you do) seriously it is your wedding. Try to organise with the MC to get the cake cutting, speeches and first dance over and done with...so that you can just sit down and relax and stay for a long or for a little as you want :)

This day is about you and DP so make it about the two of you and have a blast...

and I am sure it will be a great story to tell your little bubba on his or her wedding day!

[Sheer Bliss]

:hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:

Can you talk to your OB (and work out if you are comfortable with this too) about taking a sleeping pill the night before the wedding to ensure you get a good nights sleep? I always found that a good sleep helped set-me up for a 'better' day. There are ones that are gentle enough to take when pregnant, I had one the night before I delivered DS1 as I was being induced and things weren't going well with him, so they wanted me to be well rested. I also had them a few times with the twins too, when I was on a drip and REALLY needing to rest. Make sure you get 2 though - and have a 'test run' just to make sure there are no yukky side effects. I woke up fine, not feeling drugged or anything, but we all react differently, so make sure you do a practise run if you are comfortable taking the tablets.

Have you tried acupuncture? I have heard (only had one appt myself right at the start) that it really only helps if you have 2 appts a week......so maybe next week have 2appts, see if it helps, then the week of the wedding have another 2 appts??

Are you starting to get heartburn badly too? With the twins it was horrid and made the hyperemesis worse as everything felt so close to the top in terms of :barf:, sorry for being gross, but you probably know what I mean :o. I ended up taking the 24hr zantac daily for the last 4weeks. Talk to your OB to be sure, but mine was the one who suggested it. It takes about an hour or so to be really effective, so maybe take it first thing OR maybe an hour before the ceremony?

Have you taken berocca or vitamin B tablets? Again talk to your OB because there have been mixed reports on it - but it made me feel SOOO much nicer. Be warned though, if you have the tropical one - your pee will be fluro yellow!

Can you up your zofran dose for the day (and maybe the day before?) I was on 8mg every 8hrs when in hospy - so although expensive - might be worth it for the day.

Mango smoothies from boost juice at Kotara, and KFC wicked wings! NO idea WHY they worked, but OMG they were heaven with the twins. :D :o

Sorry for suggesting so many drug options - But I know from being there, that sometimes they can be your best friend.

Oh, and do you have foods that you can eat and make you feel better for at least a second or 2? Can you have your mum or bridesmaid be in charge of a little esky just for you? That way all day they can make sure they give you little amounts every half hour or so (set an alarm on a mobile or something), as you will most likely forget to eat and drink, and if you let yourself get dehydrated, you will feel worse.

One more thing - terribly naughty, and it is not likely that you will get anyone to do it - but can you be put on a drip for 4-8hrs or something the day before? I always felt better when the drip was in (when there is ketones in your urine it means your body is breaking down stuff to give you energy, and this causes more toxins to make you sick - same as a hangover - they prob told you this). And the day AFTER I got home from hospital was always easier than other days.
:fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed: something magicall happens and you wake up feeling better tomorrow. I'd take the baby and sickness for a day for you if I could......(don't you WISH it worked that way?)

[Sheer Bliss]

Oh, as for spew bags - have you got any of the plastic bags attached to a ring? I got one from a GP when pregnant - it's a plastic ring thing you put over your mouth, with a long bag attached - no splashbacks, and it folds up really discreetly! Make sure a bridesmaid has the essential 'spew pack' ready for you - multiple puke bags, tissues, wipes, fresh lippy, powder (I used to sweat when puking - yuk!) mints, water and a mini spray bottle with perfume (although the smell of perfume made me feel worse) or something calming like peppermint diffused in water or a soft citrus - sweet orange essential oil maybe?

[RmumR]

ok so super glad i posted this thread now after all the helpful suggestions.
futurehearder - will def make sure i arrange the reception so that everything official is out of the way early, great idea. that way i can just sit back and everyone can come to me to chat rather than me doing the rounds and if i happen to feel horrendous we can leave knowing that we have all the special moments taken care of.

Sheer Bliss - some great ideas in there will be jotting a few down to speak to my Gp with
I'm doing GP shared care so no Ob which i am kinda regretting at this point, my GP is great but i am really wishing i went with an OB now with being so sick etc but it's prob way too late now at 26wks

IV is a great idea i wonder if it could somehow be arranged, may be a possibility as one of DF's friends who is coming for the wedding is an ER doctor so if i can't sort if out with the GP i may see if he can help.
Sleeping tablets the night before also a great idea will def be asking for a script for a couple that way i can go to bed super early the night before and be ensured of a full nights rest
I am totally loving boost juice passion mango smoothies, i was slightly devestated the other week when the boost at kotara closed for a week of renovations!
Heartburn comes and goes but hasn't been a constant problem yet but may get some zantac to have in the cupboard just in case.
Have a couple of those spew bags with the plastic neck part so will have them handy for sure.
Looks like i should make a list of my wedding day essentials - lol they will never fit into a cute handbag more like a huge shopping bag!

Thanks for the suggestions ladies much appreciated

[Benji]

Just wanted to say best of luck :goodvibes: I'm so looking forward to hearing about it, I hope it's a beautiful day for you. You deserve this so much :hugs:

[RmumR]

Just wanted to say best of luck :goodvibes: I'm so looking forward to hearing about it, I hope it's a beautiful day for you. You deserve this so much :hugs:

Thanks hun, i luffs you too:hugs: